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I'm so sorry this is happening to your family. We all empathise with the trauma of 'the knock', in whatever way it occurs it shakes your world to its core. Once arrested and released either on bail or under investigation the wait is horribly long and the silence from the police deafening. My husband was arrested then released under investigation. He found a new job and life continued with little impact (aside from the obvious stress), it was a strange kind of limbo. From his arrest to continually delayed sentencing it took around 18 months. He was then handed a completely unexpected custodial sentence. Not one part of our legal system makes sense. This part of our journey is nearly over and our next part will soon start. Some on the forum are caught in cruel loops and are still waiting in limbo. I hope your wait isn't too long but be prepared as it may be.
Some things to consider; take anything the police say with a huge pinch of salt, in my opinion trust nothing they say. This has changed my view of our police drastically. This doesn't define your Father, we are all here because of the choices of others but nothing in these cases is black and white. Be careful who you tell as you can't take the words back and many have a blinkered approach to these offences. You will need support to process this. This forum is a lifeline. Many have found the phone line to be helpful too.
Take it one day at a time x
Some things to consider; take anything the police say with a huge pinch of salt, in my opinion trust nothing they say. This has changed my view of our police drastically. This doesn't define your Father, we are all here because of the choices of others but nothing in these cases is black and white. Be careful who you tell as you can't take the words back and many have a blinkered approach to these offences. You will need support to process this. This forum is a lifeline. Many have found the phone line to be helpful too.
Take it one day at a time x
It's bizarre to me how long they keep people waiting. My dad on the night was treated like this dangerous monster... Now I just feel like he's just another statistic.. Another charge.. I know what he's done is wrong and I'm not minimising it whatsoever but how they go from raiding your home to then leaving these men and their families to get on as normal until suddenly they decide to charge again
I've not told anybody, I'm so frightened anybody finding out as we live in such a small area everybody knows everybody and my dad spoke to absolutely everybody. They know he lived with me too and where I live. I'm scared for mine and my children's safety.
Do you mind me asking what your persons charges were? His solicitor told him he could potentionally face a custodial sentence but hoping to receive suspended x
I've not told anybody, I'm so frightened anybody finding out as we live in such a small area everybody knows everybody and my dad spoke to absolutely everybody. They know he lived with me too and where I live. I'm scared for mine and my children's safety.
Do you mind me asking what your persons charges were? His solicitor told him he could potentionally face a custodial sentence but hoping to receive suspended x
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