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Afternoon lovlies x
Hope you are all keeping strong and ok
A busy week at work but I had today off so had a nice layin, had a check up at the opticians and then the weekly food shop ( I certainly know how to have fun)! :-)
A lazy evening just watching something on the tv
We have a visit with HC tomorrow morning, he is keeping ok, but will be nice to spend a couple of hours together and his sister is coming with me so will be nice for us all x
I hope you all have a good weekend whatever you are doing x
Love sent as always xx
Hope you are all keeping strong and ok
A busy week at work but I had today off so had a nice layin, had a check up at the opticians and then the weekly food shop ( I certainly know how to have fun)! :-)
A lazy evening just watching something on the tv
We have a visit with HC tomorrow morning, he is keeping ok, but will be nice to spend a couple of hours together and his sister is coming with me so will be nice for us all x
I hope you all have a good weekend whatever you are doing x
Love sent as always xx
Hiya Upsetmum.
Hope all is well with yourself and your son ?
Big ((hugs)) xx
Hope all is well with yourself and your son ?
Big ((hugs)) xx
Hello,
Coming up to almost 2 weeks since the knock.
Son has been suspended from school again, due to fighting in school, he's going through an emotional time and we're all struggling, didn't need another suspension to add to it...I see it as going against him.
We have a meeting with the safeguarding leads after the Easter break, to try an set up some support for him in school and they are enrolling him on the savannah course to run alongside his councilling. We have brought fidget things and these inner ear noise cancellers to try and help, all the things the lovely lady from chad recommended.
We wish we could go back ten years and push for all this support before all of this, maybe life would have been different?
Even though we pushed, we didn't know about senmas or the fact we could push for an assessment through them... just the nhs.
We have filled in a parent assessment through senmas.
We're now just sitting and waiting...
Emotions are up and down all over the place.
I hope everyone else is well x
Coming up to almost 2 weeks since the knock.
Son has been suspended from school again, due to fighting in school, he's going through an emotional time and we're all struggling, didn't need another suspension to add to it...I see it as going against him.
We have a meeting with the safeguarding leads after the Easter break, to try an set up some support for him in school and they are enrolling him on the savannah course to run alongside his councilling. We have brought fidget things and these inner ear noise cancellers to try and help, all the things the lovely lady from chad recommended.
We wish we could go back ten years and push for all this support before all of this, maybe life would have been different?
Even though we pushed, we didn't know about senmas or the fact we could push for an assessment through them... just the nhs.
We have filled in a parent assessment through senmas.
We're now just sitting and waiting...
Emotions are up and down all over the place.
I hope everyone else is well x
Hey folks,
I am choked with this awful cold and dreadful cough and too stubborn to take time off work, thank the lord for tenaladys or I would be in a right state ????????
Oh started his new job so far so good I think going out the area was a wise move, he is sleeping so much better as his mind is occupied again, daughter and I have enjoyed our evenings watching girly TV which was needed the back shift for oh is a favourite for him
I joined a session on talking forward this morning tricky brain, a lot of it made a lot of sense and explained a few things to me as always it's not a one size fits all.
I am choked with this awful cold and dreadful cough and too stubborn to take time off work, thank the lord for tenaladys or I would be in a right state ????????
Oh started his new job so far so good I think going out the area was a wise move, he is sleeping so much better as his mind is occupied again, daughter and I have enjoyed our evenings watching girly TV which was needed the back shift for oh is a favourite for him
I joined a session on talking forward this morning tricky brain, a lot of it made a lot of sense and explained a few things to me as always it's not a one size fits all.
Evening all.
I returned to work this week after 3.5 weeks off, nearly 7 weeks post knock. Came in to a laptop that wouldn't work as it had not been on the network to be updated, and once I was logged on, I had 611 emails!
Did a charity fashion at work in the week. Bit of a cock up there. Couldn't put a date on my out of office, so the organiser wasn't sure I was doing it, so only ended up modelling for 1 of the 3 boutiques. Also missed out on the free shoes one of the boutiques gave to all their models. It is strange what implications on your life the knock has. But the one I did model for put me in some beautiful clothes.
Work has not been easy. I work for the same company as my OH, but different department. OH has been suspended. I spoke to 2 of his colleagues yesterday lunchtime. By the end of day, I had been summoned by line manager to say a complaint had been made to HR and I am now no longer to speak to any of my OHs colleagues. About anything! Not even the weather.
So, bit of a mixed week.
I hope you have all managed to find some brightness this week xx
I returned to work this week after 3.5 weeks off, nearly 7 weeks post knock. Came in to a laptop that wouldn't work as it had not been on the network to be updated, and once I was logged on, I had 611 emails!
