Change kids name to avoid media
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We are a while away from courts, but doing as much to be proactive and protective for my son. My person has an extremely unique surname, he has moved area but if it gets published it is an obvious link to me and my son. I am planning on going back to maiden name and wondered about changing my sons to it too. It will hopefully avoid the link if it goes public.
I know I need my person to agree but hope he sees that it is in sons interest (but I fully understand this will be a dagger in his heart and he may refuse)
Has anyone changed kids/family name? Was it worth it?
I know I need my person to agree but hope he sees that it is in sons interest (but I fully understand this will be a dagger in his heart and he may refuse)
Has anyone changed kids/family name? Was it worth it?
My grandchildren changed their name for exactly the same reason. Although upsetting for my son he understood the reasons why. Simple procedure to do it and I agree it was for the best x
Thank you mandymoo,
Its such a balancing act but got to put son 1st,i just really hope my person agrees, it's alot with housing, divorce, court etc I don't want to overwhelm him but it needs sorting sooner than later but i imagine he will probably just see it as me been a cowbag ????
Its such a balancing act but got to put son 1st,i just really hope my person agrees, it's alot with housing, divorce, court etc I don't want to overwhelm him but it needs sorting sooner than later but i imagine he will probably just see it as me been a cowbag ????
Hi,
I think it depends on your sons age. If he is already established in school with his current surname and you're still in the same area then the link may be made anyway.
I wasn't married to my person and our daughter was born post sentencing and doesn't have his surname. One person who knew him years ago before we met managed to make the connection and tried to add me on Facebook after it was in the media.
It is a worrying time and I understand the need to feel disconnected from him before any possible media coverage. I suppose a lot depends on how aware of his surname your son is and whether he is old enough to understand the change. If he's under school age then the change will be easier to incorporate xxx
I think it depends on your sons age. If he is already established in school with his current surname and you're still in the same area then the link may be made anyway.
I wasn't married to my person and our daughter was born post sentencing and doesn't have his surname. One person who knew him years ago before we met managed to make the connection and tried to add me on Facebook after it was in the media.
It is a worrying time and I understand the need to feel disconnected from him before any possible media coverage. I suppose a lot depends on how aware of his surname your son is and whether he is old enough to understand the change. If he's under school age then the change will be easier to incorporate xxx
hi thanks for your reply, he is old enough to understand a name change, but I would go down the route of explaining the reason behind it is that we go back to my maiden name and I would like us to have the same surname... depending on sons reaction I may consider using the old surname as a middle name so he can keep that connection but for day to day ongoing school/life can use my maiden name- lots to think about!
*i may delete this thread before speaking to my person, so he doesnt accidently stumble accross my posts when he looks into options of changing kids name.
*i may delete this thread before speaking to my person, so he doesnt accidently stumble accross my posts when he looks into options of changing kids name.
Is your person set against changing his name? I think that's the easiest way forward for most as it avoids you and your child having to do all the forms and declare previous names in the future etc. it's not guaranteed but usually if the person changes name before charges the previous name isn't published (there are exceptions to this eg if the person is in a certain profession and the police release further details)
Inthemoment,
I thought it would be the easiest and best way forward for my ex to change his name but even if he did, they will use the name he had when he was arrested. So it's pointless.
I thought it would be the easiest and best way forward for my ex to change his name but even if he did, they will use the name he had when he was arrested. So it's pointless.