Am I a bad person
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Oh was sentenced early Feb as you all know 1 year supervision, 1 year on sor and community payback order, he was suspended on full pay then sacked last Friday, his mental health hasn't been great at all, on my days off from a 40 hour week its what will we do today, he feels trapped in the house all the time, I am exhausted, I have told him he needs to get back out working to get some normality back in his life he applied for 2 warehouse jobs and has 2 interviews straight away, but now isn't sure if he wants to work in these places I am so frustrated just get a job get back into normality even if its only for this year and once conviction is spent look for something else, its not the finances as we would manage I just feel he needs to get out the house.
He is talking in his sleep all the time often words like I just never want to wake up so once I hear that I am awake and mind on overdrive.
I am so tired folks
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He is talking in his sleep all the time often words like I just never want to wake up so once I hear that I am awake and mind on overdrive.
I am so tired folks
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I really understand what you mean. We're still on pre-charge bail (6 months in)but my person was sacked after a couple of months. He was quite positive at first but then hasn't applied for anything. I'm glad he's doing things in the house and keeping it tidy etc but apart from shopping he isn't talking to anyone. Only myself and his mum. He has a buffer of money but it won't last forever. I'm struggling to motivate him and not sure what to say to him anymore so I don't say anything. You're not a bad person. Totally get where you're coming from x
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How on earth can you even ask that question you are an absolute tower of strength and have been there every step of the way with your OH, you are amazing, incredible, kind, I could go on and on x
He should be wanting to just get anything to bring in a little extra income to take a bit of pressure of you, he is very lucky that he has you standing with him, does he open up and talk about how he is feeling? Why he dosent want this work etc
Never ever let's doubts in your mind change you as a beautiful person xx
How on earth can you even ask that question you are an absolute tower of strength and have been there every step of the way with your OH, you are amazing, incredible, kind, I could go on and on x
He should be wanting to just get anything to bring in a little extra income to take a bit of pressure of you, he is very lucky that he has you standing with him, does he open up and talk about how he is feeling? Why he dosent want this work etc
Never ever let's doubts in your mind change you as a beautiful person xx
No you are not a bad person. My OH lost his job. I work mainly from home so except for two days we are together 24/7. I find this hard going. Marriages over lockdown failed due to couples being together 24/7 without the added stress of their offending. I have organised that i go out most evenings to have a break but weekends it is still just me and him. He does not go out, speak to anyone. He was a loner before so did not have many friends, but the ones he did have deserted him now. So i am all he has. His family lives 100's of miles away so they support him but they are not here to help.
You are not alone in struggling with the new regimes
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You are not alone in struggling with the new regimes
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Thanks folks here I am after a 13 hour shift yesterday up ar 1.50am again, I just need a night's sleep I am so tired, he has a phonecall with doc today hoping for a review of medication to see if he can get something else to settle him, his friend has spoken to him about going for interview told him straight beggars can't be choosers in this situation and he is better out working for his mental health and wanting to lead a normal life,, I think he is finally listening to someone, oh and daughter have joint session with psychologist today also to try and work on there relationship.
Sending love and strength to all xx
Sending love and strength to all xx