It's been a long road
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14th March 2024, and my husband has completed his community supervision and two years on the SOR. No more unannounced police visits for checking browser histories and asking about our social life and sexual relationship, no more criminal justice workers asking about our finances, social life and sexual relationship, no more having to let the police know when we plan to be away from home overnight (and precisely what health problem I had to make me cancel a holiday).
My husband lost his job, several friends, his car and a lot of money, battled with depression and anxiety and had therapy for sex addiction. He caused me more emotional pain, shame and humiliation than I thought possible.
But I got to know who my real friends are, received the most amazing support from work and have found greater respect for my husband in the ways in which he has taken responsibility for what he did. He has become successfully self employed, developed new and healthier interests and is committed to a life without pornography, legal or otherwise.
Everyone who posts on this site has an individual story, individual circumstances, but there is so much we share; the trauma of discovery, the fear and hurt, the anger. But I am so thankful for finding Stop It. In fact it was one of the police officers who came to search the house who gave me the Still Reeling pamphlet. This forum was undoubtedly the single most supportive factor in the 18 months between the knock and sentencing, the only place I could go where I could be completely honest and know others really did know how I felt.
I won't post here again but wanted to say thank you and hope better days will come for all .
Love, Judith
14th March 2024, and my husband has completed his community supervision and two years on the SOR. No more unannounced police visits for checking browser histories and asking about our social life and sexual relationship, no more criminal justice workers asking about our finances, social life and sexual relationship, no more having to let the police know when we plan to be away from home overnight (and precisely what health problem I had to make me cancel a holiday).
My husband lost his job, several friends, his car and a lot of money, battled with depression and anxiety and had therapy for sex addiction. He caused me more emotional pain, shame and humiliation than I thought possible.
But I got to know who my real friends are, received the most amazing support from work and have found greater respect for my husband in the ways in which he has taken responsibility for what he did. He has become successfully self employed, developed new and healthier interests and is committed to a life without pornography, legal or otherwise.
Everyone who posts on this site has an individual story, individual circumstances, but there is so much we share; the trauma of discovery, the fear and hurt, the anger. But I am so thankful for finding Stop It. In fact it was one of the police officers who came to search the house who gave me the Still Reeling pamphlet. This forum was undoubtedly the single most supportive factor in the 18 months between the knock and sentencing, the only place I could go where I could be completely honest and know others really did know how I felt.
I won't post here again but wanted to say thank you and hope better days will come for all .
Love, Judith
Thank you for the glimmer of hope sending love and best wishes
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Wishing you &your OH all the best for the future.
We have to move forward to a better future.
We have to move forward to a better future.
Thank you for sharing x
Best wishes and hope for the future to you both
You post gives us all 'hope' - Thankyou for sharing x
Judith
I remember your very first post! So is fitting to read your last post on here x
I wish you and hubby all the very best , you should both be incredibly proud as this journey has come to end I wish you both all the happiness x
Thank you for sharing and giving hope to us all xx
I remember your very first post! So is fitting to read your last post on here x
I wish you and hubby all the very best , you should both be incredibly proud as this journey has come to end I wish you both all the happiness x
Thank you for sharing and giving hope to us all xx