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Louise49

Member since
January 2021

494 posts

Posted Thu April 11, 2024 6:49amReport post

So here we are again!. My partner has another sentence hearing tomorrow. I think it's his 5th or 6th one they keep getting relisted. It's horrendous, the days leading upto them I'm a total mess. For people who don't know he got the knock in Jan 21, so over 3 years ago. It's possession of iioc all cats. I'm petrified he'll go to prison and I'm petrified it will go in the papers. It's all I think about unless I'm at work, I just want it over with now the stress is killing me

EllBee

Member since
April 2022

144 posts

Posted Thu April 11, 2024 7:41amReport post

Best of luck Louise, I shall be thinking of you. This process is nothing short of cruel on the families. Keep us posted X

EllBee

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April 2022

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Posted Thu April 11, 2024 7:41amReport post

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Caggie164

Member since
October 2023

274 posts

Posted Thu April 11, 2024 8:12amReport post

Will be thinking about you x

Devils06

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June 2023

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Posted Thu April 11, 2024 8:13amReport post

Will be thinking off you. Xxx

Louise49

Member since
January 2021

494 posts

Posted Thu April 11, 2024 8:15amReport post

Thank you Ellbee, it is very cruel on the families. Yes he has commited a crime and should face the consequences but I just can't believe it's taken so long!. The limbo stage is horrible, you carry on with life, go to work and just get on then another date comes up for the sentence hearing and I'm full of terrible anxiety and worry

Smile through tears

Member since
September 2021

2556 posts

Posted Thu April 11, 2024 8:19amReport post

Bless you Louise - wish you all the best and hope you get conclusion after the horrendous wait.

At least you know what you are facing then, and can move forward to deal with the next stage.

my thoughts are with you x

Upset mum

Member since
June 2020

2403 posts

Posted Thu April 11, 2024 8:22amReport post

Everything x for you both xx

Hugs sent xx

Overwhelmed49

Member since
April 2024

45 posts

Posted Thu April 11, 2024 9:37amReport post

Sending love and virtual support to you .

This is just an horrendous process to go through x

Louise49

Member since
January 2021

494 posts

Posted Thu April 11, 2024 10:02amReport post

Thank you ladies, I've just had enough now. It's been a very long three years. I just will never understand why one minute they leave you to get on with your lives th n when it comes to sentencing there's a possibility of custodial! How can they justify saying he's potentially a high risk and send him to prison yet we've been carrying on as normal all this time! I'm crossing everything hoping for a suspended sentence

Inturmoil1974

Member since
November 2022

279 posts

Posted Thu April 11, 2024 10:44amReport post

Louise I have been thinking of you all week I can imagine the stress your under I am hoping it goes ahead tomorrow for all your sake xxx

Jayjay

Member since
December 2021

695 posts

Posted Thu April 11, 2024 11:43amReport post

Oh Louise it's terrible. Thinking of you and best of luck xx

hpl111

Member since
November 2022

392 posts

Posted Thu April 11, 2024 12:33pmReport post

I wish you all the best, Louise xx

EBP

Member since
September 2021

198 posts

Posted Thu April 11, 2024 2:47pmReport post

Wishing you a positive' outcome Louise. The 'not knowing' is one of the worst aspects of this nightmare.
Let's hope it's a community sentence.

Louise49

Member since
January 2021

494 posts

Posted Thu April 11, 2024 8:13pmReport post

His hearing is on for tomorrow. I've just read the pre sentence report and it's very detailed. I feel incredibly shocked, scared and very very worried. Had a big rant at him tonight and I feel sick right now. The stress is nothing I've ever felt in my life

Anne20

Member since
March 2021

141 posts

Posted Thu April 11, 2024 8:54pmReport post

Thinking of you

Virtual hugs

xXx

Ocean

Member since
September 2023

774 posts

Posted Thu April 11, 2024 8:56pmReport post

Hi Louise, I don't think there is anything I can say that's going to make you feel any better tonight, so I'll simply say I'm thinking of you both and hoping for the best possible outcome.

EllBee

Member since
April 2022

144 posts

Posted Fri April 12, 2024 7:50amReport post

Glad it's happening, big deep breath - you can do this. We are behind you! X

Louise49

Member since
January 2021

494 posts

Posted Fri April 12, 2024 8:03amReport post

Thank you everyone for your virtual hugs and well wishes. I'm so petrified this morning. The hearing isn't till this afternoon, he'll probably be the last one going in. I'm keeping everything crossed he won't get media attention especially as it's towards the end of the day but who can say!

Life feels over

Member since
September 2022

412 posts

Posted Fri April 12, 2024 9:13amReport post

Sending you both strength x

Grapefruit

Member since
August 2023

37 posts

Posted Fri April 12, 2024 9:14amReport post

Thinking of you Louise and hoping for the best outcome for you both. You deserve some form of closure after this amount of time X

Distressed and pregnant

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November 2020

1003 posts

Posted Fri April 12, 2024 9:18amReport post

Thinking of you today xxx

Galaxy123

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April 2024

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Posted Fri April 12, 2024 12:08pmReport post

Sending strength for today. You're not alone, and you can do this!

