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My OH has been on the SOR for 2 years. This was after 18 months of nothing since arrest for us, but tech gadgets etc were being checked in that time.
His time on the register ended at 12am this morning. Ive woken feeling weird. Is it that this can start to go behind us?
Our liaison officer, who has been brilliant, came out yesterday and I was home alone. He said he has a feeling he hasn't seen the last of my OH (he was initially just cautioned but then went to court when they found a username he hadn't registered). The situation has bitten me on the bum multiple times as I work in a childcare setting, as well as destroying my family (relationships with siblings etc, we have no kids ourselves).
I'm feeling a little bruised by the liaisons comment. I understand it, and he's obviously seen things happen with and to others so knows what goes on. We had our 13th wedding anniversary this week and I'd like to think I know him best and this can all be behind us. OH knows I dont trust him at present but that I really want to get back where we used to be.
This day has been one just to get to, not a celebration that we've made it. I'm the queen of overthinking anyway but am already doing my own head in and its not even 9am yet!
Just wondered if there were any words of wisdom out there for where I find myself now?
His time on the register ended at 12am this morning. Ive woken feeling weird. Is it that this can start to go behind us?
Our liaison officer, who has been brilliant, came out yesterday and I was home alone. He said he has a feeling he hasn't seen the last of my OH (he was initially just cautioned but then went to court when they found a username he hadn't registered). The situation has bitten me on the bum multiple times as I work in a childcare setting, as well as destroying my family (relationships with siblings etc, we have no kids ourselves).
I'm feeling a little bruised by the liaisons comment. I understand it, and he's obviously seen things happen with and to others so knows what goes on. We had our 13th wedding anniversary this week and I'd like to think I know him best and this can all be behind us. OH knows I dont trust him at present but that I really want to get back where we used to be.
This day has been one just to get to, not a celebration that we've made it. I'm the queen of overthinking anyway but am already doing my own head in and its not even 9am yet!
Just wondered if there were any words of wisdom out there for where I find myself now?
Oh goodness, what an awful thing to say to someone who has been through such a traumatic experience through no fault of their own. I do wonder if some people go into these roles to cause pain to others.
Celebrate making it this far, a win is a win. If you want to there are monitoring apps that send you reports and flag up any potentially risky activity. Accountable 2 you and covenant eyes are the two I can think of but there are others xx
Celebrate making it this far, a win is a win. If you want to there are monitoring apps that send you reports and flag up any potentially risky activity. Accountable 2 you and covenant eyes are the two I can think of but there are others xx
Thank you Distressed. He has been so supportive to me, especially recently. I dont think he meant it the way I've probably interpreted it. My OH is daft and shown the 'act now, think later' manner over and over. OH has bitten me so hard through this, he may be right. I told OH what was said and assured him he could now prove him wrong. I'll definitely look at those apps. Thank you!