Split blended family
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It is now a month since myself & my husband, who's son offended when 15(now 17) split up.12 years together all over but as tough as it is facing up to reality I know I did the right thing ending my marriage & supporting my 2 grown up children.
I put my heart & soul into our blended family but sadly our differences went from cracks to unrepairable divides once my stepson offended & my husband refused to face the reality of what his son had done & he needed to be open with us all to make our family work.
I brought my children up to be open & to find ways together to move forward when we had challenges but no my husband wouldn't do that so in my eyes it was the end of us
In life you never know what's round the corner but you have to keep those who love you close????
I put my heart & soul into our blended family but sadly our differences went from cracks to unrepairable divides once my stepson offended & my husband refused to face the reality of what his son had done & he needed to be open with us all to make our family work.
I brought my children up to be open & to find ways together to move forward when we had challenges but no my husband wouldn't do that so in my eyes it was the end of us
In life you never know what's round the corner but you have to keep those who love you close????
I am so sorry that your life has been impacted this way. My OH will never talk about his offending, its as if it never happended. My life has changed completely but he justs swans around in his own little world. You come across as such a caring step mother and it is shame your step son will not have you in his life, at the moment. But like you say, you care for your children and one day your step son may get back in touch.
sending you a virual hug
sending you a virual hug
Thank u lots for replying.Take care x
Just wanted to add I thought you sounded like a very caring and supportive step mum. 12 years is a long time and he will have been part of your life since a little boy. All the advice you were giving sounded supportive and reasonable. I dont want to generalise but I have found from my own lived experience and from this forum the women of the "family" tend to be the proactive force for change and positivity. Men seem less able to cope. Apologies to any men on here who are supporting sons. Good luck to you, you can hold your head high with the knowledge you always had your stepson interests at heart. I hope your ex does not look back with regret at not accepting your support and advice. Xx
Thank u so much x