Bettyboo65

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June 2022

339 posts

Posted Fri April 12, 2024 12:20pmReport post

Everything crossed that today finally happens with the best outcome xxx

S1lentScream

Member since
April 2023

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Posted Fri April 12, 2024 12:38pmReport post

Thinking of you both. Hoping as it is later on a Friday afternoon and the press aren't there.

Julie

K4

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October 2022

611 posts

Posted Fri April 12, 2024 5:06pmReport post

I hope it's all over and everything has worked out for you. Thinking of you and sending hugs

xx

Louise49

Member since
January 2021

494 posts

Posted Fri April 12, 2024 5:57pmReport post

So it's all over! Suspended sentence, horizon course and unpaid work. Honestly the relief I feel right now! It was the most horrendous experience sitting in that courtroom. I cried the whole time!. Luckily no press in the courtroom and no press in the court so fingers crossed we avoid media!

Smile through tears

Member since
September 2021

2556 posts

Posted Fri April 12, 2024 6:08pmReport post

Phew, well done you, a huge sigh of relief. Make sure you have a large glass of wine, you've survived another stage of this messy/horrible journey xxxxxx

Overwhelmed49

Member since
April 2024

45 posts

Posted Fri April 12, 2024 6:15pmReport post

The relief and closure must be wonderful. Enjoy your weekend x

Devils06

Member since
June 2023

29 posts

Posted Fri April 12, 2024 6:15pmReport post

Well done, for staying strong, you can now move on with your life and try and put this horrible mess behind you. Xxx

Cassiopeia

Member since
February 2024

38 posts

Posted Fri April 12, 2024 6:59pmReport post

I feel relief to see your post so I can imagine the relief you feel. Be kind to yourself tonight and for the next while whilst you get over today. It took tremendous courage today.

hpl111

Member since
November 2022

392 posts

Posted Fri April 12, 2024 7:06pmReport post

Well done Louise for getting through today and on the wonderful outcome xx

EllBee

Member since
April 2022

144 posts

Posted Fri April 12, 2024 7:18pmReport post

Oh thank God, so so relieved for you both. Now relax....

S1lentScream

Member since
April 2023

24 posts

Posted Fri April 12, 2024 7:19pmReport post

So pleased about your outcome. Now you can both move past this stage.

Wishing you all the best going forward. X

Edited Fri April 12, 2024 7:19pm

marema2233

Member since
March 2024

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Posted Fri April 12, 2024 7:34pmReport post

Im relatively new here but saw your post and had to comment. i am so glad you have the outcome you did.
Time to take time for yourself, and to put that chapter behind you and to look forward to whats ahead. Things may take time but youve got through the hard part.

wishing you and your partner all the best going forward xxx

sadso

Member since
December 2023

89 posts

Posted Fri April 12, 2024 9:42pmReport post

happy for your outcome now you can focus on you and tey leaving the mess behind ???? xx

EBP

Member since
September 2021

198 posts

Posted Fri April 12, 2024 10:06pmReport post

So pleased for his community sentence. Now relax!

Grapefruit

Member since
August 2023

37 posts

Posted Sat April 13, 2024 12:16amReport post

What a huge relief! You have been through such turmoil with so many re-lists, and years waiting!! Tonight and going forward you deserve peace and recovery.

I am so pleased for you!! X

Upset mum

Member since
June 2020

2403 posts

Posted Sat April 13, 2024 8:04amReport post

So pleased for the outcome and totally understand the pain of sitting through the court , I spent most of the time in tears also x

Take a few days to catch your breath xx

I am so pleased for you both xx

Edited Sat April 13, 2024 8:05am

K4

Member since
October 2022

611 posts

Posted Sat April 13, 2024 8:31amReport post

So relieved for you. Hope you're able to relax and have a lovely weekend now.



thank you for sharing and well done on getting through this



xxx

Caggie164

Member since
October 2023

274 posts

Posted Sat April 13, 2024 11:56amReport post

So relieved for you. Good luck in your onward journey xx

SabV

Member since
May 2024

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Posted Sat June 1, 2024 5:01pmReport post

Louise49

My story is not to dissimilar to yours. You must be very relieved with that outcome and definitely deserve a large glass or wine or a large g & t and some time to reset.



My journey is only just beginning and the anxiety is crippling me, I have thoughts of just running away but the love I have for my OH is stopping me. The silence is so loud!!

I can only pray that some how I find the strength to get through this and come out the other side. I pray for a lenient judge who sees the idiocy and poor judgement made by my OH as this was just one big mistake.

Edited Sat June 1, 2024 5:04pm