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Confusedwife

Member since
October 2022

169 posts

Posted Wed April 10, 2024 1:56pmReport post

Hi,

Does anyone know how charges are normally given? Do they go to the station for them to be told or do the police post them?



my husband has received a letter today it looks like it could be by the police, he's at work still so no idea what it actually says but I'm going out of my mind trying to think if it could be his charges.



maybe I'm just over thinking but we're approaching 2 years since the arrest so I know any day now things will get moving. I'm not sure I'm ready for this iv gotten used to this new normal life we've been living in. I want it all over with but I'm terrified of going through the ordeal of court and everything else.

Bub84

Member since
January 2024

113 posts

Posted Wed April 10, 2024 2:46pmReport post

From what I've read on my OH bail paperwork, charges can be sent in a letter in the post. X

rainyday52

Member since
April 2023

450 posts

Posted Wed April 10, 2024 2:55pmReport post

I've read both charges by post or after an invitation to attend the police station. are possible. I'm feeling nervous now for you, it will be a long wait til your husband comes home. Keep strong, it's one step nearer to the end if it is charges. Did you get notified when the police sent all the info to the CPS? I can't seem to get a definitive answer about that and I'd like to know so I can steel myself for next step being charges instead of thinking the police were still investigating.....

BaffledB

Member since
July 2021

876 posts

Posted Wed April 10, 2024 2:57pmReport post

They can come by post, be requested to be collected at the station or if you're unlucky enough to have a horrible OIC be hand delivered to your address with a smirk.

I opened my partner's post because I needed to be 100% sure things were what he was telling me. I know it's wrong but he was away with work and I couldn't wait. He was more concerned with the charges than the fact I opened his post. If they are charges, it will be overwhelming to see them in black and white so brace yourself. Thinking of you xx

Edited Wed April 10, 2024 2:59pm

Upset mum

Member since
June 2020

2403 posts

Posted Wed April 10, 2024 2:59pmReport post

Confused

As mentioned it can be either in person or post

You have gotten this far so try not to overthink easier said than done I know x

Deep breath lovely x

Confusedwife

Member since
October 2022

169 posts

Posted Wed April 10, 2024 3:15pmReport post

It's definitely from the police Iv been shining my phone torch on it!! I know that's bad but the waiting to know is driving me insane.... I can only work out the police header on it but can't work out what it says. He should be home around 5.



I know it's good cause it needs to be done to get to the other side but omg I feel so anxious now.

Louise49

Member since
January 2021

494 posts

Posted Wed April 10, 2024 3:50pmReport post

I think my OH got the charges when he went for his second interview. I open all my OH post and he's fine with that. I think through this journey I don't want any secrets and he can't really complain about me opening his post!. I felt exactly like you, life has carried on as normal to the outside world but it's been over 3 years since the knock. I'm a totally changed person. I have terrible anxiety and I don't do the things I used to enjoy, I want it over now but I'm petrified to go to court ( another sentence hearing this week, 5th one now all others relisted) can you message your husband to ask if you can open the letter?

hpl111

Member since
November 2022

392 posts

Posted Wed April 10, 2024 4:37pmReport post

You're better than me, I would have opened the letter by now xx

Inturmoil1974

Member since
November 2022

279 posts

Posted Wed April 10, 2024 4:58pmReport post

Oaft I would have been right into that letter If that was me hopefully it's onto the next stage

Confusedwife

Member since
October 2022

169 posts

Posted Wed April 10, 2024 5:22pmReport post

Iv been so tempted to open it!! It's says his property has been searched and ready to be collected. Doesn't say what property or if it's some or all of it.

hpl111

Member since
November 2022

392 posts

Posted Wed April 10, 2024 5:53pmReport post

@confusedwife

Oh, that's promising?? If it's all of his equipment, there's a likelihood of NFA. Devices with illegal material/activity on it would be destroyed.

Keep us updated! xx

Confusedwife

Member since
October 2022

169 posts

Posted Wed April 10, 2024 6:07pmReport post

I really really hope that is the case!!! I wish they would of actually listed the items so I knew says he has to call the number which is open 9-2:30 so I probably won't sleep tonight now.

we've had no contact since feb from the oic which I would of thought she may of contacted my husband as she's kept him updated pretty much the whole time.

Confusedwife

Member since
October 2022

169 posts

Posted Thu April 11, 2024 12:42pmReport post

Oh has rang the property officer who has informed him it's all his stuff.... still no idea what that actually means for the investigation.



however Iv just been to collect his stuff and they can't find it, they think it could be at a different station!! No idea why this would be the case, I was so anxious walking into the station asking for the stuff now I'm even more anxious cause Iv no no idea where it even is.

hpl111

Member since
November 2022

392 posts

Posted Thu April 11, 2024 2:38pmReport post

The police are very incompetent! Keeping my fingers crossed for you xx

Confusedwife

Member since
October 2022

169 posts

Posted Thu April 11, 2024 3:14pmReport post

Hpl111

They definitely are!! Iv finally got everything back now, no confirmation of what's happening with the investigation but I did ask the property officer that I collected from if she knew and she just said when you receive your stuff back it usually means it's the end of the investigation.



My head is an absolute mess it's been nearly 2 years of hell and then we receive everything back but no confirmation and now I'm confused and no idea what the hell we do now.