Did a charity fashion at work in the week. Bit of a cock up there. Couldn't put a date on my out of office, so the organiser wasn't sure I was doing it, so only ended up modelling for 1 of the 3 boutiques. Also missed out on the free shoes one of the boutiques gave to all their models. It is strange what implications on your life the knock has. But the one I did model for put me in some beautiful clothes.
Work has not been easy. I work for the same company as my OH, but different department. OH has been suspended. I spoke to 2 of his colleagues yesterday lunchtime. By the end of day, I had been summoned by line manager to say a complaint had been made to HR and I am now no longer to speak to any of my OHs colleagues. About anything! Not even the weather.
So, bit of a mixed week.
I hope you have all managed to find some brightness this week xx
Hello Friday check in, I've had the week off work and enjoyed a night in a hotel right beside the beach. I've also attended the first of a serious of workshops aimed to improve mental health. This week was called the inner critic and was quite enlightening. I think the fact that I'm able to go and do things like that shows that I am slowly mending. I've still got a long way to go but I can see small steps of progress.
Tomorrow we're taking the grandchildren out into nature with wellie boots and waterproof coats.
Upset, I hope you have a good visit with HC tomorrow and Inturmoil I hope you feel better soon.
I wish you all a peaceful weekend and send strength to all those that need it.
Tomorrow we're taking the grandchildren out into nature with wellie boots and waterproof coats.
Upset, I hope you have a good visit with HC tomorrow and Inturmoil I hope you feel better soon.
I wish you all a peaceful weekend and send strength to all those that need it.
Hello Friday Check-in,
A lot has been going on in my life and all of it makes me so sad.
A couple of weeks ago after an argument at work OH drove off and left me stranded there, taking my keys with him and refused to return them. It meant a 60+ mile round trip for my dad to go and pick them up so I could get into the house. OH moved out completely after that.
His parents then sent me a nasty email telling me if he commits suicide it'll be my fault (I know it wouldn't be but it really hurt that they'd say such an unconscionable thing) and that our relationship has been in decline for some considerable time, which couldn't be further from the truth. I truly believed we had a really happy marriage, we did so many great things together, got on brilliantly, and we were looking forward to our future together. But he's obviously feeding them (and his solicitor?) a pack of lies and they believe him, despite it now being evident he's lied and deceived us all for decades. I feel that they're hitting out at me, trying to take some of the responsibility off him.
I’ve filed for divorce because of all that he's done (I discovered it's not only IIOC). I'm sickened by his actions and I couldn't ever trust him again. Our house is on the market and our business has finally closed.
Everyone close to me who know what's happened says I should be looking forward towards my new future but all I feel is that everything's coming to an end.
A lot has been going on in my life and all of it makes me so sad.
A couple of weeks ago after an argument at work OH drove off and left me stranded there, taking my keys with him and refused to return them. It meant a 60+ mile round trip for my dad to go and pick them up so I could get into the house. OH moved out completely after that.
His parents then sent me a nasty email telling me if he commits suicide it'll be my fault (I know it wouldn't be but it really hurt that they'd say such an unconscionable thing) and that our relationship has been in decline for some considerable time, which couldn't be further from the truth. I truly believed we had a really happy marriage, we did so many great things together, got on brilliantly, and we were looking forward to our future together. But he's obviously feeding them (and his solicitor?) a pack of lies and they believe him, despite it now being evident he's lied and deceived us all for decades. I feel that they're hitting out at me, trying to take some of the responsibility off him.
I’ve filed for divorce because of all that he's done (I discovered it's not only IIOC). I'm sickened by his actions and I couldn't ever trust him again. Our house is on the market and our business has finally closed.
Everyone close to me who know what's happened says I should be looking forward towards my new future but all I feel is that everything's coming to an end.
Lost and torn, end of this chapter but your.aboit to write the next chapter and you will make it incredible, your stronger than you know ??
Hello friday check in
I hope you will have a good visit tomorrow Upset. Lostandtorn I feel your pain. Recently i foun dout more things regarding my OH and i am not sure i can move passed it. So i may be splitting from OH. I have not even split yet and a family member was talking about getting some one new.....i could not believe it. Crikey been married forever, i am not going to just be able to move on that quickly, if ever.....
My week has not been good at all. I have realised this week that all my life options is not what i want, so been feeling very sorry for myself. Chocolate and Baileys have been my friend this week. I feel stuck in a loop, that i cannot move on from. But been binge watching The Staircase (thank you Upset for the idea) so that keeps me occupied. Got a lovely day planned for tomorrow though, hair to be done, visit a friends puppy then tea out with another firend. So not all bad......
