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Pregnant and partner is on bail

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Mm999

Member since
March 2024

5 posts

Posted Fri March 8, 2024 5:07pmReport post

This is so tough to write and I've read through all sorts of stories but none seem to answer the questions I've got in my head.

Partner got arrested and is being investigated for possession of 1 cat c image, we've been told this will take a long time to investigate. It feels like our lives are over, it's all ruined.

I'm currently pregnant, have around 4 months until my baby is born. Everyone keeps telling me my partner won't be able to be present for birth and to help me when the baby is born, it seems like I'm going to be completely alone with a new born baby with no help. His bail condition state he can have contact with under 18s but with supervision.

Has anyone been through this? Will he be able to support me in the first few weeks when baby arrives? I never thought I'd be bringing up my first child without it's dad in it's life. Been a week since arrest and social services haven't even been in touch so I can't even ask them that question.

Lucy from Stop it Now!

Member since
September 2018

493 posts

Posted Mon March 18, 2024 10:15amReport post

Hello,

Thank you for posting on the Family and Friends forum, we understand that it is not easy to post on a forum about these difficult situations. I can see that you have not yet had a reply on your post, hopefully someone else in a similar situation can reply soon with some support.


If you haven't already done so, I would also encourage you to contact our Stop it Now helpline. The helpline is anonymous, confidential and free, on 0808 1000 900. One of our trained advisors will then be able to explore your situation in detail and provide some support and do their best to answer your questions. Our trained advisors deal with similar concerns to yours every day and will be able to talk these through with you and offer you the best advice we can.

I hope this has been helpful.

Take care,

Lucy

ScaredLamb

Member since
May 2021

203 posts

Posted Wed March 20, 2024 3:15pmReport post

Hello!
im sorry I didn't see this earlier

I was 24 weeks pregnant when my husband was arrested. his was for 2 communication offences.

I can confirm he was able to be at the birth, never had to move out and we now have no social services involvement and he can be unsupervised with her at all times.



it did take some hard work from both of us to get to this. I'm more than happy to help you if you want to private message me.

Mm999

Member since
March 2024

5 posts

Posted Wed May 29, 2024 9:20pmReport post

Thank you so much for your response but sadly I have lost my baby at 20 weeks.. x

Losteverything

Member since
September 2022

216 posts

Posted Thu May 30, 2024 9:51amReport post

I'm so sorry this has happened, I hope you are getting the support that you need xxx

rainyday52

Member since
April 2023

450 posts

Posted Thu May 30, 2024 11:30amReport post

Knowing that it will be a drop in the ocean of your pain, can I just say how sorry I am to hear this very sad news x

Ocean

Member since
September 2023

774 posts

Posted Thu May 30, 2024 12:34pmReport post

I couldn't just read your post and scroll on without letting you know that I too am so sorry to read your sad news.