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Hi everyone,first I too join in with thoughts of Louise, it's an horrendous part of this journey for sure, it's so sad how it just goes on and on......

Not too bad here, had work done in the house that has kept me fully occupied, at times been exhausting but pleased now it's finished.

Son all good, yet another meeting with his key person today, which is progress. Seems upbeat.

I hope everyone is bearing up, can I say thankyou for the your companionship this week xxxxxxx

My first full week with you ladies.

Louise, I'm sending so much love to you x

The sun is shining and I have planted some of my seeds for my veggies and flowers for the summer.

I managed to run a half marathon last weekend as well- it was booked and my stubborn nature wouldn't let me not do it. It was really painful but strangers helped me to the end. What a metaphor for whats going on.

I went back to work this week. I don't know if its a good idea or not, and saw my GP this morning who will sign me off work if needed. Little comments which im sure they didn't even realise were coming out of their mouth went through me like a twisting knife. But its just the start I know. It makes you really evaluate how you speak to people.A day at a time is my new mantra.

We are exhausted. Everything seems a massive effort. But I have taken all the advice to make sure I eat and take time for myself.

Hope everyone's weekend iis OK and we can enjoy some sunshine.

Hi everyone, hope you are keeping well.

Just been pottering around this week, enjoying not being at work. We haven't seen much of our youngest daughter - she has been spending most of her time with her boyfriend or friends. She went for a long walk with 2 of her friends today, enjoying the sunshine and they took some munchies with them. Nice for them to get out and about and not be stuck inside on electronics.

Today is the due date for our eldest daughter but no sign of the baby. She has taken to being pregnant in her stride and has even said she'll miss being pregnant. Her boyfriend is stressing out more.

Back at work on on Monday and not really looking forward to it. Much rather be at home so I can hide out and not pretend everything is okay.

I too had louise on my mind today so glad she the outcome she did.

I had a message from a friend at start of week not someone I see often and felt panicked I chose not to reply thinking she will have seen the media attention, she contacted a family member saying she was concerned I hadn't replied so I messaged her last night, I sent her the full story and it turns out something similar happened to her brother in law a few years ago, she would like to support and help me anyway she can, lesson learned stop looking for the negative in everything I think I have built a big protective wall around myself and scared to let my guard down.

Working tomorrow then off Sunday weather to be wet for us.

Have a well deserved drink tonight louise and hope everyone has a good weekend x

And just like that it's Friday again. We've had a couple of family birthdays this week and a couple of family members have suffered bereavements so it's been a mixed week.

I spent today visiting my mum and enjoyed the sunshine and a nice lunch. For a long time during my journey nothing made me feel good and I had no enthusiasm for anything. I'm now making up for lost time and find the thought of going out for lunch or coffee and cake very appealing and one of my favourite things to do. Upset if I was visiting HC I think I'd give him a good run for his money.

Tomorrow I'm hosting one of my grandchildren's birthday party so it will be a busy noisy day and on Sunday I'm planning a quiet day to relax and re energise before returning to work and starting the week again.

Hello friday check in (a bit late i know)

I hope the childrens party goes alright for you Ocean. And i hope the HC is ok Upset.

Last week been ok. Had a lovely weekend last weekend, away a night with a friend. It brought home how my life has changed as i had to drive a distance on my own which stressed me out but i did it and had fun. Been struggling with fatigued but am now on leave this week. But i have nothing planned and to be honest i feel a bit lost. I find when i am off work i have too much time to think.



But stayed out last night and went to a concert which was fun. Back home now. I cannot seem to shake feeling low. Already on high dose of tablets and i have a feeling of doom. I do not seem to be able to fully relax at home and feel much better when i am away. But i need to give myself a good talking to, smile (it is known to just smile lightens your mood) and sort myself out.



Hope everyone has a good week. X

Webb89 I know what your meaning the minute I am,heading home its like a dark cloud comes over me I wish it would ease x

Hello

Relatively new here so still finding my feet and trying to stop my head being all over.

Took my little ones to a birthday party this morning and was faced with tears from them. Their dad would usually see them on a weekend (supervised via me as he isnt allowed in the house until we get a outcome) and he wasnt coming today as money etc is tight (he is about 2 hours away bus ride and 30 miuntes in a car but i dont drive and before the knock we sold scrapped our car as it was just not roadworthy anymore so he is also without a car) and with not being able to go into the house and the awful weather , we thought it was best to leave this week.

Back home now, just made tea and in a very strange headspace. Just wanting a answer, really want to contact OIC but dont know what to say as he is no longer responding to my person anymore after telling him he wont have to wait until may to answer his bail and he would organise a letter being sent out to our address (not sure why it wouldnt be his parents address where he is staying) and im constantly looking out for the postman and broken everytime we get no letter.

For him to be able to come back home, we need the police to give us the outcome, if got my fingers crossed its NFA or caution (also very open to it could be more) but either way even a update would be nice.

i hate it when the kids go to bed, im lonely just sat there debating why. i Just want him home and so does the children. im not downplaying what he has done (sent a photo of his legs ...nothing else but bare legs and asked a question on snapchat) and i know we would have to build up trust etc again but he isnt a bad man, hes just done a very bad and stupid thing.



Hope everyone is having a lovely weekend (As much as we all can) and if anyone wants/needs to talk, im always here and message box is always open) xx

Thank you Upset, I am very touched that you remembered it was my birthday. Didn't do much, just went for a meal to a nice pub that we hadn't been to before but always pass, we'll definitely go there again x

its difficult i will say. Because everything you do,say and decide HAS to involve them. i dont say that in a selfish was as i can imagine it seems that way haha but their dad is an excellent dad and again hes not a bad person, hes done a bad thing. i dont want it to define him but that being said he knows if hes lied to me about a tiny 0.00001% , he will have lost everything as hes had opportunites time after time, that aside i do believe him.



i am lucky i do have family support, My mum and dad are stars but are going through alot right now (dad has terminal cancer so its hitting us hard on top of all this) but they are there whenever i need them , i just dont like to bother them even though theyd be hurt that i feel that way and then my partners side are absolute stars too and they have our little ones overnight every couple of months so me and him can go and just talk things through or clear our heads but its still hard being on your own with 3 little ones and then mental health on top and trying to hold absolutely everything together.
Both famiiles live away and so do all my friends so i dont have anyone in the area where i live to talk to whenever i can or to have round or meet up with so unless its over the phone (or a weekend when i see my partner for a few hours) its just me, myself and i. xx

Upset, I'd easily manage the 2 pieces of chocolate cake but HC wins on the 10 crumpets.... 10 that's nearly 2 packets haha

Yesterday we travelled 4 hours in the car (!!) to apply for our 4 months old daughter's passport.

We will get her passport in a week, which is fantastic.

We're going abroad to visit my family at the end of May.

My husband will stay 2 weeks, as he has to go back to work.

As I'm on maternity leave at the moment, I will stay for 2 months until the end of July.

This will give my kids the opportunity to spend time with their grandparents and cousins and hopefully improve their language skills a tiny bit.

It's really shocking how expensive flights have become! I feel like the prices have tripled since Covid.

My husband will do some home improvements when I'm away, removing the carpet downstairs and putting wooden floor in and replastering the wall.

So I'll be excited to return to a beautiful, fresh-looking house.

Today we won't do much, probably take the kids to the local playground. We're quite tired after yesterday and need to relax.

I wish you all a wonderful weekend, enjoy the great weather!! xx

Thanks for the HC list, Upset, it always cheers me xx