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My week has been uneventual. Just working. But i have next week off and have a lovely weekend ahead. Going out tonight with friend, for a long walk tomorrow and sunday going to a spa. The friend for the spa is the only one who knows about my situation. The others dont and i feel i am getting more used to feeling ok about them no knowing. I used to feel like i was being devious ommitting what is happening to me if that makes sense?

Next week just going to try and focus on me and chilling and taking my furbabies out.



I started watching Grantchester from the beginning. So will be binge watching that. Also hope to finish my book as i have lots of books looking at me wondering why i am taking so long to get to them!

Hello Friday check in, I've enjoyed a couple of meals out this week and managed to catch up with a good friend.

I've also discovered a holistic mental health wellbeing organisation in my local area and have started the registration process with them today.

As I sit writing this I can hear the birds singing in the garden and as I look out of the window I can see that the daffodils have already opened up. Spring is on the way and that thought lifts my spirits.

Hello upset mum,

I'm struggling and have been for quite a few weeks now with PLO. Going through all of it with a (hopefully healthy!) newborn due soon, is really hard, not knowing if LA is going to be successful at their attemp to the snatch my newborn from the hospital. They are also trying to find the absent father of older children (not my person). He is a stranger at this point, so I'm not sure how that will work out either.


I can only hope both will fail and a judge will throw it out but the journey is horrendous. All I can do is what I am doing but I am drowning.



Wouldn't wish this SS/LA part of the journey on anyone. I hope everyone else is having a good week. The stories told here with happy or happier endings are the light at the end of the tunnel I'm holding on for.

Hi my friends - hope you are bearing up - I continually log in and think about you all....

Carnt go into too much detail - but husband and I have reached a big milestone each this week. It's been a tad emotional but we must grab life and look at these milestones with positivity.. It is hard - I wish our son was part of this and part of our celebration but sadly he is not. We move on - don't we?

I too love seeing the signs of spring all around us, it's a breathe of fresh air for sure.

Hi Upset Mum, I love reading your Friday check ins!

I hope your visit to your HC goes really well and he eats lots and lots xxx

@Flower, I wish you all the best for your dealings with SS. I have followed your story on here and I can relate as I have an 8 week old baby, too. In my case SS have left me alone (so far!). It's so ridiculous they're taking you to PLO, you have followed their safety plan and you haven't done anything wrong.

My week has been fine, I am just relaxing with a cup of green tea - the kids are all asleep now.

We will see some friends tomrrow and then go for a walk in the park.

After 8 weeks of waking up 2 to 3 times a night my little baby girl has slept from 8 pm - 5 am last night, so I hope she will do the same tonight! xx

Hi to all

I am fortunate to be in Pantoland!
i would reccommend amateur dramatics to put you in a wonderful bubble of fantasy & remove you from this nightmare. Unfortunately it will soon be over but it's great while it lasts. ????????‍??????????????????????‍??

Quiet week for me as had the week off from work. Hardly seen our daughter as she has been spending all her time with her boyfriend, and when she hasn't seen him she has been on call with him. One night she was on call for 5 hours! Our other daughter insisted on coming over for pancakes on pancake day and her boyfriend came with her.

I've just spent my time catching up with my programmes and crocheting. I have a baby blanket to finish and I've started baby cardigan.

Today my oh has to report to the police station as per his bail conditions which we are anxious about. We haven't heard from the police so presuming they are expecting him.

Hi Ladies - lovely to hear from you all. Commiserations to those,and especially Flower and hpl111, who are anxious about SS involvement and sad for you both/all as from our experience it doesn't have to be like this. Not that it's easy, or even always feels fair, but it needn't feel like it so obviously can do and make us vulnerable people feel defensive or traumatised.

Smile - I'm giessing you and your OH had your 30th birthdays ;) ;)

I've enjoyed reading about the everyday and 'ordinary' doings of some of us, a really precious thing to immerse ourselves in at such a dreadful time, and hope for those of us swamped by pain and fear at the moment. I well remember those days of wishing for just an hour of peace of mind in my day; not that personally we're free of that by any means, but can testify that things DO become easier to bear, even if only in patches between each new thing that needs facing.

As for us, had the grandkids here for the week trying to find enough to do with them during some awful weather. 2 cinema trips (2 hours of snooze time for us!) and playing board games in between giving in and getting out the Play Station!

I had a day out with my theatre buddy friend to see Tina, the Musical in London. Not something I wanted to see especially but a day out is a day out. Anyway, it was fabulous and just the uplifting few hours that do you good. I was so glad I went. A sign of the times though, needing an announcement beforehand to say that people need to be kind to other patrons in their behaviour plus the bar would be shut apart from the interval. And a security crew appearing at the end when we are encouraged to get up and join in, obviously to stop anyone trying to get on the stage! EBP I can imagine how great pantoland has been for you (oh no it hasn't!). Not sure what I'd do without the magic of theatre as both a distraction, and sometimes echoing how I'm feeling in a safe way.

Hope next week is a good one, and again thank you so much Upset for facilitating this every Friday xx

Haha - rainday52 - double the 30 and add a bit more. :-).

Upset - so what did our HC consume on your visit today?

Hello ladies xx

We've had a lovely week really as we went out for Valentine's Day and had a nice evening and meal. Good to spend some quality time together. Sometimes this journey feels like a bit of a dream and then reality bites as the conversation swings to all the "what ifs".

I'm taking pleasure in the daffodils that are now coming up, the evenings are drawing out and the days (hopefully!) will get warmer.

Love to all x

I love to see the hungry caterpillar lists. I can't resist a nice slice of cake so that would have been my choice with a cuppa.

We've had a mixed week health wise but a very happy week complete with a trip to the park and a toddler who disappeared into a puddle like on the vicar of dibley lol. I'm learning to be happy in the moment and ignoring my brain telling me that I need to have the answers about the future. I may have to abandon my business plan as it's not really working out right now so looking for a job and trying to declutter and freshen up the house. I like Spring, I feel like I wake up a bit brighter and can be productive.

Sending love to everyone xxx

Upset my son is like that!! Skinny as anything but eats like a horse! He has hollow legs!. My week has been full of anxiety, ok when I'm at work as it's very full on and busy, but now I'm off and in particular today I feel a massive wave of panic as my OH has his sentencing next week. That's if it doesn't get postponed again, this will be his 4th one, ridiculous really.

Thank you for the HC list. This has brought me so much joy. I am also impressed with your 4 cups of tea; my bladder would have let me know about that.



louise; best of luck for this week.



well done to all of you entertaining children over a very wet half term



xxx

I love how Upset gives her HC a hug plus one thinking of me and my son (whom I haven't seen in three years).

one of the kindest people I know x