Hope everyone manages to have some joy this weekend.x
I hope you will have a good visit tomorrow Upset. Lostandtorn I feel your pain. Recently i foun dout more things regarding my OH and i am not sure i can move passed it. So i may be splitting from OH. I have not even split yet and a family member was talking about getting some one new.....i could not believe it. Crikey been married forever, i am not going to just be able to move on that quickly, if ever.....
My week has not been good at all. I have realised this week that all my life options is not what i want, so been feeling very sorry for myself. Chocolate and Baileys have been my friend this week. I feel stuck in a loop, that i cannot move on from. But been binge watching The Staircase (thank you Upset for the idea) so that keeps me occupied. Got a lovely day planned for tomorrow though, hair to be done, visit a friends puppy then tea out with another firend. So not all bad......
Hope everyone manages to have some joy this weekend.x
Hi all - I feel for the ladies that haven't had a kind week and still reeling over the news about Pricess Kate, I hope our evil media are proud of themselves to have hounded her at such a traumatic time for her and her family. I'm not really a royal family person but my heart reaches out to them.
My week has been quite busy overall but productive. My son has another new key person who has advised a couple of courses that would be suitable for him. I just hope this moves forward - he so desperately needs more direction these days. Always lots of words at these meetings met by a dead end. Fingers crossed.
Wish you all well - my wonderful, strong and kind ladies/blanket hug sent. X
My week has been quite busy overall but productive. My son has another new key person who has advised a couple of courses that would be suitable for him. I just hope this moves forward - he so desperately needs more direction these days. Always lots of words at these meetings met by a dead end. Fingers crossed.
Wish you all well - my wonderful, strong and kind ladies/blanket hug sent. X
Intermoil1974, thanks, I know and I will, I have no other choice, but right now it doesn't feel like it. Five months ago my life was brilliant so losing everything I knew and trusted, as well as my business and my home, is a hell of lot to come to terms with all at once. xx
Webb89, I'm sorry you've discovered more about your OH. After all the initial horrific revelations about mine in October last year, I then found out in January about his in-person contact with children and it's what put the final nail in the coffin. I know what you mean about others' comments - my oldest friend is already talking about me finding someone new, it's ridiculous in these early days, especially when you've been with someone for over 20 years! But I guess they're just trying to help and be positive for us. xx
Webb89, I'm sorry you've discovered more about your OH. After all the initial horrific revelations about mine in October last year, I then found out in January about his in-person contact with children and it's what put the final nail in the coffin. I know what you mean about others' comments - my oldest friend is already talking about me finding someone new, it's ridiculous in these early days, especially when you've been with someone for over 20 years! But I guess they're just trying to help and be positive for us. xx
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We've had a wonderful day at our Botanical gardens today. Lovely weather, blue sky and beautiful flowers. Kids loved the playground there and also did some arts and crafts. Our 3 1/2 year old went to a toddler yoga class and the instructor was impressed with how well he did.
I wish you all a wonderful weekend! xx
I wish you all a wonderful weekend! xx
Just x
How awful for you I can imagine how hard this is for you all x
I hope your son gets support to help him cope and that things settle down for you all x
Do you have some support as your wellbeing is equally important?
Not much advise but thinking of you and sending hugs xx
How awful for you I can imagine how hard this is for you all x
I hope your son gets support to help him cope and that things settle down for you all x
Do you have some support as your wellbeing is equally important?
Not much advise but thinking of you and sending hugs xx
Afternoon Chelsea1 x
Were all good thank you x
Hope you and hubby are doing ok xx
Were all good thank you x
Hope you and hubby are doing ok xx
Inturmoil x
Tennaladies made me chuckle :-) I do hope you feel better soon x
Love a girly film night hope you both had some nice treats to eat during the film x
It's good to hear the job is going ok for hubby and that he is getting some much needed calmer sleep x
Tennaladies made me chuckle :-) I do hope you feel better soon x
Love a girly film night hope you both had some nice treats to eat during the film x
It's good to hear the job is going ok for hubby and that he is getting some much needed calmer sleep x
Horsegirl x
Well done for returning back to work , having a normal routine really does help well apart from the 611 emails hopefully you could delete most of them though!
Were you able to keep the clothes you wore? Shame about missing out on the shoes
Sorry you were called in to HR it seems very harsh!
Keep making sure you look after yourself x
Well done for returning back to work , having a normal routine really does help well apart from the 611 emails hopefully you could delete most of them though!
