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New research article about relatives of offenders

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Inthemoment

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February 2023

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Posted Tue April 16, 2024 9:56amReport post

https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/13552600.2024.2332933

An interesting open access article about how relatives of iioc offenders navigate life following arrest etc

Distressed and pregnant

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November 2020

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Posted Tue April 16, 2024 10:29amReport post

I keep getting an error message. Could very well be a me issue though lol xx

Inthemoment

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February 2023

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Posted Tue April 16, 2024 10:33amReport post

Ooh ok, it's called “Your world, everything just implodes, it really is a life-changing experience”: how do relatives of Child Sexual Abuse Material (CSAM) offenders navigate life following discovery of the offence?

Authors Elaine Kavanagh, Elaine Kinsella and Patrick Ryan, published in March.

It's quite short and easy to read, based on interviews with 15 women in Ireland and the UK

Available at tandfonline.com

Distressed and pregnant

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November 2020

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Posted Tue April 16, 2024 2:42pmReport post

An interesting read, thanks for sharing. Nice to be recognised as secondary victims xx

JustMeAndTheCat

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February 2024

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Posted Tue April 16, 2024 5:30pmReport post

Thank you for posting this recommendation. It was a very interesting read, and highlights so many of the issues I and so many others are facing. None of us asked to be where we find ourselves but through the reckless behaviour of another we are dumped right in the deep end. The conclusion that we innocent victims, whether or not we have subsequently supported the offender or, like me, ended the relationship, deserve more help and understanding, is totally right. With the exception of the LFF and this forum, I have had no help. The secrecy is very isolating.

Cassiopeia

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February 2024

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Posted Tue April 16, 2024 6:41pmReport post

Thank you for posting this, having a label for how I feel is helpful - Secondary Stigma. I related so much to what is talked about here. I found I got quite emotional reading it as I walk into what feels like a potentially fragile future but I have rebellious hope and that is because of the support I have felt through my peer support group, Stop it Now, close family, friends and this forum.

Edited Tue April 16, 2024 9:58pm

EBP

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September 2021

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Posted Tue April 16, 2024 11:54pmReport post

Thankyou for posting this. We are not going mad! Our feelings & reactions are perfectly normal. Unlike our situation!

Silent Sea

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February 2024

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Posted Wed April 17, 2024 7:09amReport post

Thank you for this!

"At the same time, scholars have noted the importance of friends and family in criminal desistance, where the provision of social, emotional and financial support correlates with a decrease in criminal behaviour"

Really one of the key sentences for me, this is why I do it all, I know it can get better and I was lucky enough that my OH and I are pulling in the same direction.

But also dealing with this makes me want to advocate for a different handling of this topic but with this stigma described it would be like putting a target on my forehead...

Inthemoment

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February 2023

358 posts

Posted Wed April 17, 2024 10:24pmReport post

Yes I found it an easy read and the messages really resonated with me! It's such a traumatic and secretive journey and I'm pleased they recognise how differently it's treated to other life changing events.

I did get slightly annoyed by the apparent assumption that offenders would need to be supervised with their children so I've written to the authors to enquire about that!