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It's been nearly six months since the knock and he moved out two months ago. Still no closer to the extent of his viewing, distribution etc.
He's just completely upended my life. Since the knock came I've lost the love of my life, he's caused me to lose my job, I nearly lost the house, I've had the social involved and I'm stuck as a single parent with 5 children struggling on benefits for the first time in my life. I don't go out anymore unless I really have to and just sit and cry all day. I've been to the doctors who says it's not depression and I just feel like this because of the circumstances so they won't help. Hardly anyone knows about it all for obvious reasons so I can't talk to anyone. It's weeks and weeks for a referral to counselling and to be honest I don't want to talk to anyone about what he's done.
I just don't know what to do anymore. He's destroyed me.
He's just completely upended my life. Since the knock came I've lost the love of my life, he's caused me to lose my job, I nearly lost the house, I've had the social involved and I'm stuck as a single parent with 5 children struggling on benefits for the first time in my life. I don't go out anymore unless I really have to and just sit and cry all day. I've been to the doctors who says it's not depression and I just feel like this because of the circumstances so they won't help. Hardly anyone knows about it all for obvious reasons so I can't talk to anyone. It's weeks and weeks for a referral to counselling and to be honest I don't want to talk to anyone about what he's done.
I just don't know what to do anymore. He's destroyed me.
Hi whyus
It's just awful isn't it!
When it first hit me I can remember feeling really sad but didn't feel I was depressed. It took a little while before I sunk into depression and then started on the medication.
You really have got a high mountain to climb with 5 children on your own. Does anyone help with them? Have you anyone that you've told about this?
Just try, and I know it's so hard, to be kind to yourself xx
It's just awful isn't it!
When it first hit me I can remember feeling really sad but didn't feel I was depressed. It took a little while before I sunk into depression and then started on the medication.
You really have got a high mountain to climb with 5 children on your own. Does anyone help with them? Have you anyone that you've told about this?
Just try, and I know it's so hard, to be kind to yourself xx
Hi Tracey. I have one sibling but no parents and no one else really knows. I don't think they understand what it's like to go through this. Usually if you feel like this you can open up and speak to people and find a solution or a way out but because of what he's done I can't talk to people. They cant empathise or come up with a solution because they just dint know what to say. Even when I went to the doctors it was just like being on the Jeremy Kyle show. The look of shock and disgust on people's faces is awful. I've just been dragged down by something he has done and i cant fix it.
Thank you for your reply poster. I just cant see the light at the end of the tunnel and its going to get so much worse before it can even attempt to get better.
Thank you for your reply poster. I just cant see the light at the end of the tunnel and its going to get so much worse before it can even attempt to get better.
Hi whyus,
I am also six months in and it is hitting me harder than ever. I am also feeling really low. For me the shock is wearing off and the full reality is hitting. My parter was live streamed so lots of people know what happened but there are very few people I feel able to open up to. I just feel so overwhelmed by the whole thing. I also feel that the look of shock and disgust when I do talk about it is too much to cope with. I ended the relationship literally on the night and have not even seen or spoken to him since his arrest. Although this is for the best I am finding the lack of closure very hard.
I just wanted you to know that you are not the only one six months on who is finding it hard going. I am just trying to get through the day.
Take care xxx
I am also six months in and it is hitting me harder than ever. I am also feeling really low. For me the shock is wearing off and the full reality is hitting. My parter was live streamed so lots of people know what happened but there are very few people I feel able to open up to. I just feel so overwhelmed by the whole thing. I also feel that the look of shock and disgust when I do talk about it is too much to cope with. I ended the relationship literally on the night and have not even seen or spoken to him since his arrest. Although this is for the best I am finding the lack of closure very hard.
I just wanted you to know that you are not the only one six months on who is finding it hard going. I am just trying to get through the day.
Take care xxx
Gemini,
I also ended the relationship the night the police knocked. Not as far along the process as you as it will be 7 weeks on Wed for me.
I find it hard. I miss him, have started dreaming about him, I miss the good times and I miss what future we had together.
I literally am only surviving. I have another huge issue running parallel to this and in a sense it takes my mind of it. But I have no one to share with. He was my best friend and that's gone so I feel very isolated.
I miss him. This is hard.
I also ended the relationship the night the police knocked. Not as far along the process as you as it will be 7 weeks on Wed for me.
I find it hard. I miss him, have started dreaming about him, I miss the good times and I miss what future we had together.
I literally am only surviving. I have another huge issue running parallel to this and in a sense it takes my mind of it. But I have no one to share with. He was my best friend and that's gone so I feel very isolated.
I miss him. This is hard.
Partner, my heart is so heavy for you. I am lucky in the sense that at the moment, I feel like I can stand by him. Weirdly, when he went to work today I was desperate for him to get home, just so someone was here who knew what I was dealing with.
Have you any friends you can open up to? This forum is all well and good, but sometimes real life help is needed. That was the advice I was given, and I opened up to someone today. I feel so much lighter and I feel like there's a bit of normality around the corner for me. The corner is still far away in the distance, but it is there. I've just got to keep plodding towards it.
Have you any friends you can open up to? This forum is all well and good, but sometimes real life help is needed. That was the advice I was given, and I opened up to someone today. I feel so much lighter and I feel like there's a bit of normality around the corner for me. The corner is still far away in the distance, but it is there. I've just got to keep plodding towards it.