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Beyonce

Member since
May 2023

63 posts

Posted Sat February 17, 2024 10:43pmReport post

My 17 year old stepsons devices were taken last April & then any new devices need to go through police controls.Should he still be on Instagram when he's been on the dark web & downloaded over 80 images of 10-16 year old girls & anime when he was 15? I think not but his parents have left him on it & I don't think the police have checked it

Distressed and pregnant

Member since
November 2020

1001 posts

Posted Sat February 17, 2024 11:07pmReport post

Instagram terms and conditions state you must not be a convicted sex offender. If he has pled guilty and is subject to sor then he shouldn't be on it as it breaks their terms. If he is yet to be convicted then he is free to use it xx

Beyonce

Member since
May 2023

63 posts

Posted Sun February 18, 2024 8:21amReport post

Thanks for replying at the mo YOT have spoken to him & he needs a autism assessment,education & Im assuming that's a referral order?He supposedly won't have a record but then my husband has said it will come up on an enhanced dbs? I'm getting info 3rd hand & I am struggling with my mental health because I can't just move on & pit a life on it!! My husband,his ex wife & me dealing with things very differently!

Police are going around to ex wives home next Tues so I'm thinking the final caution,charging,plans for rehabilitation will be clear then

I have had to self cert from work because my heads gone & emotionally so up n down.Also feel like my stepson has little mental health support because his parents are trying to keep their heads in the sand.

Really hope this crisis is going to turn my stepsons attitudes,difficulties & life around so he can live a happy adult life????

rainyday52

Member since
April 2023

448 posts

Posted Sun February 18, 2024 8:29amReport post

Hi Beyonce - this is such a tricky time when your son's future depends on him and his behaviours/choices going forward.

it sounds as if the conflicting attitudes are making it even harder for you than for many of us. It comes across so clearly how badly your mental health is being impacted and I would really urge you to put yourself first for a while at least so you can get back to a manageable level of coping, for yours and your son's sake.

I really feel for you - have you seen the invitation on here from LFF for a virtual meet-up? Would you be able to join in (I have just said I'd like to be part of the next one after thinking I was too fragile to cope and just relying on staying behind my keyboard!) xx

Edited Sun February 18, 2024 8:30am

Beyonce

Member since
May 2023

63 posts

Posted Sun February 18, 2024 10:54amReport post

I didn't know about that.Could I have the details then decide if I'm strong enough to join in

thanks lots x

Ocean

Member since
September 2023

771 posts

Posted Sun February 18, 2024 1:38pmReport post

Hi Beyoncé, there is a post titled virtual gathering. If you say in the post that you are interested I believe LFF will contact you when they have a date and time.