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My partner is under investigation for chatting with someone 13 yrs old on some strangers online chat. He texted inappropriate things (such as "I would like to kiss you" or "Would like you to be sitting on me") and in the chat the person state clearly "I am 13 yrs old"
He also sent a picture of his legs on underwear (police even found the same underwear from the picture when they came home and took it as evidence) he ask for an unappropriate picture back (the messages said "naughty image") which he didnt received and then the communication stopped.
It was something of around 15 minutes and he never had any other.
Police took his devices and he says to me and his solicitor that he has no images or anything else.
Solicitor said these are not enough evidences but I am confused. I don't know how the solicitor does not considerate all these as enough. We are trying a private solicitor for a second opinion. Is anyone else in a similar situation or case? I know that every case is different, I am just trying to be prepare to the worst at the moment! I have no clue about legal charges or things like that. If anyone has anything to share with me I would really appreciate it.
He also sent a picture of his legs on underwear (police even found the same underwear from the picture when they came home and took it as evidence) he ask for an unappropriate picture back (the messages said "naughty image") which he didnt received and then the communication stopped.
It was something of around 15 minutes and he never had any other.
Police took his devices and he says to me and his solicitor that he has no images or anything else.
Solicitor said these are not enough evidences but I am confused. I don't know how the solicitor does not considerate all these as enough. We are trying a private solicitor for a second opinion. Is anyone else in a similar situation or case? I know that every case is different, I am just trying to be prepare to the worst at the moment! I have no clue about legal charges or things like that. If anyone has anything to share with me I would really appreciate it.
My persons crime was very similar to your persons and he was charged with communication and inciting. I would look on the sentencing council website to get an idea of the sentence and see if there any mitigating/agrivating factors that would potentially impact the outcome for your personal circumstances.
I'm happy to message privately about my persons outcome but as you've said each persons case is handled so differently.
Sorry you're having to go through this too x
I'm happy to message privately about my persons outcome but as you've said each persons case is handled so differently.
Sorry you're having to go through this too x
My persons case was similar. He received a 3 year community order, 5 years sor and 5 year shpo with online restrictions only, 100 hours community service, a small fine and the horizon rehabilitation course.
Prisons are incredibly overcrowded but it's better to prepare for any sentencing outcome as there are so many variables. Seeking support is important for both of you, calling the helpline is a good starting point. This journey can be long so at the moment focusing on one day at a time can help to manage the feeling of overwhelm.
Sending love and strength xxx
Prisons are incredibly overcrowded but it's better to prepare for any sentencing outcome as there are so many variables. Seeking support is important for both of you, calling the helpline is a good starting point. This journey can be long so at the moment focusing on one day at a time can help to manage the feeling of overwhelm.
Sending love and strength xxx
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Hello @distressed. Yes, I have only been in this for a few days and feel it will be the hardest thing I ever go through in life. I feel I am still in a state of shock, with yesterday night being unable to sleep and asking myself if this was just a nightmare and when I was going to wake up. It has been awful. Seven years with this person, and I had never doubted anything, such a shock. Do you think a private solicitor would be of any help? Or do you have any experience with that? The solicitor he had in the first interview never responded back and doesn't even know the day of the second interview, so it's just a big question mark about what follows. I was in such shock the day they came home that they even took some devices that were mine, like a memory stick that I need for work, and I didn't notice it. I don't even know how to get that back or if it is appropriate to contact them.
Hello @helpneeded1. Thanks so much for your reply. I do not have the messaging function active yet as I entered this forum a few days ago, and it's still less than a week since all this nightmare started. I will reach out to you as soon as I am able. Thanks a lot for the information and support. All so new for me and feel quite lost and lonely.
Hi Galaxy,
sorry you're on this awful journey.
just thought it would be helpful for you to know that the officer in charge of the case should have left contact details. It is worth contacting them regarding the memory stick as they will then prioritise it if you need it for work.
the second interview won't be arranged for a long time, the solicitor will be contacted first and then they should contact your person.
be prepared for a long wait - my OH had 6 months between knock and second interview and that was relatively quick.
sending you strength xx
sorry you're on this awful journey.
just thought it would be helpful for you to know that the officer in charge of the case should have left contact details. It is worth contacting them regarding the memory stick as they will then prioritise it if you need it for work.
the second interview won't be arranged for a long time, the solicitor will be contacted first and then they should contact your person.
be prepared for a long wait - my OH had 6 months between knock and second interview and that was relatively quick.
sending you strength xx
I don't have any experience of appointing a private solicitor. The original solicitor won't know the date or anything about the second interview because this will be after devices are checked usually and not everyone has a second interview. If the person posing as a child was a police decoy they will have all of the supporting evidence so they will be looking for anything else that can support their case to CPS in order to charge. I'd question the solicitor's knowledge because from what you've described from the chat they will have enough evidence to put a case forward.
Those first few weeks are hell but if I could go back in time some things I'd probably do differently is to get full disclosure from the solicitor, seek specialist therapy and not overwhelm myself with every what if in the world.
Try to eat and sleep when you can. I promise you this will pass and you can make decisions further down the line xxx
Those first few weeks are hell but if I could go back in time some things I'd probably do differently is to get full disclosure from the solicitor, seek specialist therapy and not overwhelm myself with every what if in the world.
Try to eat and sleep when you can. I promise you this will pass and you can make decisions further down the line xxx
Thank you all! I am so glad I found this forum. It's an awful journey but at least I feel someone else can understand me.
My heart goes out to you.
I'm having the same thoughts and its the most frightening thing I've ever had to deal with.6 days since the beginning if this horrific journey.
In terms of solicitors. We have just appointed one and that gives me a feeling of a little control. However it is horribly costly and don't know how long funds will last..
Seiding hugs from my family to yours xxx
I'm having the same thoughts and its the most frightening thing I've ever had to deal with.6 days since the beginning if this horrific journey.
In terms of solicitors. We have just appointed one and that gives me a feeling of a little control. However it is horribly costly and don't know how long funds will last..
Seiding hugs from my family to yours xxx