Child becoming increasingly aggressive
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hi everyone I’m after some advice, my 3 year old is not handling this separation from his father whilst he is under investigation very well at all. I had the dreaded “can we speak to you” at nursery today when I went to pick him up. My 3 year old is becoming increasingly more and more aggressive, hitting, biting and scratching other children and adults at nursery and also his brother and sister at home. It breaks my heart As he was such a sweet heart before all this happened. I’ve begged social services for help but they can’t seem to think of any ways to help him. I looked at private counselling, but was told he’s too young. Has anyone experienced this before and what did you do? I feel like I’m banging my head against a brick wall trying to get him some help and support and I can’t even tell him when or if he’ll ever see his father again so I don’t know how to handle his anxiety.
Have you tried asking the helpline Thistle? They may be able to put you in touch with someone who can help. My kids had someone from Barnardos that spoke to them, she was really good.
My youngest was 4 when daddy moved out. She has always been mischievous though! It may just be his coping mechanism, how much does he know? I found the "hes done something very naughty so has to go away but he still loves you" worked quite well. Give the helpline a wee ring x
My youngest was 4 when daddy moved out. She has always been mischievous though! It may just be his coping mechanism, how much does he know? I found the "hes done something very naughty so has to go away but he still loves you" worked quite well. Give the helpline a wee ring x
Thank you poster I will try that book for him.
i have been in touch with the helpline many times, there is unfortunately not much available in my area, but I had not thought to try Barnardos, did you just give them a call? What sort of help did they offer for your child.
i have been in touch with the helpline many times, there is unfortunately not much available in my area, but I had not thought to try Barnardos, did you just give them a call? What sort of help did they offer for your child.
We were referred to Barnardos by our social worker. The offered them support by talking, colouring in sheets etc. It was age appropriate such as colouring smiley faces in and asking what makes them happy, sad, angry. It helped them having someone else there to talk to other than me. I dont know if you can self refer but the school should be able to if you cant.
Thanks, I’ll ask the social worker about that, Just found out he’s being excluded from nursery now as they can’t keep the other children safe from him. Just feel so devestated, this whole experience has totally destroyed the happy little boy I knew. He’s only 3 years old, this just all feels so unfair. I understand the police have to investigate but it’s been 9 months and we are no further forward, I’m just as frustrated as my little guy, unfortunately I can’t bite anyone!
Oh Thistle, wouldn't it be great if we could just bite folk? I know I would!
That's horrible he has been excluded, does your area have other schools that offer support for those with behavioural problems? His behaviour will be more than likely circumstantial so it may only be temporary for him. If anything it gives you a bit of breathing space.
That's horrible he has been excluded, does your area have other schools that offer support for those with behavioural problems? His behaviour will be more than likely circumstantial so it may only be temporary for him. If anything it gives you a bit of breathing space.
Yes, you are right, it was a bit of breathing space for me when he was at preschool, I have 3 kids 5 and under that I’m now raising completely alone with no support, I’m not sure about preschools for kids with behaviour problems but I’ll ask, we live in a very rural area though so not holding my breath, when my oldest was in preschool (he’s autistic) there was no mention of it.
You are doing so well Thistle! I cant imagine the difficulties in having 3 really young ones, just getting them up and dressed is an accomplishment, remember that. You are at a low point in your life, take the small wins.
It may be worth speaking to educational services in your area. They could provide schools with extra support. I live rurally but there is one school in the largest town that has what they call a rainbow room. It has children of mixed supports needed from learning difficulties to behaviour issues. They dont always get the full hours of nursery but they still get some. Hopefully for you he is just going through a rough patch. X
It may be worth speaking to educational services in your area. They could provide schools with extra support. I live rurally but there is one school in the largest town that has what they call a rainbow room. It has children of mixed supports needed from learning difficulties to behaviour issues. They dont always get the full hours of nursery but they still get some. Hopefully for you he is just going through a rough patch. X