Harassment from the outside world
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Just as I thought I was through the other end of the journey and starting to rebuild my life it all comes back and hits me even harder.
I left the relationship completly after a guilty plea, there was too much happening for me to stay and too many lies for me to get past.
I had decided to try and move on and let myself back into the outside world. After over a year of hiding away I needed to do it. I went back to doing things I used to love which led me to speaking to someone over the past month or so. It was clear from the beginning that this was a friendship and nothing more, most of our conversations revolved around him rekindling with his ex so seemed like boundaries were clear and ok.
I never really discussed my ex but he asked about why we broke up etc. I lied of course, I wanted to protect him still. He had a very close suicide attempt recently and although I don't want to continue the relationship I also don't want him dead! I confided in him about the attempt and that although we aren't together it still hurts.
Time ticks on and we spoke a lot and he obviously learnt a lot about me, he's decided to start googling my ex and came across the news story. He found a way to contact him and started sending him some pretty awful messages. Unfortunately he has pretty available contact information due to him owning his own business. Now he's text me essentially threatening to spread it as far as he can online and basically goad my ex into another suicide attempt.
I don't know what to do, to protect myself, the kids or to protect my ex.
I left the relationship completly after a guilty plea, there was too much happening for me to stay and too many lies for me to get past.
I had decided to try and move on and let myself back into the outside world. After over a year of hiding away I needed to do it. I went back to doing things I used to love which led me to speaking to someone over the past month or so. It was clear from the beginning that this was a friendship and nothing more, most of our conversations revolved around him rekindling with his ex so seemed like boundaries were clear and ok.
I never really discussed my ex but he asked about why we broke up etc. I lied of course, I wanted to protect him still. He had a very close suicide attempt recently and although I don't want to continue the relationship I also don't want him dead! I confided in him about the attempt and that although we aren't together it still hurts.
Time ticks on and we spoke a lot and he obviously learnt a lot about me, he's decided to start googling my ex and came across the news story. He found a way to contact him and started sending him some pretty awful messages. Unfortunately he has pretty available contact information due to him owning his own business. Now he's text me essentially threatening to spread it as far as he can online and basically goad my ex into another suicide attempt.
I don't know what to do, to protect myself, the kids or to protect my ex.
What a horrible man
He doesn't sound like a very nice person to be starting a new relationship with : you have been through enough xx
Totally despicable..... stay well clear of him. Block him x
I'm so sorry about this 'so-called' friend. I hope that his motivation is just misguided protection of you/punishing your ex for hurting you etc. although it would be hard to defend how his actions are doing that. The other explanation is that he is a dangerous piece of poop who now thinks he can control you somehow with threats etc and he is using emotional blackmail to do that, making you terrified about what he might provoke your ex into doing. I think you should at least phone the police to report him for threatening behaviour. As for him spreading your ex's history, what good does he think that will do other than stress you out when you have done nothing wrong, apart from in his eyes not telling him the truth, which is entirely your choice to make. I thought you were going to say he had gone AWOL after finding out, but what you now describe is much worse than that and you really need to report him before things get out of hand.
Would this not be considered cyber bullying. There is a law called Harrassment Act that this covers. I would contact the police as well like rainyday52 said. Is your OH still under probation, perhaps they can help as well.
So sorry you are going through this.
So sorry you are going through this.
What a horrible man.. it's unfair isn't it.. xx
Stressed x
I am so sorry , I can only imagine how painful this is for you, what an awful human being how dare he do this to you
I hope if he has once once of decency somewhere in himself he will not do anything
Please take care of yourself xx
I am so sorry , I can only imagine how painful this is for you, what an awful human being how dare he do this to you
I hope if he has once once of decency somewhere in himself he will not do anything
Please take care of yourself xx