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Upset mum

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June 2020

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Posted Fri March 29, 2024 1:31pmReport post

Good afternoon lovlies x

Happy Easter Weekend I hope you all have something nice to look forward to x

I have the furbaby this weekend so last nights walk and this mornings we both got soaked! I have just been food shopping and the sun has decided to show its beautiful self so going to take her out before it rains again :-)

I have a vist Sunday morning with my HC just going on my own to break up the long weekend, he is doing well on of the lads on his wing lent him the first Dune film so he enjoy watching that, he had Avatar 2 to watch over the weekend so hopefully he can just relax over the next few days x

I hope your week has been kind to you all

Love sent as always xx

Ocean

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September 2023

772 posts

Posted Fri March 29, 2024 2:52pmReport post

Good afternoon Upset and happy Easter. I'm pleased to know that your son is doing well and that you've managed to arrange a visit over the weekend with him.

I don't have a lot planned for this weekend so am going to be spontaneous and just see what's going on in my local area and get out and enjoy it. Although it's windy here it's also warm and sunny so I've been able to get out this morning without a coat.

I know these long bank holiday weekends can be so difficult for many of you so I'm here for you if you want to reach out.

Inturmoil1974

Member since
November 2022

279 posts

Posted Fri March 29, 2024 6:20pmReport post

Happy good Friday all, mixed week for me comment from oh supervisor didn't help then last night neighbours friend went to say something into our ring doorbell my neighbour stopped her friend, but it's the thought of it. It's been my daughter birthday and my nephew arrived with her card it was literally a one minute visit hubby has taken it personally, where I am saying he could have posted it through the door he didn't need to come in at all. I feel like i am rambling on tonight just been a funny couple of days,

I am working saturday sunday then annual leave for a week quality time with my daughter.

Have as good as a weekend as possible everyone x

Upset mum

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June 2020

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Posted Fri March 29, 2024 7:13pmReport post

Ocean x

I hope your spontaneous weekend is full of some lovely things x

How is your son doing?x

Upset mum

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June 2020

2403 posts

Posted Fri March 29, 2024 7:22pmReport post

Inturmoil x

Firstly Happy Birthday to your Babygirl x enjoy your time together next week xx

I am sorry you have also had some incidents with your OH supervisor and the issue with someone wanting to spread there own opinions via your ringdoorbell

I can imagine your OH taking your nephews brief visit to heart it must have been difficult x

This journey really does take its toll but remember you have us to learn on when you need us xx

Confusedwife

Member since
October 2022

169 posts

Posted Fri March 29, 2024 8:04pmReport post

Hi upsetmum



That sounds so lovely I absolutely love taking my fur baby out walking, Iv actually found walking is a huge help. Although the weather here has been totally rubbish, we've had a little sunshine but not much.



we're now almost 2 years since the arrest and still hubbys phone is in a line waiting to be checked, I cannont believe the time this all takes. We were told 3-6 months at the start, I think the police full well knew that was a load of bull. I'm trying so hard to be postive and live our life's but everyday I'm thinking is today the day it changes again. Constantly carrying the fear of the media and everyone finding out.

Dawn19

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June 2023

149 posts

Posted Fri March 29, 2024 8:08pmReport post

Happy Easter all

I am now on two weeks Easter holiday and I am so ready for the break. These past 2 weeks I've been really fed up at work. I had been moved out of the busy reception and into a quieter office as they were concerned about my standard of work. But it's okay when they want me to cover reception like I had to for 2 days this week. It really feels like I have 3 bosses with the school business manager (who is actually my boss), the school business assistant and the office manager all giving me orders. I have been there for 18 years and I know how to do my job but sometimes it feels like they think I can't. It doesn't help that I've had a heavy cold and not feeling 100% so didn't feel much like answering the phone. I wish I had put 'do not disturb ' on my phone yesterday as I was really struggling to speak.

