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I'm wondering how many others are facing this or in the same position? We've been in homeless accommodation almost a year now. We are hoping to be allocated a home soon. We've had to be totally relocated out of the area we lived in for 14 years. I've now got debt collectors calling my mobile for debts I didn't even know he had when there's meant to be a restraining order in place till further order how long is it before they accidentally give out my information I'm paying off thousands to the benefits people in apparent overpayments from I dont even know when! Council tax thousands I didn't know he had not paid. I'm getting overwhelmed with debt and I can't even find a compassionate solicitor to help me deal with the divorce and child arrangements Biscoes were disgustingly rude to me about legal aid! I'm falling further and further into a rabbit hole I don't remember going down myself .
Hi,
Try citizens advice for help with the debt management. There should be a way of finding out the full debt amount and how much of it falls to your responsibility. You should then be able to set up a debt plan with a scheme that reduces your debt and helps to come to arrangements for the balance.
In terms of the divorce, you can do that yourself without paying for a solicitor, try looking at gov.uk for how to do it. It costs £550 but I think there is a way of billing him as part of the process. In terms of child support and a financial order there should be advice online, I'm not sure if you need a solicitor for the financial order but again, citizens advice might be able to help.
I'm so sorry that you're going through this on top of everything else xxx
Edited to add that it sounds as though your relationship was potentially abusive. There is support for women who leave their abusive relationships, government funding and schemes for women wanting to regain financial control xxx
Try citizens advice for help with the debt management. There should be a way of finding out the full debt amount and how much of it falls to your responsibility. You should then be able to set up a debt plan with a scheme that reduces your debt and helps to come to arrangements for the balance.
In terms of the divorce, you can do that yourself without paying for a solicitor, try looking at gov.uk for how to do it. It costs £550 but I think there is a way of billing him as part of the process. In terms of child support and a financial order there should be advice online, I'm not sure if you need a solicitor for the financial order but again, citizens advice might be able to help.
I'm so sorry that you're going through this on top of everything else xxx
Edited to add that it sounds as though your relationship was potentially abusive. There is support for women who leave their abusive relationships, government funding and schemes for women wanting to regain financial control xxx
Hi
thinking of you in such a stressful situation!
i don't know if this could help a little.
My children and I were in temporary accommodation for around 15 months due to the abusive ex husband. I had to give up my job. He also left me to cope with massive amounts of debt. I got in touch a domestic abuse charity who have their own solicitors and was able to get legal aid. I didn't need to look at an order for the children as I chose to exercise my parental responsibility and not have contact. As all debt was in my name (financial abuse) I actually thought it easier and quicker just to take ownership of it all and get an IVA. In hindsight I think there could have been better options but at the time I just wanted rid of him. He pays nothing for the children, we have a lovely home now and my payments for debt are manageable.
citizens advice is definitely a good option. I imagine you have very good reason for a restraining order, if you talk about that it could open up avenues of help not usually available
thinking of you in such a stressful situation!
i don't know if this could help a little.
My children and I were in temporary accommodation for around 15 months due to the abusive ex husband. I had to give up my job. He also left me to cope with massive amounts of debt. I got in touch a domestic abuse charity who have their own solicitors and was able to get legal aid. I didn't need to look at an order for the children as I chose to exercise my parental responsibility and not have contact. As all debt was in my name (financial abuse) I actually thought it easier and quicker just to take ownership of it all and get an IVA. In hindsight I think there could have been better options but at the time I just wanted rid of him. He pays nothing for the children, we have a lovely home now and my payments for debt are manageable.
citizens advice is definitely a good option. I imagine you have very good reason for a restraining order, if you talk about that it could open up avenues of help not usually available