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Long story short husband has been charged with posession and distributing iioc .
My 2 young children (9 and 10) have not had any contact with him for months due to restrictions places by social services. They have said this is due to the nature on the content on the phone .
I have had a visit from the social worker recently and she has asked me where do I see contact going in the future . I said I would like ten children to have contact .
she said even after all these charges you still consider contact ?! It had made me feel under pressure and like I'm doing the wrong thing . She also in I hated that it will be years before contact is allowed. Talking about the children when they are 15 years old etc ( as I said they are 9 and 10)
my children are the most important thing on this planet to me and I would never put them in any harm .
they have been asked questions by social service before and they have confirmed they have never been harmed by their father .
it's just an a absolute nightmare . I still can't believe this is my kids life . No dad
My 2 young children (9 and 10) have not had any contact with him for months due to restrictions places by social services. They have said this is due to the nature on the content on the phone .
I have had a visit from the social worker recently and she has asked me where do I see contact going in the future . I said I would like ten children to have contact .
she said even after all these charges you still consider contact ?! It had made me feel under pressure and like I'm doing the wrong thing . She also in I hated that it will be years before contact is allowed. Talking about the children when they are 15 years old etc ( as I said they are 9 and 10)
my children are the most important thing on this planet to me and I would never put them in any harm .
they have been asked questions by social service before and they have confirmed they have never been harmed by their father .
it's just an a absolute nightmare . I still can't believe this is my kids life . No dad
Hi, sorry you are in this situation, sw sounds not very helpful at all.
I don't understand why no contact is allowed at all, not even supervised contact? Even if it's with another family member?
my husband is also looking at the same charges were still waiting, it's been since July 22. He wasn't allowed contact for 5 weeks but ever since Iv been allowed to supervise on my own. He's now back at home with us as he's Rui. My children are now 11 and 12 so around the same age my my hubby was arrested.
has your husband told you everything? Is there something they know that he hasn't told you?
I don't understand why no contact is allowed at all, not even supervised contact? Even if it's with another family member?
my husband is also looking at the same charges were still waiting, it's been since July 22. He wasn't allowed contact for 5 weeks but ever since Iv been allowed to supervise on my own. He's now back at home with us as he's Rui. My children are now 11 and 12 so around the same age my my hubby was arrested.
has your husband told you everything? Is there something they know that he hasn't told you?
basically she said that what was found on the phone was children similar age to his own and that's why he can't see them at all or even speak to them.
he tells me he was part of a group chat and all sorts of things where shared or all ages .
it makes me so angry even writing that
he tells me he was part of a group chat and all sorts of things where shared or all ages .
it makes me so angry even writing that
It seems different sw work differently which is totally unfair, could she maybe using her own personal opinions. Is it worth requesting a different sw? Theyre supposed to also work with us to help, not against us.
I think it's terrible especially when the children are clearly not been harmed and are missing their dad. Has the sw thought about their mental health? I know they have to protect the children, but they clearly miss him. There are things that can be put in place for contact to happen.
is your husband working on himself? My husband attend Saa every week to help work on himself and has done the course.
I think it's terrible especially when the children are clearly not been harmed and are missing their dad. Has the sw thought about their mental health? I know they have to protect the children, but they clearly miss him. There are things that can be put in place for contact to happen.
is your husband working on himself? My husband attend Saa every week to help work on himself and has done the course.
Yes he's attending weekly therapy.
SW says the risk that he is getting sexual gratification from the children is greater than the need for them to see him and "they don't take these decisions lightly"
I feel if I question her too much I may be seen as not protective
SW says the risk that he is getting sexual gratification from the children is greater than the need for them to see him and "they don't take these decisions lightly"
I feel if I question her too much I may be seen as not protective
Hi,
What plan are the children on? Two things that could help are requesting that your husband gives you full disclosure from his solicitor and also looking into an independent risk assessment. You can ask if ss will fund an independent risk assessment, there are a few recommended on here if you search and lff and circles offer this service too.
It sounds like no contact is to make their life easier and that isn't the point of ss involvement.
You might also fine it helpful to follow up every appointment with an email to clarify what has been said and the next steps, they shouldn't keep the children on any plan with no clear action points xxx
What plan are the children on? Two things that could help are requesting that your husband gives you full disclosure from his solicitor and also looking into an independent risk assessment. You can ask if ss will fund an independent risk assessment, there are a few recommended on here if you search and lff and circles offer this service too.
It sounds like no contact is to make their life easier and that isn't the point of ss involvement.
You might also fine it helpful to follow up every appointment with an email to clarify what has been said and the next steps, they shouldn't keep the children on any plan with no clear action points xxx