What more can I do? CPP
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I can't believe that my child is STILL on a CPP, the professionals go on about how possitive everything is, how well looked after my child is and STILL. My OH doesn't even live with us, never has since my child was born (who was on a CPP before they were even born).
Honestly what more can I even do? It feels like no matter what I do, say, agree to nothing ever changes. OH and I are pretty much split up at this point because I just can't take this anymore, I've done nothing wrong so why am I being punished? I'm the one that has to deal with all the SS, meetings, organising, classes. the list goes on..
I honestly wish I never even met my OH at this point, certainly wished I never had a child with him. All I ever wanted was just to have a happy family, and as time goes on I know that's pretty much not going to happen and I'll have to raise my child alone.
I'm just so lost, scared and angry, I've debated contacting my GP but realisticly what can they do? No amount of counciling, antidepressents is going to make this disapear and put me and my child up in a nice place where I don't have to worry about money, bills and everything else.
Honestly what more can I even do? It feels like no matter what I do, say, agree to nothing ever changes. OH and I are pretty much split up at this point because I just can't take this anymore, I've done nothing wrong so why am I being punished? I'm the one that has to deal with all the SS, meetings, organising, classes. the list goes on..
I honestly wish I never even met my OH at this point, certainly wished I never had a child with him. All I ever wanted was just to have a happy family, and as time goes on I know that's pretty much not going to happen and I'll have to raise my child alone.
I'm just so lost, scared and angry, I've debated contacting my GP but realisticly what can they do? No amount of counciling, antidepressents is going to make this disapear and put me and my child up in a nice place where I don't have to worry about money, bills and everything else.
Hi
How long have you been on it for have you done any safeguarding courses? If you have you could ask them to look at it and be dropped completely or to a cin plan for a while to show that everything you have in place is working. Also has your ex had sentencing yet because that can also keep you on a plan
How long have you been on it for have you done any safeguarding courses? If you have you could ask them to look at it and be dropped completely or to a cin plan for a while to show that everything you have in place is working. Also has your ex had sentencing yet because that can also keep you on a plan
When your at reviews, what number does every one come up with (usually they say what's the risk no on scale 1-10 and every professional states where they think the risk is at). This should give you some inclination. You could also say if it's low, "could someone give me any time line to when this will be deesculated to CIN (child in need)
also, think about counselling. It will show them that you are trying to work through the trauma you have gone through with all of this and in the long run, no it can't change what's going on but will give you a safe space to explore your feelings and be yourself. Or call the helpline, They're all amazing.
also, think about counselling. It will show them that you are trying to work through the trauma you have gone through with all of this and in the long run, no it can't change what's going on but will give you a safe space to explore your feelings and be yourself. Or call the helpline, They're all amazing.
thanks for the replies, I'm going to be doing the LFF inform course soon because according to my SW that's the only one that could potientially allow me to supervise contact. But I know there are a lot more courses, it's just having the funds for it.
My little one has been on the CPP for about a year and going to be on it for another 6 months until the next meeting, at the start the scores were around 3-4 most have moved up in scale being a netural 5 but SW has kept their scores very low (shocker). I honestly just don't know what else I can do as no one points me in the right direction to get it descalated its the same thing over and over with no real progression.
I never wanted to leave my OH but he hasn't left me much of a choice, if he was honest I could've tried to learn to forgive him, but he's been so secretive with everything and I can't be in a relationship like that anymore.
My little one has been on the CPP for about a year and going to be on it for another 6 months until the next meeting, at the start the scores were around 3-4 most have moved up in scale being a netural 5 but SW has kept their scores very low (shocker). I honestly just don't know what else I can do as no one points me in the right direction to get it descalated its the same thing over and over with no real progression.
I never wanted to leave my OH but he hasn't left me much of a choice, if he was honest I could've tried to learn to forgive him, but he's been so secretive with everything and I can't be in a relationship like that anymore.
Hi,
not to slate the inform course in any way but unless it has changed since I did it then it doesn't offer a capability to protect assessment. I did find it very helpful to do. Breaking the cycle run by circles south east do offer an assessment as part of their course. You can self refer but you could mention it to your sw as they are able to attend meetings with you or provide a report.
It's challenging as is everything to do with this subject but it is helpful xxx
not to slate the inform course in any way but unless it has changed since I did it then it doesn't offer a capability to protect assessment. I did find it very helpful to do. Breaking the cycle run by circles south east do offer an assessment as part of their course. You can self refer but you could mention it to your sw as they are able to attend meetings with you or provide a report.
It's challenging as is everything to do with this subject but it is helpful xxx
If you have decided to leave your OH tell the social worker. Surely they will see this as a good way to protect your child.
it will seem hard at first but if you've made your decision I'm sure better times will be around the corner away from all this
it will seem hard at first but if you've made your decision I'm sure better times will be around the corner away from all this