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JustMeAndTheCat

Member since
February 2024

16 posts

Posted Mon April 15, 2024 8:43amReport post

10 weeks since the knock. Threw him out immediately. I have not spoken to him since, only text to arrange pick up of his stuff. Today I have discovered that there is video posted on Odysee of his encounter with the vigilantes. I haven't watched, and I don't know if I can bear it, what more horror might I hear/see. What shall I do, does anyone have any advice. I was feeling stronger, I know that cutting contact was right for me, but this has put me right back

ScaredLamb

Member since
May 2021

203 posts

Posted Mon April 15, 2024 10:04amReport post

Hi

My thought is if you have cut contact and you have no plans to restart a relationship - I wouldn't watch it. It can only bring more pain. Move on and move forward as best you can

sadso

Member since
December 2023

89 posts

Posted Mon April 15, 2024 2:01pmReport post

I agree I wouldn't watch it it won't leave your head and there is no point in traumatising yourself it not worth it just look ahead to your future and deal with the emotions you already have rather than bringing on more pain and sadness take care of yourself xx

rainyday52

Member since
April 2023

450 posts

Posted Mon April 15, 2024 3:05pmReport post

I so identify with you but please resist watching it. For one thing, these vigilantes don't deserve our attention and watching is a click for them and their nasty pathetic activities.

Also it just won't help you at all, as others have said already. You will just have the images in your head and it will bring more trauma. It will be like a nasty wound which needs to heal and then you scratch it with dirty fingernails and make the infection worse and set back the healing. That's what I tell myself about my own behaviour and I think it's been a good decision.

JustMeAndTheCat

Member since
February 2024

16 posts

Posted Mon April 15, 2024 4:05pmReport post

Thank you for your replies everyone. I will resist! It was his adult children who told me it existed, his 50yr old daughter listened to it and I'm guessing now has it in her head. It doesn't need to be in mine too, does it. As far as I can see it isn't on Facebook, long may that continue! I'm guessing that eventually the gory details will be read out in court. In the meantime I only heard one thing when they were outside with him, and that was him admitting that he had sent an explict picture to a 13 year old. That was enough for me. Thank goodness I can talk here to people who have been where I am right now. Bless you all x

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