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Louise49

Member since
January 2021

494 posts

Posted Mon January 29, 2024 12:21pmReport post

It's been 3 years since the knock and next week my partner has his sentence hearing ( if it doesn't get relisted again). I'm not coping well today. My anxiety is sky high and all I'm thinking about is he will get a custodial. He is charged with possession of iioc all categories but mostly cat c. The 3 years of waiting has been horrible, I chose to stay with my partner but this has changed me. I'm full of anxiety and have no hope. All I think about is prison and media. The waiting is just awful isn't it

Inturmoil1974

Member since
November 2022

279 posts

Posted Mon January 29, 2024 2:42pmReport post

I am at the same stage as you we are sentencing in February lack of sleep mind on overdrive, has me in a very dark place everyone keeps saying custodial won't happen for the amount of images found but I am still so scared, I chose to stay also once it was proven it was not searched for and it was a click on a link on kik, yes he has porn addiction which we have been dealing with and thankfully he hasn't looked at it since and is supporting others in a similar situation.

Louise49

Member since
January 2021

494 posts

Posted Mon January 29, 2024 3:01pmReport post

Inturmoil, night time is the worst isn't it! I wake up in the early hours and my anxiety is in overdrive!. I'm really hoping he will get a suspended sentence. What with the prison overcrowding situation hopefully that goes in his favour. I don't k it what I will do if it is custodial. I work but nowhere near enough money to cover the mortgage and all the bills

Inturmoil1974

Member since
November 2022

279 posts

Posted Mon January 29, 2024 3:20pmReport post

Just a full night sleep is what I need, financially we would cope but only just, but I fear for his mental health if it ends in custodial

sn101010

Member since
January 2024

24 posts

Posted Mon January 29, 2024 3:51pmReport post

Sending hugs... xx

Ocean

Member since
September 2023

771 posts

Posted Mon January 29, 2024 7:54pmReport post

Hi Louise and Inturmoil, I don't have any great words of comfort but I wanted to let you know I hear you and know how you feel. Those days and weeks leading up to sentencing are awful as we have absolutely no control over the outcome. I'm here for you, walking along side you and sending you love and support.

Bettyboo65

Member since
June 2022

339 posts

Posted Tue January 30, 2024 1:42pmReport post

Hi Louise, gosh it's come around quickly hasn't it, you're in my thoughts and hoping for the best possible outcome. Big hugs xxx