Don't know who to trust or believe anymore
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I'm just at such a loss, due yet another CPP confrence and was expecting to go into it strong but after hearing what evidence has been found by my SW, I just don't know what to do. I'm just so angry, scared and furious at my OH for never being able to tell me anything, always using the excuse of "I forgot what was said".
I've tried contacting him and still nothing, so all I could manage to say to him through my tears was unless you tell me the truth, we're not seeing each other, and I absolutely despise being that person, but he's not going to see his child either.
I've never had a good relationship with SS either as they've always twisted my wording to suit their benefit, manipulated/scared me into leaving my OH so I don't trust them.
I just hate him so much if this is really true, the fact that not only he could do this but drag me and his child down with him with not being honest about it and seeking help. I'm the one that has to deal with SS and the stress while he seems to be able to live however he pleases.
I'm just so lost and angry, how I feel right now if I didn't have a child then- I honestly don't know what I'd do.
I've tried contacting him and still nothing, so all I could manage to say to him through my tears was unless you tell me the truth, we're not seeing each other, and I absolutely despise being that person, but he's not going to see his child either.
I've never had a good relationship with SS either as they've always twisted my wording to suit their benefit, manipulated/scared me into leaving my OH so I don't trust them.
I just hate him so much if this is really true, the fact that not only he could do this but drag me and his child down with him with not being honest about it and seeking help. I'm the one that has to deal with SS and the stress while he seems to be able to live however he pleases.
I'm just so lost and angry, how I feel right now if I didn't have a child then- I honestly don't know what I'd do.
Hi,
What stage of investigation are you at? Do you have full disclosure to be able to verify what ss have said with his solicitor?
Honestly, this whole thing leaves you questioning your own sanity. It's one of the hardest parts of this journey. Have ss offered anything in the way of support for the news you've just received or dropped a bomb and left? Reach out to the helpline or your GP for additional emotional support xxx
What stage of investigation are you at? Do you have full disclosure to be able to verify what ss have said with his solicitor?
Honestly, this whole thing leaves you questioning your own sanity. It's one of the hardest parts of this journey. Have ss offered anything in the way of support for the news you've just received or dropped a bomb and left? Reach out to the helpline or your GP for additional emotional support xxx
Thanks for the reply, in all honesty I have no idea where we are with the investigation as far as I'm aware it went to CPS months ago yet the police still keep on requesting exentions and have never been in contact so I haven't got a clue.
I've asked for full disclosure which my OH conveniently keeps forgetting to ask his solicitor, which was my first thought that he has really done this dispite trying to defend him over a year. I've only now been told how many images and other details which are just shocking and honestly makes me want to run for the hills.
My sw did say I could contact them over the weekend, but it just felt so hollow, and mentioned coming on here for support, things I know already so it didn't feel to be of much help xx
I've asked for full disclosure which my OH conveniently keeps forgetting to ask his solicitor, which was my first thought that he has really done this dispite trying to defend him over a year. I've only now been told how many images and other details which are just shocking and honestly makes me want to run for the hills.
My sw did say I could contact them over the weekend, but it just felt so hollow, and mentioned coming on here for support, things I know already so it didn't feel to be of much help xx