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Hi all,
so we got "the knock" in March 2021, my husband was arrested for sexual communication with a child. He was convicted and sentenced in March 2022. He was given a 10 month suspended sentence for 2 years, 300 unpaid work and 10 years SHPO & to complete the horizon project. We have had 3 years of social services involvement which I'm so glad to say is over and after alot of hard work mostly from myself we're now at a place of unsupervised contact with his own children and free to live a "normal" life within the restrictions of his SHPO.
During the last 3 years I fell pregnant and we've had another baby which was so difficult to navigate around all the restrictions due to to conviction but we managed.
So now we're at a point of trying to get a little bit of "normal" back.
For me it's the realisation that for the next 8 years life isn't going to be as easy as I maybe naively thought it would be.
For example booking a holiday, he's happy for just me and the children to go away without him but I don't want that I want us to go away as a family, and family parties he obviously doesn't get invited so I have to go alone with the children. I guess I'm just feeling like this "new normal" for me is abit lonely.
Does anyone else feel the same?
much love x
so we got "the knock" in March 2021, my husband was arrested for sexual communication with a child. He was convicted and sentenced in March 2022. He was given a 10 month suspended sentence for 2 years, 300 unpaid work and 10 years SHPO & to complete the horizon project. We have had 3 years of social services involvement which I'm so glad to say is over and after alot of hard work mostly from myself we're now at a place of unsupervised contact with his own children and free to live a "normal" life within the restrictions of his SHPO.
During the last 3 years I fell pregnant and we've had another baby which was so difficult to navigate around all the restrictions due to to conviction but we managed.
So now we're at a point of trying to get a little bit of "normal" back.
For me it's the realisation that for the next 8 years life isn't going to be as easy as I maybe naively thought it would be.
For example booking a holiday, he's happy for just me and the children to go away without him but I don't want that I want us to go away as a family, and family parties he obviously doesn't get invited so I have to go alone with the children. I guess I'm just feeling like this "new normal" for me is abit lonely.
Does anyone else feel the same?
much love x
I ended my marriage and the thought of doing everything on my own including selling the house and finding myself somewhere to live very daunting.
I am sorry to say yes, i feel this. On an invitation to a xmas party i had to go on my own as children would have been there. Meeting up with a friend from a long distance who we used to go as a four now is two which meant i had to drive a long distance on my own. I go to clubs but on my own. Even a dog training club he cant do as children might be there. So if i dont feel upto it, you guessed it, the dogs dont go. Parties where he would have picked me up with a friend has left me either walking across a city late at night on my own or travelling late by train by myself as friends do not want to be in the car with him. Going on holiday and having to pay for a car park and travel late at night as he cannot drop me off as the person i am going with wont be in the car with him.
sorry not much help only in that you are not alone. I also sense it is hard work for you when you go on your own as you cannot share the children and sorting them out. This must make things difficult for you. I wish i could wave a magic wand and make it better for you. X
sorry not much help only in that you are not alone. I also sense it is hard work for you when you go on your own as you cannot share the children and sorting them out. This must make things difficult for you. I wish i could wave a magic wand and make it better for you. X