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Jkd

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October 2023

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Posted Thu February 22, 2024 9:27pmReport post

Been a few months the family member has been sentenced, feelings still raw some family members have visited him but some still angry sadly causing a atmosphere amongst each other.Yes he is having a tough time as we can talk to each other or others.No help available to him in prison only when he gets out.The family members who have visited him can see the grim reality of prison life but others and his OH feels her life is never going to be the same yet feels he' needs support more than her.Mmm feels awful

Smile through tears

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September 2021

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Posted Fri February 23, 2024 3:56amReport post

Hi Jkd - I agree, from what I've seen there's very little support in prison - after sending in an app nothing seems to move towards an actual meeting, it just fizzles out. And they say- these days - prison focus is on rehabilitation!!

I understand prisons are heaving but your honoured if you key worker appears, promises are made which dont seem to materialise. The only form support they tend to get is from their fellow inmates! My son has a job he enjoys and a great cell mate thankfully.

I can count on one hand how many times he has seen anyone official in three years...... no treatment program - nothing. It's a good job my son is SO laid back and I can see why many inmates struggle with mental health issues.

Edited Fri February 23, 2024 4:16am

Jkd

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October 2023

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Posted Fri February 23, 2024 11:02amReport post

Thanks for the reply yes I agree hours in cell nothing to do,yet the prison website says they have good relationships with the inmates with focus on rehabilitation and looking after the prisoner wellbeing obviously contradictory .He had a cell mate who had mental health issues and he fear for his own safety just hate to receive a phone call to say that he has been harmed or harmed himself, yes we are angry at him for the devastation he has caused but we feel complelled to show empathy as human beings.Real life changer for all concerned

Life feels over

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September 2022

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Posted Sat February 24, 2024 2:15amReport post

The prison system is without question a broken system. My husband took every training opportunity he could and attended chaplaincy to enable him to focus his attention elsewhere. There is little to no support. Filling time is vital as is support from outside. Letters, phone calls and visits mean the world. It's a new temporary normal that no one can change but it will one day be in the past x

AnxiousGirl

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December 2023

222 posts

Posted Sat February 24, 2024 8:07amReport post

Echo what Life Feels Over says. No support whatsoever. Can't even get his glasses fixed! And too far away to visit - even if I wanted too.

Edited Sat February 24, 2024 8:07am

Smile through tears

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September 2021

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Posted Sun February 25, 2024 5:56amReport post

I regularly send my son gifts in the post to keep him going - he really looks forward to receiving parcels (although that can take 2/3 + weeks) to receive! I send him photos and e mail him regularly.

Keeping busy by having interests, seems is the key to keeping sane in prison and getting a job.

Healthcare doesn't seem too bad - let's face it, it's pretty dire on the outside to be honest!
Inside my son has had all jabs plus recently hepatitis B, dental work, eyes tested and appts for his medication. He's allowed pain killers etc.

i just find the access to professionals frustrating.