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Louise49

Member since
January 2021

494 posts

Posted Fri February 16, 2024 5:37pmReport post

Another anxiety fuelled week! I'm so fed up of being in this limbo. My partner has another sentence hearing next week. This is the forth one, the others were postponed and to be honest I just think this one will too. It's killing me waiting to hear his fate, we've waited 3 years and 1 month since the knock. It's disgusting we've waited this long. All I think about is him going to prison which to me isn't fair!. How they can think he's that dangerous and lock him up yet he's carried on with his life for 3 years, contributing to society with working full time and he's not reoffended so in effect he's done a suspended sentence!. Sorry just needed to rant!

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Ocean

Member since
September 2023

771 posts

Posted Fri February 16, 2024 5:48pmReport post

You have every right to rant after what you've been through. I remember only too well those feelings of anxiety, fear and dread as the date of the court case comes. I can only imagine how truly awful it must feel to have that cancelled at the last minute. My thoughts go out to you as you go through these next few days again and I wish you both the very best outcome.

Louise49

Member since
January 2021

494 posts

Posted Fri February 16, 2024 6:08pmReport post

Thanks love, honestly I've had a few breakdown in tears moments this week. I feel frustrated with it all, that one judge can totally mess up my life and I'm not the offender. Yes my partner should be punished but if he goes to prison I have so much to loose!. If it goes in the papers it will seriously affect mine and my children's lives but he will be away from it all.

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Ginluver

Member since
April 2023

68 posts

Posted Fri February 16, 2024 7:12pmReport post

Almost 2 years since ex partner Arested and awaiting him going to crown court don't think it will get any easier in my years until he is sentenced it's the unknown that is worrying me if he will go to prison, loose job as it will have a massive impact on his children and also me financially as he supports me with mortgage etc he has been allowed to work and not reoffended so hoping he gets suspended sentence. Hopefully it will all get sorted for you very soon it's so frustrating the long wait it's a sentence in it's self the worry etc. x

Louise49

Member since
January 2021

494 posts

Posted Sat February 17, 2024 9:20amReport post

The long wait is the worst, can't believe we've waited theee years!. Finances are a huge worry too aren't they. We both work but my partner gets paid a lot more than me. I couldn't cope with the bills on my own. It's potentially my last weekend with him this weekend, I'm not coping well and the anxiety is sky high

EllBee

Member since
April 2022

143 posts

Posted Sat February 17, 2024 5:38pmReport post

Thinking of you all Louise and wishing you all the best for this week, it's just cruel being on this long long rollercoaster. To go through it several times and then it being cancelled again is simply inhumane.
Although you probably dread it, fingers crossed you get over this awful hurdle this week and you can start to move on. Big hugs X

Louise49

Member since
January 2021

494 posts

Posted Mon February 19, 2024 2:38pmReport post

Thank you Ellbee, I'm not good today, the hearing is tomorrow. I'm very anxious today. Sat here waiting till 4.30 to check the court listings to see if it's relisted again

Seaside

Member since
July 2022

561 posts

Posted Mon February 19, 2024 2:47pmReport post

Thinking of you Louise and hoping that the hearing goes ahead it is inhumane to treat people like this.

Sending you lots of love and strength and I'm right with you always albeit virtually xx

Louise49

Member since
January 2021

494 posts

Posted Mon February 19, 2024 3:54pmReport post

So here we go again, again!, OH just had an email from his solicitor. Sentence hearing relisted again! Ffs! Will be in April now. I've never known anything so ridiculous!. I keep saying it but to me if he does end up custodial how would that be fair?. I can understand if they thought he was a danger and remanded him all along but he's just carrying on with life!.

Ocean

Member since
September 2023

771 posts

Posted Mon February 19, 2024 5:13pmReport post

Oh Louise, I just can't believe what I'm reading. How on earth are they allowed to keep doing this to you. It's so cruel. I dont actually know what to say that could begin to make you feel any better but I wanted to let you know that I'm here for you and I'm sending you strength, peace and a huge virtual hug.

Louise49

Member since
January 2021

494 posts

Posted Mon February 19, 2024 5:18pmReport post

Thank you Ocean, honestly it's crazy! It could do this for another year! Keep getting relisted! The first one was back in October last year!

Ocean

Member since
September 2023

771 posts

Posted Mon February 19, 2024 6:13pmReport post

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Seaside

Member since
July 2022

561 posts

Posted Mon February 19, 2024 6:33pmReport post

Oh Louise I can't believe that I'm reading this and it makes me so sad for you please message me anytime if you want a chat xx

K4

Member since
October 2022

611 posts

Posted Mon February 19, 2024 6:38pmReport post

Furious on your behalf. Utterly furious.



Xxx