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Recently, just this week my partner off 27 months was arrested at my address for engaging in sexual online activity with a minor.
I am in shock and feel physically sick. I am hurt. Devastated. My heart has been broken into a thousand pieces. I’m broken.
I don’t no what to do next. I can’t figure out what to process first. The lies, deciet. My family , my future. The memories. I’m really struggling to see past this having felt like my whole world has been ripped from underneath me. I feel so totally out of control and I don’t no where to start.
He has been bailed to his own address. We were together for 27 months. My children are 10. I’m really struggling to come to terms with the loss to myself initially then to my family. What he has done I have not yet processed. I have obviously ended the relationship which has caused me horrific shock and upset and total devastation. I have had to do this to meet social services request and safe guard my children. I don't believe he was a risk to my children nor do I believe he is a bad man. I believe he has made one horrific mistake - he off course my life will never be the same now. Life as I no it. Is no more. While living on the same planet and breathing the same air, I'm finding it so so difficult and totally out of control.
I am yet to tell my children, that we are no longer a family or that they will never see him again.
I’m at a loss and struggling to deal with everything at this time.
im hoping someone can give me strength here.
I am in shock and feel physically sick. I am hurt. Devastated. My heart has been broken into a thousand pieces. I’m broken.
I don’t no what to do next. I can’t figure out what to process first. The lies, deciet. My family , my future. The memories. I’m really struggling to see past this having felt like my whole world has been ripped from underneath me. I feel so totally out of control and I don’t no where to start.
He has been bailed to his own address. We were together for 27 months. My children are 10. I’m really struggling to come to terms with the loss to myself initially then to my family. What he has done I have not yet processed. I have obviously ended the relationship which has caused me horrific shock and upset and total devastation. I have had to do this to meet social services request and safe guard my children. I don't believe he was a risk to my children nor do I believe he is a bad man. I believe he has made one horrific mistake - he off course my life will never be the same now. Life as I no it. Is no more. While living on the same planet and breathing the same air, I'm finding it so so difficult and totally out of control.
I am yet to tell my children, that we are no longer a family or that they will never see him again.
I’m at a loss and struggling to deal with everything at this time.
im hoping someone can give me strength here.
I'm so sorry that you're in this situation.
Social services shouldn't have told you that ending the relationship was the only option.
Once the shock of things has passed it is a bit easier to process things and make decisions based on information rather than confusion and fear.
Try talking to your GP, they may be able to refer you for mental health services.
Keep posting on here with any questions. You will get through this. Sending love and strength xxx
Social services shouldn't have told you that ending the relationship was the only option.
Once the shock of things has passed it is a bit easier to process things and make decisions based on information rather than confusion and fear.
Try talking to your GP, they may be able to refer you for mental health services.
Keep posting on here with any questions. You will get through this. Sending love and strength xxx
So sorry that you have had to join us.
Phone the helpline & pour your heart out. It is completely confidential & you can unburden yourself to help you order your thoughts. They are amazing.
Phone the helpline & pour your heart out. It is completely confidential & you can unburden yourself to help you order your thoughts. They are amazing.
I'm so sorry that you're here. It's such a difficult time. Do go onto the "understanding why" thread as there is an excellent post in surviving the early days.
you will always find support here. Hugs to you xxx
you will always find support here. Hugs to you xxx
Hi: thanks for all of the reply's. It really means a lot ????????
it was a brief call to social services, one that I made myself the day after as I hadn't heard anything. Still almost 5 days after event and social services haven't contacted his ex partner regarding his 6 year old boy , all the while my life and my children's has fallen apart.
im guesing if I hadn't had ended the relationship and told them this, then my children would be put on the child protection register, and of course when I rationalise what has happened, then how would I ever trust this man ever again? Question him, around my children or even believe what he was saying was the truth haven broken my absolute every ounce of trust ????
Has anyone been Involved with socials services and stayed with their partner? Xx
it was a brief call to social services, one that I made myself the day after as I hadn't heard anything. Still almost 5 days after event and social services haven't contacted his ex partner regarding his 6 year old boy , all the while my life and my children's has fallen apart.
im guesing if I hadn't had ended the relationship and told them this, then my children would be put on the child protection register, and of course when I rationalise what has happened, then how would I ever trust this man ever again? Question him, around my children or even believe what he was saying was the truth haven broken my absolute every ounce of trust ????
Has anyone been Involved with socials services and stayed with their partner? Xx