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Beyonce

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May 2023

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Posted Tue February 27, 2024 5:55pmReport post

I am now standing up to my husband about him not supporting me & his son who was arrested last April for looking at indecent photos of children & anime.

I have tried to find out the details of the offence but neither social services or the police will disclose because I am stepmum! I have been a main parent from when my stepson was 5 to now he's 17

My husband no longer wants me to see his son & his ex wife & him want me to be silenced!!! So bang goes my marriage & my relationship with my stepson,so very sad????

I have disclosed a variety of red flags which showed my stepson needed support with online behaviour but he never got assessed for autism & then offended at age 15 then arrested.I have everything crossed he won't offend again & YOT are going to 12 sessions,his offence will come up on an enhanced dbs

My husband has thrown our life & my adult childrens' lives away because he won't face up to what his son has done! He didn't even go to any of the police & YOT interviews.What a coward & so sad for his son

Time to treasure my children,family & friends.I'm going to get through this

Thank you everyone reading & supporting me since the arrest last April

x

Edited Tue February 27, 2024 5:58pm

Beyonce

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May 2023

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Posted Wed February 28, 2024 4:02amReport post

My husband will not leave our home whilst I am at a friends,my adult children are at their Dads.What do I di?I need space I get my mental health back on track coz I'm off work sick with stress leading to depression & anxiety.I have done all I can & I now have to look after me

Aftet 12 years together this is awful but I no longer will put up with everything resting on me & my family,friends are here to support me

Denial is so dangerous????

Beyonce

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Posted Wed February 28, 2024 4:02amReport post

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Beyonce

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May 2023

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Posted Wed February 28, 2024 6:29amReport post

Update my husband is leaving now he knows I have his devices.He thinks I suspect him of looking at innapropriate material & he's panicking! So I will be handing in his devices & sexually explicit dvds to the police.My stepson needs protecting in our house so he doesn't offend again.I know I'm doing the right thing

Hopelesscared

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Posted Thu February 29, 2024 3:50pmReport post

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Distressed and pregnant

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November 2020

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Posted Fri March 1, 2024 10:13pmReport post

Hi Beyonce,

I hope that things are more settled for you today. I'm incredibly sorry that this has had such an impact on your marriage, as with everything about parenting though it's important to be on the same page and dad clearly isn't.

Seek support from professionals if possible to start to heal your own mental health. If you post on the discussion section you'll likely get more responses. Please do continue to reach out as although you've stepped back you're still experiencing the same trauma as all of us on here.

Sending you love, strength and peace xxx

Beyonce

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May 2023

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Posted Sat March 2, 2024 6:23amReport post

Thanks for replying x

Lucy from Stop it Now!

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Posted Fri June 21, 2024 9:58amReport post

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