NFA but still social involvement?
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Hi, recently partner has been given NFA from police, - best possible outcome for us! but social are taking the steps for potential pre-proceedings, one social worker told us if nfa, they would go away but now we're being told completely different. Theyve told my biological father to my girls (he hasnt seen them for 2 years!!) involved, kicking all other members of family network off any safety plans, and just involving him. There was a huge amount of domestic abuse with him, which hes obviously denying to the LA and arent interested in evidence of this/ignoring what the children have said re him too, so they are basically calling me a liar, and that he will be having thr children as i'm seen to be minimising my partners behavoiur and favouring the relationship over the safety of my children, which cleary is NOT the case. Just feel like im being dragged through it all now hes involved the way he is, and im really strugglng with what to do
Hi l, A
That's is terrible, ss are a law into themselves at times and think they can bully you into something. If you have evidence on dv in your previous relationship and can prove that your ex hasn't had any involvement in your children lives they have no grounds. Also they had no right telling your ex about your Oh investigation because he wasn't charged. All they had to say to him that they are doing an assessment but can't give him the reason why they are involved, but the children are OK and its not about any neglect or harm to them. I would make a complaint to your local ss saying that they have breached data protection as they told your ex about your Oh with him being charged. I don't know if your children are at school bit even speak to the school if they are. (I know a little bit as worked in child protection before all of this. Also 3 of my 3 children have a different dad and ss haven't told him because of all the abuse I got when we was together)
I'm sorry your going through this xxx
That's is terrible, ss are a law into themselves at times and think they can bully you into something. If you have evidence on dv in your previous relationship and can prove that your ex hasn't had any involvement in your children lives they have no grounds. Also they had no right telling your ex about your Oh investigation because he wasn't charged. All they had to say to him that they are doing an assessment but can't give him the reason why they are involved, but the children are OK and its not about any neglect or harm to them. I would make a complaint to your local ss saying that they have breached data protection as they told your ex about your Oh with him being charged. I don't know if your children are at school bit even speak to the school if they are. (I know a little bit as worked in child protection before all of this. Also 3 of my 3 children have a different dad and ss haven't told him because of all the abuse I got when we was together)
I'm sorry your going through this xxx
I'm so sorry you're going through that! I was NFAd and social services are still involved although there is no doubt I am completely innocent, my partner is still being investigated and 200 miles away.
i was so worried they would tell my abusive ex husband who hasn't even tried to see the children in 1 1/2 years. SS in a different county told me I could use my PR and stop contact. He would also need to undergo a parenting assessment which he hasn't bothered to do. I was so scared this current would bring him back into our lives and undo all the good we've done in that time. I have a case open with the police for coercive control and sexual assault. I feel I need constant reassurance that they will not force contact as I'm absolutely terrified of him.
I hope you find a solution soon, it's completely irresponsible to put you all in such a dangerous situation xx
i was so worried they would tell my abusive ex husband who hasn't even tried to see the children in 1 1/2 years. SS in a different county told me I could use my PR and stop contact. He would also need to undergo a parenting assessment which he hasn't bothered to do. I was so scared this current would bring him back into our lives and undo all the good we've done in that time. I have a case open with the police for coercive control and sexual assault. I feel I need constant reassurance that they will not force contact as I'm absolutely terrified of him.
I hope you find a solution soon, it's completely irresponsible to put you all in such a dangerous situation xx