How do I heal
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I have never been brave enough to post on here in fear that someone will know who I am and in all honesty sometimes I found all the if buts and maybes just too overwhelming and had to take one day at a time in my own journey
We are 3.5 years down the road, not long sentenced and the biggest issue is I don't seem to be able to handle is how I, not my person but me have been treated by my friends and family because of my decision to stay.
We have all worked so hard since the knock, done all the courses, worked with ss, educated ourselves, all had endless therapy and yet I spend so many days crying because of the way I have been treated and that my family don't even want anything to do with me even without my person around. I just don't know what else to do to heal and get closure. I feel like maybe writing a book or helping others that are going through it in some way may help but some days I just don't feel strong enough.
Every time I feel like I'm moving forward I feel like it has been ten steps back again.
thank you for reading
I have never been brave enough to post on here in fear that someone will know who I am and in all honesty sometimes I found all the if buts and maybes just too overwhelming and had to take one day at a time in my own journey
We are 3.5 years down the road, not long sentenced and the biggest issue is I don't seem to be able to handle is how I, not my person but me have been treated by my friends and family because of my decision to stay.
We have all worked so hard since the knock, done all the courses, worked with ss, educated ourselves, all had endless therapy and yet I spend so many days crying because of the way I have been treated and that my family don't even want anything to do with me even without my person around. I just don't know what else to do to heal and get closure. I feel like maybe writing a book or helping others that are going through it in some way may help but some days I just don't feel strong enough.
Every time I feel like I'm moving forward I feel like it has been ten steps back again.
thank you for reading
Myperfectlife
I feel for you.
We are two months post sentence but 2.5 years immersed in this nightmare.
My son is doing all the courses offered,almost completed Community Payback & is trying to make the best of living with us.
This week was a 'balanced' week & I was almost feeling sorry for him ,glimpsing his future.
However,the dreaded Social Media rears its head again & he is the subject of local 'gossip' again. I removed myself from any local chat groups,but friends pass it on & think they are helping. How do I respond to them without appearing to justify his internet crimes of downloading illegal images.?
I think this is one of the most difficult elements to this situation & why our mental health suffers so much. Your emotions shoot up & down with no warning. Just as you think you can handle it,it all starts up again unexpectedly.
Best wishes to all on this Spring day.
I feel for you.
We are two months post sentence but 2.5 years immersed in this nightmare.
My son is doing all the courses offered,almost completed Community Payback & is trying to make the best of living with us.
This week was a 'balanced' week & I was almost feeling sorry for him ,glimpsing his future.
However,the dreaded Social Media rears its head again & he is the subject of local 'gossip' again. I removed myself from any local chat groups,but friends pass it on & think they are helping. How do I respond to them without appearing to justify his internet crimes of downloading illegal images.?
I think this is one of the most difficult elements to this situation & why our mental health suffers so much. Your emotions shoot up & down with no warning. Just as you think you can handle it,it all starts up again unexpectedly.
Best wishes to all on this Spring day.
Personally I don't think we ever completely heal, the impact of this crime hits SO hard.
We put together a new (different) life which holds its scars, sadly we learn to live and cope with our scars ......
We put together a new (different) life which holds its scars, sadly we learn to live and cope with our scars ......
This will change me forever. And my poor kids. Only yesterday my youngest (11) walked out of her classroom because they were doing a topic on the judicial system. She went to the toilet upset. When will life ever feel normal again? We've done nothing wrong yet punished daily. I'm exhausted and we are only 14 weeks post knock with a very complex case. Bail is 10th April, but we are expecting it to be extended.
Feelinghopeless
My daughter has experienced a few upsets in her classes with some topics to the extent she was contemplating dropping modern studies, school have been amazing with her though she has a pass that allows her to leave any class at any time and go to her guidance teacher, the effect on our children is devastating, my daughter also has a psychologist which she has access to whenever she wants
My daughter has experienced a few upsets in her classes with some topics to the extent she was contemplating dropping modern studies, school have been amazing with her though she has a pass that allows her to leave any class at any time and go to her guidance teacher, the effect on our children is devastating, my daughter also has a psychologist which she has access to whenever she wants