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Db

Member since
April 2023

12 posts

Posted Mon April 8, 2024 7:39amReport post

Hey guys, for those that don't know me quick back story, my husband at the time (I got granted a divorce rather quick) . Our house was raided and his devices we taking, he was also areasted, (he was bailed to his parents adress 3 hours away, he was not aloud contact with me or my children. Since his arrest in April 2023 the oic has made multiple visits to my house to basically tell me nothings happning yet and they are still investigating, the re arrested him from his parents house un November 2023 for a second interview on the additional stuff they found on his phones laptop etc, he was granted bail again. Since November I have have herd nothing, I got a call in January 2024 from the high court to basically say they are dealing with it. I have herd nothing since. My divorce came threw the end of Jan 2024, we are in scotland has any 1 eles been threw this? And what is the time scales. Surley he's had the chance to pleed guilty in this time frame? What if he dosent bleed guilty . Where do me and my children stand? My kids were interviewed at the beginning (but they were oblivious to there questions ). My children did not realise they were victims ( but the police found loads of evidence to say my 2 girls were infavt victims of his crimes, but he done this supper clever he was uploading normal family photos and letting others deface them and uploading "tribute pics" of them ages at the time were 12 and 9. There was also a hidden camera in there bedroom watching them get undressed etc, which had also been uploaded and shared among others , I have kept this very shelted from my girls my oldest daughter has cottoned on to whats been going on via adults speaking and hearing bits. But my problem is when it goes to courts they are going to be exposed to what's really happend and how do I come back from that, they are both nearly teenagers and I know the will rebeal. Any 1 in the same situation , sorry of this makes no sense.

Webb89

Member since
July 2022

438 posts

Posted Tue April 9, 2024 5:47pmReport post

I am so sorry you are going through this. I cannot help much I am afraid but wanted to bump this up in case there is anyone who can best help you. X

AnxiousGirl

Member since
December 2023

222 posts

Posted Tue April 9, 2024 9:06pmReport post

Not the same situation as yourself but I am in Scotland. From arrest to sentencing was only 10 months.

BaffledB

Member since
July 2021

876 posts

Posted Wed April 10, 2024 3:07pmReport post

I'm so sorry to hear of your situation. I would say the only thing you can do to protect your kids will be to keep in touch with the officer to be updated and when it's gearing up for court you could write a letter to the judge explaining the situation and in the interest of your children you ask that the case not be reported in the media or the case details be reported on. It should be upheld as clearly the needs of your children are at the forefront here, not public interest in the case.