Two weeks exactly since the knock
Notifications OFF
Never in a million years would I have imagined the horror of the past two weeks. I answered the door on a normal afternoon to four people asking for my partner. Later discovered they were vigilantes, which I had never heard of. They spent a long time confronting him on the doorstep in front of the whole neighbourhood, lots of raised voices and pointing and waving papers . Shouting that the police were coming. I was inside the house mostly, but when I did go out I heard him admit that he had sent personal pics (if you get what I mean) and been having conversations with minors, I think teenage girls, at which point I ran inside and locked the door. The police came in two cars with blue lights, lots more talk outside and then he was taken away. Then the humiliation of police searching my house. Since then I have found another phone hidden, with emails from another address to whoever, I couldn't bear to look, which I have handed in.
He is out on bail, the liaison picked up his stuff, I refuse to let him come back. It's my house, thankfully. No idea where he has gone, sleeping under a bridge or in his car for all I care. I feel sick and ashamed and angry and heartbroken. 22 years of my life wiped out. No idea what will happen, but I hope he goes to prison.
Sorry for the long rant
He is out on bail, the liaison picked up his stuff, I refuse to let him come back. It's my house, thankfully. No idea where he has gone, sleeping under a bridge or in his car for all I care. I feel sick and ashamed and angry and heartbroken. 22 years of my life wiped out. No idea what will happen, but I hope he goes to prison.
Sorry for the long rant
Sorry that you find yourself here. There is an excellent post in the "understanding why" which gives some super advice on surviving the early days.
the trauma and grief of the situation you're in can manifest in unsettling ways, do reach out for help when you need it
xx
the trauma and grief of the situation you're in can manifest in unsettling ways, do reach out for help when you need it
xx
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Justmeandthecat... I can sympathise with you. I feel differently to a lot of women on here. I also hope my ex goes to prison and I don't care what happens to him. He didn't care about me when he did what he did !!
focus on your own life now x
focus on your own life now x
Thanks all. I just feel so so angry that he would do such an appauling thing. How could I not have suspected? He has thrown away everything, our comfortable life together, his children and grandchildren, me. Idiot
I agree with you. My ex has also ruined everything we had together. I am having to start again in my late 50's and make a new life for myself. I have done this and so will you.
many on here believe men don't even think about the consequences of their actions because they are in the grips of an addiction. I personally think my ex did it because a. He thinks he can do whatever he wants at the time and b. He's obviously got a problem!!!!
many on here believe men don't even think about the consequences of their actions because they are in the grips of an addiction. I personally think my ex did it because a. He thinks he can do whatever he wants at the time and b. He's obviously got a problem!!!!