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Louise49

Member since
January 2021

501 posts

So here we are again!. My partner has another sentence hearing tomorrow. I think it's his 5th or 6th one they keep getting relisted. It's horrendous, the days leading upto them I'm a total mess. For people who don't know he got the knock in Jan 21, so over 3 years ago. It's possession of iioc all cats. I'm petrified he'll go to prison and I'm petrified it will go in the papers. It's all I think about unless I'm at work, I just want it over with now the stress is killing me

Posted Thu April 11, 2024 6:49amReport post

EllBee

Member since
April 2022

173 posts

Best of luck Louise, I shall be thinking of you. This process is nothing short of cruel on the families. Keep us posted X

Posted Thu April 11, 2024 7:41amReport post

EllBee

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Caggie164

Member since
October 2023

323 posts

Will be thinking about you x

Posted Thu April 11, 2024 8:12amReport post

Devils06

Member since
June 2023

29 posts

Will be thinking off you. Xxx

Posted Thu April 11, 2024 8:13amReport post

Louise49

Member since
January 2021

501 posts

Thank you Ellbee, it is very cruel on the families. Yes he has commited a crime and should face the consequences but I just can't believe it's taken so long!. The limbo stage is horrible, you carry on with life, go to work and just get on then another date comes up for the sentence hearing and I'm full of terrible anxiety and worry

Posted Thu April 11, 2024 8:15amReport post

Smile through tears

Member since
September 2021

2713 posts

Bless you Louise - wish you all the best and hope you get conclusion after the horrendous wait.

At least you know what you are facing then, and can move forward to deal with the next stage.

my thoughts are with you x

Posted Thu April 11, 2024 8:19amReport post

Upset mum

Member since
June 2020

2481 posts

Everything x for you both xx

Hugs sent xx

Posted Thu April 11, 2024 8:22amReport post

Overwhelmed49

Member since
April 2024

53 posts

Sending love and virtual support to you .

This is just an horrendous process to go through x

Posted Thu April 11, 2024 9:37amReport post

Louise49

Member since
January 2021

501 posts

Thank you ladies, I've just had enough now. It's been a very long three years. I just will never understand why one minute they leave you to get on with your lives th n when it comes to sentencing there's a possibility of custodial! How can they justify saying he's potentially a high risk and send him to prison yet we've been carrying on as normal all this time! I'm crossing everything hoping for a suspended sentence

Posted Thu April 11, 2024 10:02amReport post

Inturmoil1974

Member since
November 2022

367 posts

Louise I have been thinking of you all week I can imagine the stress your under I am hoping it goes ahead tomorrow for all your sake xxx

Posted Thu April 11, 2024 10:44amReport post

Jayjay

Member since
December 2021

695 posts

Oh Louise it's terrible. Thinking of you and best of luck xx

Posted Thu April 11, 2024 11:43amReport post

hpl111

Member since
November 2022

409 posts

I wish you all the best, Louise xx

Posted Thu April 11, 2024 12:33pmReport post

EBP

Member since
September 2021

230 posts

Wishing you a positive' outcome Louise. The 'not knowing' is one of the worst aspects of this nightmare.
Let's hope it's a community sentence.

Posted Thu April 11, 2024 2:47pmReport post

Louise49

Member since
January 2021

501 posts

His hearing is on for tomorrow. I've just read the pre sentence report and it's very detailed. I feel incredibly shocked, scared and very very worried. Had a big rant at him tonight and I feel sick right now. The stress is nothing I've ever felt in my life

Posted Thu April 11, 2024 8:13pmReport post

Anne20

Member since
March 2021

142 posts

Thinking of you

Virtual hugs

xXx

Posted Thu April 11, 2024 8:54pmReport post

Ocean

Member since
September 2023

927 posts

Hi Louise, I don't think there is anything I can say that's going to make you feel any better tonight, so I'll simply say I'm thinking of you both and hoping for the best possible outcome.

Posted Thu April 11, 2024 8:56pmReport post

EllBee

Member since
April 2022

173 posts

Glad it's happening, big deep breath - you can do this. We are behind you! X

Posted Fri April 12, 2024 7:50amReport post

Louise49

Member since
January 2021

501 posts

Thank you everyone for your virtual hugs and well wishes. I'm so petrified this morning. The hearing isn't till this afternoon, he'll probably be the last one going in. I'm keeping everything crossed he won't get media attention especially as it's towards the end of the day but who can say!

Posted Fri April 12, 2024 8:03amReport post

Life feels over

Member since
September 2022

412 posts

Sending you both strength x

Posted Fri April 12, 2024 9:13amReport post

Grapefruit

Member since
August 2023

44 posts

Thinking of you Louise and hoping for the best outcome for you both. You deserve some form of closure after this amount of time X

Posted Fri April 12, 2024 9:14amReport post

Distressed and pregnant

Member since
November 2020

1172 posts

Thinking of you today xxx

Posted Fri April 12, 2024 9:18amReport post

Galaxy123

Member since
April 2024

75 posts

Sending strength for today. You're not alone, and you can do this!

