I feel like the bad guy
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I'm fed up of being made to feel like the bad guy in our situation by my ex and his mum. I have tried to support him since this came out 6 months ago but I'm also very angry with him and don't want to be with him. He has started using his mental health against me, saying that's he's so lonely and that he just want another chance.
I gave him a second chance (for online contact with other women, I didn't know about the child thing) and within days of me forgiving him he was back doing it again. He has basically cheated on me with women online, ok so it's not physical but who's to say that if someone threw themselves at him he would be able to say no. I consider what he's done as cheating and I can't forgive the child stuff. Now he's trying to make out that it's my fault our family is broken, that if I loved him then I would take him back.
this is really not fair on me as I've not done anything wrong. I also feel like a failure as a mother because I couldn't keep our family together but I just don't trust him anymore and I can live in a marriage where there's no trust.
sorry this is a bit of a rant. Think I just needed to get it off my chest. Am I wrong in not wanting him back?
I gave him a second chance (for online contact with other women, I didn't know about the child thing) and within days of me forgiving him he was back doing it again. He has basically cheated on me with women online, ok so it's not physical but who's to say that if someone threw themselves at him he would be able to say no. I consider what he's done as cheating and I can't forgive the child stuff. Now he's trying to make out that it's my fault our family is broken, that if I loved him then I would take him back.
this is really not fair on me as I've not done anything wrong. I also feel like a failure as a mother because I couldn't keep our family together but I just don't trust him anymore and I can live in a marriage where there's no trust.
sorry this is a bit of a rant. Think I just needed to get it off my chest. Am I wrong in not wanting him back?
You are absolutely NOT in the wrong. This is all his fault. You are right that the online women stuff is cheating and a reason for not being with him. The child stuff is a whole different level. You have nothing to feel guilty for so stay strong and do what you know is right for you.
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It's absolutely your choice and you're entitled to end the relationship.
Don't allow anyone to make you feel guilty, you haven't done anything wrong.
Don't allow anyone to make you feel guilty, you haven't done anything wrong.
Thank you for the replies