I am looking forward to having a break and recharging my batteries. Haven't got anything planned but I know that we won't be seeing much of our 15 year old as she has already made loads of plans with her friends and boyfriend. My oh is able to stop at home for the next couple of days as our daughter is staying at our other daughter's house and they are having a stranger things marathon. Then we have an Easter egg hung planned on Sunday, which our eldest daughter is very excited about even though she is 19. She's now on maternity leave as she is due in 2weeks, so we are looking forward to that and also my birthday next Saturday.

Upset mum

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June 2020

2403 posts

Posted Fri March 29, 2024 8:18pmReport post

Confused x

Even in the rain it's just precious time to think of nothing but one foot in front of the other and see the furbaby enjoy themselves x

Honestly the time waiting is bloody horrendous

We were told on the day of the knock it would take about 9 weeks maximum, 19 months later, but we manage to get through it

As for the media that was also my biggest concern but we have no control over it unfortunately, but please try to think of how far you have come and how incredibly strong you are, try not to think of the what ifs (easier said than done I know) get through each day as best as you possibly can,

Sending hugs xx

Upset mum

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June 2020

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Posted Fri March 29, 2024 8:25pmReport post

Dawn x

Oh wow she could go in to labour on your Birthday! How lovely would that be to share your special day, you will have to keep us updated x

Enjoy your well deserved break x I am so sorry work has been difficult and that you have been full of cold , so speedy recovery, did they consult you before moving you away from your role? Do they know your situation? xx

Dawn19

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June 2023

149 posts

Posted Fri March 29, 2024 8:43pmReport post

Thanks Upset, it's so exciting and something to look forward to in these dark times.

Yes, work do know my situation and I believe that's the reason why I was moved. I wasn't consulted. My role hasn't changed; I'm just doing it in a different office x

Edited Fri March 29, 2024 8:45pm

hpl111

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November 2022

392 posts

Posted Fri March 29, 2024 8:46pmReport post

We had a good day, went to the playground with the kids and made sure they got lots of fresh air. They also ate lots of chocolate today, which gave them a sugar rush.

My husband is building something like a garden couch for us at the moment.

He's good at DIY and it also keeps his mind off things.

His OIC texted him a few days ago that the contents of his phone had been downloaded now, he would review them and would update him in due course.

Which is really weird, because my husband's solicitor has been in touch with the OIC throughout the investigation and the police have had his phones and the forensic report back since August 23!

I wish you all a wonderful Easter xx

Upset mum

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June 2020

2403 posts

Posted Fri March 29, 2024 9:07pmReport post

Dawn x

We definitely need the positive to outweigh the dark journey we find ourselves on x

As for work it's just another hurdle to get through but as hard as it is dont let it bring you down , you will find the strength to get through this x

You just need to recharge, and hopefully you will be able to over the next 2 weeks ,

Its going to be your Birthday, you are going to be an amazing nanny soon, so exciting x

Upset mum

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June 2020

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Posted Fri March 29, 2024 9:15pmReport post

Hpl111 x

Oh dear I dont envy you with the sugar rush :-) but glad your day has been filled with some lovely family time xx

Oh wow the garden couch sounds lovely and like you said it keeps OH mind busy which is good x

This journey certainly takes its toll and the mixed information definitely does not help does it, keep focused on the positives as each day is another step forward xx

Webb89

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July 2022

438 posts

Posted Fri March 29, 2024 10:24pmReport post

Hello friday check in

My life is very up and down at the moment. I go from total despair to managing everything. I think I want my old life back so much, but then realise this is not possible. Not sure if there is an answer. I know time heals but i am finding things challenging.
But, got a lovely walk organised tomorrow. Up in the mountains which is always good. It really is my happy place. The friend i am going with does not know my situation so at least i can forget things for a while. I am just focusing on that at the moment. Sorting my bedroom out ready for decorating, so that is keeping me busy. Spent time with my daughter today playing a computer game together, that was great fun.
I just need a break, a holiday and will get this in a few weeks. But before then thinking on going away on my own, to chill and relax. Never stayed in a hotel on my own for more than one night before so going to think hard about that. Sorry i am just rambling on.

hope everyone has a nice easter.

