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Hi,
My husband is currently on bail and I am heavily pregnant. We have a safety plan in place for when the baby arrives, with him living separately.
I have chosen to stay with my husband to see if we can work things out but my family are not supportive of this and do not know whether they will ever be able to speak to him. This is making life really difficult, especially when heavily pregnant. My family were really close with him before and I just wish they'd try for me.
I'm being invited to weddings and other events by myself and although I wouldn't want to miss these, the thought of going alone is too much at the moment. Does anyone have any advice? I don't want to push my family away but it's difficult to see an alternative.
My husband is currently on bail and I am heavily pregnant. We have a safety plan in place for when the baby arrives, with him living separately.
I have chosen to stay with my husband to see if we can work things out but my family are not supportive of this and do not know whether they will ever be able to speak to him. This is making life really difficult, especially when heavily pregnant. My family were really close with him before and I just wish they'd try for me.
I'm being invited to weddings and other events by myself and although I wouldn't want to miss these, the thought of going alone is too much at the moment. Does anyone have any advice? I don't want to push my family away but it's difficult to see an alternative.
Tangle
Firstly I am sorry you have found yourself here and having to deal with all these emotions especially how far you are in to your pregnancy (congratulations by the way)
Unfortunately we have no control over how people react to out situations however it is not fair to put added pressure on to you
It is your decision and only yours that you want to stay with your hubby
I'm sorry your families are struggling to accept and are not been supportive
There are lots of lovely ladies that have been pregnant and have little ones who can give you valuable support
As for you could you perhaps meet up face to face and have a chat about how ot is making you feel?xx
Firstly I am sorry you have found yourself here and having to deal with all these emotions especially how far you are in to your pregnancy (congratulations by the way)
Unfortunately we have no control over how people react to out situations however it is not fair to put added pressure on to you
It is your decision and only yours that you want to stay with your hubby
I'm sorry your families are struggling to accept and are not been supportive
There are lots of lovely ladies that have been pregnant and have little ones who can give you valuable support
As for you could you perhaps meet up face to face and have a chat about how ot is making you feel?xx
Thank you for your reply. I have met up with them and tried to explain my feelings but unfortunately their opinions and views are unlikely to change. Thankfully my husbands family are supportive and we will still be able to have a somewhat 'normal' family life with that side of the family. I would hate my relationships with my family to be impacted as we are so close but struggling to see how it can work long term.
I know I have done nothing wrong but I'm stuck in the middle :(
I know I have done nothing wrong but I'm stuck in the middle :(
Bless it must be so difficult for you
It's great that you have support in your in laws
It's a huge shock for everyone on this journey but the most important thing is you put your wellbeing first
I really do hope in time they put there own feelings to one side and make you the priority and respect your decision xx
It's great that you have support in your in laws
It's a huge shock for everyone on this journey but the most important thing is you put your wellbeing first
I really do hope in time they put there own feelings to one side and make you the priority and respect your decision xx
Hi,
I'm in a similar position but almost four years on. I essentially have two separate lives which works fine but at times it makes me sad. A few of my families opinions have mellowed over time but at the moment they haven't seen my partner since before he was arrested.
Their support for me hasn't ever changed and has been very much needed. I know that my opinions on my partner have changed throughout this journey as I've learned more about how he ended up in this situation. I walked away at first so I can understand my family's reactions xxx
I'm in a similar position but almost four years on. I essentially have two separate lives which works fine but at times it makes me sad. A few of my families opinions have mellowed over time but at the moment they haven't seen my partner since before he was arrested.
Their support for me hasn't ever changed and has been very much needed. I know that my opinions on my partner have changed throughout this journey as I've learned more about how he ended up in this situation. I walked away at first so I can understand my family's reactions xxx