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Poppop

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September 2023

69 posts

Posted Wed January 31, 2024 9:20amReport post

Scared of the future

Hi your have to bear with me

It's just a shocked to the system, finding myself writing about son on these form



My son open the door in September 2023 ago to vilantes, he couldn't close the door as they put there foot in door



He was on bail for 3 months,know on rui with no bail conditions

Not yet been charged

He didn't have to go back to police station, he just had a txt,saying no need to attend police station, we are putting you on RUI



Due it being video and posted all over Facebook

He lost his home, friends and job any may be his wife



I am not sure of all the details as he want tell me much,

All I know he been talking to a vigilantes decoy

He arranged to meet and sent one picture of his private part

At one pont he stopped talking and they encouraged him to start chatting again



He just had a assessment for autsim

Waiting the results



It's just the all unknowing what will happen in the future

That really makes me feel sick,can't get on with normal life



What I can't understand he can be on rui with no bail conditions, then suddenly when charged be back on bail conditions.

It does not make sense

Life feels over

Member since
September 2022

412 posts

Posted Wed January 31, 2024 11:32amReport post

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Edited Wed January 31, 2024 9:34pm

Smile through tears

Member since
September 2021

2554 posts

Posted Wed January 31, 2024 12:41pmReport post

Hi my lovely....

I'm so sorry how you've had to join us on this forum but you've come to the right place for understanding.

Thankfully and touch wood we've had no experience of vigilantees but I know a few ladies on here have and I'm sure they'd pass on their wisdom and advice.

It is an extremely painful journey, one that you never really think about until it happens in your family. My world was blasted apart when we found out about my sons secret world. It's so painful isn't it....

just sending you an understanding hug...... we are here for you .

Edited Wed January 31, 2024 12:43pm

Alison20

Member since
March 2021

363 posts

Posted Wed January 31, 2024 4:13pmReport post

I am so sorry that you find yourself here. You may find it beneficial to speak with the Stop it Now helpline. This may also be beneficial for your son to make contact with them to. The helpline can support you throughout this journey as well as you posting on this forum.

Take care of yourself and thinking of you and your son.

sn101010

Member since
January 2024

24 posts

Posted Wed January 31, 2024 4:30pmReport post

Sorry you join us here lovely.. xx