Posted Fri April 12, 2024 12:08pmReport post

Bettyboo65

Member since
June 2022

352 posts

Everything crossed that today finally happens with the best outcome xxx

Posted Fri April 12, 2024 12:20pmReport post

S1lentScream

Member since
April 2023

26 posts

Thinking of you both. Hoping as it is later on a Friday afternoon and the press aren't there.

Julie

Posted Fri April 12, 2024 12:38pmReport post

K4

Member since
October 2022

622 posts

I hope it's all over and everything has worked out for you. Thinking of you and sending hugs

xx

Posted Fri April 12, 2024 5:06pmReport post

Louise49

Member since
January 2021

501 posts

So it's all over! Suspended sentence, horizon course and unpaid work. Honestly the relief I feel right now! It was the most horrendous experience sitting in that courtroom. I cried the whole time!. Luckily no press in the courtroom and no press in the court so fingers crossed we avoid media!

Posted Fri April 12, 2024 5:57pmReport post

Smile through tears

Member since
September 2021

2713 posts

Phew, well done you, a huge sigh of relief. Make sure you have a large glass of wine, you've survived another stage of this messy/horrible journey xxxxxx

Posted Fri April 12, 2024 6:08pmReport post

Overwhelmed49

Member since
April 2024

53 posts

The relief and closure must be wonderful. Enjoy your weekend x

Posted Fri April 12, 2024 6:15pmReport post

Devils06

Member since
June 2023

29 posts

Well done, for staying strong, you can now move on with your life and try and put this horrible mess behind you. Xxx

Posted Fri April 12, 2024 6:15pmReport post

Cassiopeia

Member since
February 2024

38 posts

I feel relief to see your post so I can imagine the relief you feel. Be kind to yourself tonight and for the next while whilst you get over today. It took tremendous courage today.

Posted Fri April 12, 2024 6:59pmReport post

hpl111

Member since
November 2022

409 posts

Well done Louise for getting through today and on the wonderful outcome xx

Posted Fri April 12, 2024 7:06pmReport post

EllBee

Member since
April 2022

173 posts

Oh thank God, so so relieved for you both. Now relax....

Posted Fri April 12, 2024 7:18pmReport post

S1lentScream

Member since
April 2023

26 posts

So pleased about your outcome. Now you can both move past this stage.

Wishing you all the best going forward. X

Posted Fri April 12, 2024 7:19pm
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marema2233

Member since
March 2024

60 posts

Im relatively new here but saw your post and had to comment. i am so glad you have the outcome you did.
Time to take time for yourself, and to put that chapter behind you and to look forward to whats ahead. Things may take time but youve got through the hard part.

wishing you and your partner all the best going forward xxx

Posted Fri April 12, 2024 7:34pmReport post

sadso

Member since
December 2023

125 posts

happy for your outcome now you can focus on you and tey leaving the mess behind ???? xx

Posted Fri April 12, 2024 9:42pmReport post

EBP

Member since
September 2021

230 posts

So pleased for his community sentence. Now relax!

Posted Fri April 12, 2024 10:06pmReport post

Grapefruit

Member since
August 2023

44 posts

What a huge relief! You have been through such turmoil with so many re-lists, and years waiting!! Tonight and going forward you deserve peace and recovery.

I am so pleased for you!! X

Posted Sat April 13, 2024 12:16amReport post

Upset mum

Member since
June 2020

2481 posts

So pleased for the outcome and totally understand the pain of sitting through the court , I spent most of the time in tears also x

Take a few days to catch your breath xx

I am so pleased for you both xx

Posted Sat April 13, 2024 8:04am
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K4

Member since
October 2022

622 posts

So relieved for you. Hope you're able to relax and have a lovely weekend now.



thank you for sharing and well done on getting through this



xxx

Posted Sat April 13, 2024 8:31amReport post

Caggie164

Member since
October 2023

323 posts

So relieved for you. Good luck in your onward journey xx

Posted Sat April 13, 2024 11:56amReport post

SabV

Member since
May 2024

4 posts

Louise49

My story is not to dissimilar to yours. You must be very relieved with that outcome and definitely deserve a large glass or wine or a large g & t and some time to reset.



My journey is only just beginning and the anxiety is crippling me, I have thoughts of just running away but the love I have for my OH is stopping me. The silence is so loud!!

I can only pray that some how I find the strength to get through this and come out the other side. I pray for a lenient judge who sees the idiocy and poor judgement made by my OH as this was just one big mistake.

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