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Inturmoil1974

Member since
November 2022

279 posts

Posted Wed April 17, 2024 4:01pmReport post

Life is a struggle this week, can't seem to lift myself at all oh mood isn't good seems to be a week of he is tired, he is fed up, he still thinks his life is over since sentence I want him to return to his psychologist but he doesn't see a point in it, he never asks me how I am all I do is listen to him, I aired my views today so he went to work early and didn't listen, you really think you can just move on after sentence but because of media coverage you feel so exposed to the world, I have booked on a talking forward on Friday hoping this helps me in some way.

Thanks for reading xx

Webb89

Member since
July 2022

438 posts

Posted Wed April 17, 2024 6:30pmReport post

I am sorry you are feeling down. It does hit us in waves, and i feel that as time goes by i should not be feeling this as should have gotten over it. We are just under two years sentencing and i still have good days and bad.

Think of one thing you enjoy, is it reading a book? If so what book are you reading? What tv shows are you watching at the moment? I am watching SWAT silly i know but it keeps my mind off being down. Hope this helps. X

Ocean

Member since
September 2023

772 posts

Posted Wed April 17, 2024 7:39pmReport post

I'm sorry to know you're both struggling this week. I think we all get good and bad days but hopefully going forward the number of bad days get less as the good days increase.

I agree that having your case in the media knocks your confidence but you've every reason to go out with your head held high feeling proud of the fact that you've survived a huge trauma and have come through it.

It's still early days so be kind to yourself and focus on doing something each day that's just for you. Eat cake, read a few pages of a good book, go out for a walk, listen to music, or anything else you like to do.

Inturmoil1974

Member since
November 2022

279 posts

Posted Wed April 17, 2024 7:49pmReport post

As always your kindness is hugely appreciated, I have came off my anti depressants possibly it's been too soon as i just stopped taking them, family party this weekend, family want him to come and he has no shpo or restrictions that would stop him going but he just can't face it, so daughter and I will go alone he has ended up taking overtime at work on Saturday so perfect excuse and I am not worried about him being in the house when we're out, just been out with the dog his energy never fails to make me smile x love to you all

Dory2502

Member since
July 2023

39 posts

Posted Wed April 17, 2024 8:34pmReport post

I am sorry you are struggling this week. We are two weeks past conviction and that was in the media and was horrendous. We still have sentencing which I am sure will also be in the media. We live in a small village and there have been many keyboard warriors. Thankfully nothing to our faces. I am also going to be in talking forward on Friday. They are a lovely group of ladies x

Upset mum

Member since
June 2020

2403 posts

Posted Fri April 19, 2024 3:05pmReport post

Inturmoil x

Sorry this week has been tough going for you both , the Media takes its toll so that plays on both your minds even though it's old news now but it still really hurts x

Taking yourself of your medication could also be a factor to how you are feeling, I have been on antidepressants for 2 years and decided to half my dosage as I was feeling ok and wondered what do they actually do, then a few days later my anxiety, low feeling just hit me so I went back to my original 50mg , so that is probably a factor to why you are feeling low x

Just take a step back and do something just for you , we carry the pressure for our loved ones, our own needs are put to one side ,

Not much advise but just wanted to send you hugs xx

Ocean

Member since
September 2023

772 posts

Posted Fri April 19, 2024 9:32pmReport post

Inturmoil, I absolutely agree with what Upset has said. I was told not to stop taking my medication until 6 months after I felt better and then to cut it down very slowly over a long period of time. I currently take 2 different types of medication for anxiety and in the last 2 months have only managed to reduce 1 of them by 2.5mgs. I actually don't mind though as long as it's helping to keep me well.