How to deal with triggers?
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Everytime I feel that I'm one step closer to working through this trauma, I get triggered. These triggers always relate to media coverage of other cases, but also just seeing him sitting behind a computer or watching his cellphone. The worst is when we are outside and there are children present. Do you guys experience the same? And how do you cope?
I just want to move one and have a healthy relationship with my dad again, and these triggers make it very hard.
I just want to move one and have a healthy relationship with my dad again, and these triggers make it very hard.
Hello,
Thank you for posting on the Family and Friends forum, we understand that it is not easy to post on a forum about these difficult situations. I can see that you have not yet had a reply on your post, hopefully someone else in a similar situation can reply soon with some support.
If you haven't already done so, I would also encourage you to contact our Stop it Now! helpline. The helpline is anonymous, confidential and free, on 0808 1000 900. One of our trained advisors will then be able to explore your situation in detail and provide some support and do their best to answer your questions. Our trained advisors deal with similar concerns to yours every day and will be able to talk these through with you and offer you the best advice we can.
I hope this has been helpful.
Take care,
Lucy
Thank you for posting on the Family and Friends forum, we understand that it is not easy to post on a forum about these difficult situations. I can see that you have not yet had a reply on your post, hopefully someone else in a similar situation can reply soon with some support.
If you haven't already done so, I would also encourage you to contact our Stop it Now! helpline. The helpline is anonymous, confidential and free, on 0808 1000 900. One of our trained advisors will then be able to explore your situation in detail and provide some support and do their best to answer your questions. Our trained advisors deal with similar concerns to yours every day and will be able to talk these through with you and offer you the best advice we can.
I hope this has been helpful.
Take care,
Lucy
Hi there - that feeling is so common and to be expected after having such a shock and perhaps you still have many unanswered questions so your mind goes all over the place when something reminds you of what's going on in your life. It's easy for me to say, but I do know that it does get better as time goes by and when I was in the same place as you are now all I could do was take a deep breath and try to live through the feeling and not give my thoughts permission to go on a journey with the feeling so it escalated. Can you tell your dad how it makes you feel seeing him on a computer etc? Perhaps voicing it and letting him reassure you (as long as you trust him) will help a bit. Bottling it all up and feeling you can't voice how you feel will only encourage the fears to grow. I endorse the reply from LFF to ring their helpline as they will have some help for you there. Look after yourself and we are all here for you on this forum x