Were you able to keep the clothes you wore? Shame about missing out on the shoes
Sorry you were called in to HR it seems very harsh!
Keep making sure you look after yourself x
Ocean x
How lovely to have managed a well needed break in a hotel right by the sea sounds idyllic
Its great that you are managing to get involved with wellbeing classes, you will have to let me know how you get on x
Hope your day with the grandchildren, raincoat and wellies went well, I bet they loved it xx
How lovely to have managed a well needed break in a hotel right by the sea sounds idyllic
Its great that you are managing to get involved with wellbeing classes, you will have to let me know how you get on x
Hope your day with the grandchildren, raincoat and wellies went well, I bet they loved it xx
Lost x
How awful and how dare they email you to put there own selfish thoughts on to you ,
Unfortunately we cannot control others and the actions but you can control how you choose to gather your strength and get through this x
People often struggle on what to say and no doubt your friends are truly just wanting to see you get through this but it really difficult for anyone to understand unfortunately we cant just switch of our feelings it's almost like grieving as what you thought your life would be to how it has actually turned out is miles apart
All you can do is get through each day as best you can, find your feet and the rest will slowly fall in to place xx
How awful and how dare they email you to put there own selfish thoughts on to you ,
Unfortunately we cannot control others and the actions but you can control how you choose to gather your strength and get through this x
People often struggle on what to say and no doubt your friends are truly just wanting to see you get through this but it really difficult for anyone to understand unfortunately we cant just switch of our feelings it's almost like grieving as what you thought your life would be to how it has actually turned out is miles apart
All you can do is get through each day as best you can, find your feet and the rest will slowly fall in to place xx
Webb89 x
Each day at a time lovely, you will get through this I promise x
Chocolate and Baileys and watching the staircase (bliss)
Its great you are meeting up with friends and of course beautiful walks with the furbabys and some time to pamper yourself xx
Each day at a time lovely, you will get through this I promise x
Chocolate and Baileys and watching the staircase (bliss)
Its great you are meeting up with friends and of course beautiful walks with the furbabys and some time to pamper yourself xx
Smile x
Glad your son has a new keyworker hopefully they will finally get round to sorting out some education classes etc for him xx
Hugs sent back as always xx
Glad your son has a new keyworker hopefully they will finally get round to sorting out some education classes etc for him xx
Hugs sent back as always xx
Bettyboo65 x
So sorry you lost your furbaby they really do leave a huge gap dont they x it's good to still get out in the fresh air and I'm sure having your person out with you is good for there own wellbeing also x
I hope the trial date is not delayed as much as we dont want the date here we will at least have the outcome the uncertainty and been in limbo really does take its toll x
My sons belly was definitely full after our visit and the journey home within the space of half an hour we had, sunshine, rain, hailstones, then sunshine again good old British weather eh xx
So sorry you lost your furbaby they really do leave a huge gap dont they x it's good to still get out in the fresh air and I'm sure having your person out with you is good for there own wellbeing also x
I hope the trial date is not delayed as much as we dont want the date here we will at least have the outcome the uncertainty and been in limbo really does take its toll x
My sons belly was definitely full after our visit and the journey home within the space of half an hour we had, sunshine, rain, hailstones, then sunshine again good old British weather eh xx
Hpl111
So pleased you had some great family time at the botanical gardens and the children had a lovely time x
Just what you need to have it makes such a difference dosent it x
So pleased you had some great family time at the botanical gardens and the children had a lovely time x
Just what you need to have it makes such a difference dosent it x
Hi all,
sending big hugs to those who have had a difficult time this last week and strength to those facing challenges xxx
Such sad news about the Princess of Wales and so brave of her to share it - I really hope that the vile trolls and media are thoroughly ashamed but somehow I doubt it.
Upset I hope your HC is doing well and that he had a good feed during your visit.
Smile I hope your son gets some help with courses it would make such a difference wouldn't it?
My week has been very positive because I had a lovely few days away with a dear friend and caught up with my other son too and came back home to some very good news.
As always love and hugs to everyone on here xx
sending big hugs to those who have had a difficult time this last week and strength to those facing challenges xxx
Such sad news about the Princess of Wales and so brave of her to share it - I really hope that the vile trolls and media are thoroughly ashamed but somehow I doubt it.
Upset I hope your HC is doing well and that he had a good feed during your visit.
Smile I hope your son gets some help with courses it would make such a difference wouldn't it?
My week has been very positive because I had a lovely few days away with a dear friend and caught up with my other son too and came back home to some very good news.
As always love and hugs to everyone on here xx