Smile through tears

Member since
September 2021

2555 posts

Posted Sat March 30, 2024 4:53amReport post

Hello lovely ladies.......

All ok this end. Couple of blips but now dealt with. Managed to get the mower out yesterday inbetween showers, love gardening, so rewarding when it's nice & tidy, come on sunshine!

The boy doing fine, still waiting for a response on courses he's applied for, plus little gardening, gosh it'd drive me mad - in prison it's SO slow. On Monday they had an MP visit, she looked round the gardens and spoke to my son about his work and praised the team....... he liked that, and why not, positives are SO important!!

Easter is upon us, not a lot out the ordinary planned but a welcome break from work to recharge. So it's cups of tea + m&s extra cheesy hot cross buns and perhaps sitting in a beer garden if we get some sun!

Take care my lovely ladies and as always my thoughts are with you all xxxxxxxxxxx xxx

Upset mum

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June 2020

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Posted Sat March 30, 2024 10:09amReport post

Webb89 x

Enjoy your walk sounds idyllic

I'm sorry it's been another week of uncertainty but you are keeping busy so that's good xx

I often think of just getting away but like you I'm not sure if I could stay somewhere on my own but there are so many solo travelers that do, maybe one day I will find the courage to book somewhere x

The sun is out here so made the most of a nice long walk this morning x

Upset mum

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June 2020

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Posted Sat March 30, 2024 10:12amReport post

Smile x

Glad our boy is doing ok and totally agree about them receiving positive feedback it does make a huge difference to them x

Enjoy your hot x buns and cuppa x

If you manage to get to the pub have one or 2 for me please xx

Horsegirl

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February 2024

29 posts

Posted Sat March 30, 2024 11:08amReport post

Hello everyone.

Big hugs to those who need them this week xx

I have had a better week. Work has actually been ok. The fear of someone asking about my OH has lessened and I was able to concentrate better this week.

My OH has had a good week too. I was out with family yesterday and he popped out and got lots of food for us to celebrate Easter Sunday. We haven't been the same with one another since the knock 8 weeks ago. So I am hoping for some normality this weekend.

Seaside

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July 2022

561 posts

Posted Sat March 30, 2024 11:57amReport post

Happy Easter all - I know that for many this will be a difficult time and am sending you love and support always remember you are not alone xx

Had a good week here and the sun is shining which always helps my mood.

Son is doing well and enjoying getting back into running again.

Upset love as always to your HC and Smile I am pleased to hear that your boy was praised for his work it makes all the difference.

Upset mum

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June 2020

2403 posts

Posted Sun March 31, 2024 6:44pmReport post

Seaside x

As always I look forward to hearing from you xx

Glad your son has found his passion in running again I bet it helps him so much in just feeling the fresh air on his face and not having to think of anything other than one step at a time x

It must be a relief for you seeing him in a better space x

I had a lovely visit with HC today time flew by we just talked and talked for 2 hours, it made me just appreciate how far we have come , I have always been there for my 3 they are my world, but yet with HC we could barely talk I totally understand now! As much as I wish we were not here on this journey I am just so so grateful for the relationship we have xx

They had no crumpets today but he had toast plus

6 slices to be presice

A bag of ready salted crisps

2 x 3 bourbon biscuits

Bar of chocolate

Chocolate cake

Bag of peanut m&ms

Oh and a banana:-) xx

Webb89

Member since
July 2022

438 posts

Posted Sun March 31, 2024 7:33pmReport post

Thanks for the update on the HC. Glad you had a good visit. X

Ocean

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September 2023

772 posts

Posted Sun March 31, 2024 8:46pmReport post

Hi Upset, it does make me smile when I read the list of food HC manages to consume in your 2 hour visit. I'm so pleased that your relationship with your son continues to grow and that you had such a good visit.