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Hello,
I'm looking for advice, support, words of wisdom - I'm lost.
I've been with my partner for over a year, he's got a past which I accepted.
I've got kids and went through an SS assessment which came back as no contact, which we have accepted. SS told me to keep my private life separate from my kids, which I have done and would never go against there decision and most importantly never put my children at risk, they come first. SS closed the case as they were satisfied I would protect my children.
My soon to be ex husband has found out about my partner (SS said he didn't need to be told unless there was going to be contact) and is now making my life hell and is no doubt going to try and take my children away from me and say that I'm a bad mother.
Can he do this? Will a court take his side? SS said i have done nothing wrong and courts don't take children away from their parents lightly. I'm still terribly worried though.
Any advice?
Thanks
I'm looking for advice, support, words of wisdom - I'm lost.
I've been with my partner for over a year, he's got a past which I accepted.
I've got kids and went through an SS assessment which came back as no contact, which we have accepted. SS told me to keep my private life separate from my kids, which I have done and would never go against there decision and most importantly never put my children at risk, they come first. SS closed the case as they were satisfied I would protect my children.
My soon to be ex husband has found out about my partner (SS said he didn't need to be told unless there was going to be contact) and is now making my life hell and is no doubt going to try and take my children away from me and say that I'm a bad mother.
Can he do this? Will a court take his side? SS said i have done nothing wrong and courts don't take children away from their parents lightly. I'm still terribly worried though.
Any advice?
Thanks
Hi Lucy
I don't they will find in his favour of you have done they have told you to do, if he's having no contact then there's no risk
Try and stay calm, I'm sure it'll be okay xx
I don't they will find in his favour of you have done they have told you to do, if he's having no contact then there's no risk
Try and stay calm, I'm sure it'll be okay xx
Hi Lucy
I work in Social Care and you have satisfied those assessments and are following advice they have given you they have closed your case. So long as you stick to the no contact request they will have no reason to reopen your case.
I would advice Social Care that your Ex has the information he has and remain transparent with Social Care as he could cause you troubles and stress by making false allegations etc which they would have to follow up.
But other than that the custody of your children would be a Family Law matter and there is no reason a Judge would remove your children from you as you are protecting them the best you can.
Try not to worry and stress about it too much and wait and see what route your Ex takes first. Our minds often make everything worse as we tend to look at worst case scenario don’t we.
Lots of Love Jdx Jdx
I work in Social Care and you have satisfied those assessments and are following advice they have given you they have closed your case. So long as you stick to the no contact request they will have no reason to reopen your case.
I would advice Social Care that your Ex has the information he has and remain transparent with Social Care as he could cause you troubles and stress by making false allegations etc which they would have to follow up.
But other than that the custody of your children would be a Family Law matter and there is no reason a Judge would remove your children from you as you are protecting them the best you can.
Try not to worry and stress about it too much and wait and see what route your Ex takes first. Our minds often make everything worse as we tend to look at worst case scenario don’t we.
Lots of Love Jdx Jdx
Just an update, ex is taking me to court for children and even though SS have closed all cases and have said there is no risk and Cafcass have said there is no reason the children can't live with us both and there are no safeguarding concerns I am absolutely terrified I'm gonna lose my kids.
There decision on who my children live with will soon be in the hands of three strangers. I know my children won't cope solely living with their father. I'm terrified of going to court to have my children taken away when I fully protected them.
I'm praying and hoping for justice and for what's actually best for my children which is to be with their mum.
Any advice would be most welcome. Thanks.
There decision on who my children live with will soon be in the hands of three strangers. I know my children won't cope solely living with their father. I'm terrified of going to court to have my children taken away when I fully protected them.
I'm praying and hoping for justice and for what's actually best for my children which is to be with their mum.
Any advice would be most welcome. Thanks.