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PandaK

Member since
April 2024

3 posts

Posted Mon April 29, 2024 10:43amReport post

I had written a post last night however; I'm not sure what happened to it.
My dad was arrested Thursday for communication. Following a police visit to myself, my daughters school and a social services phone call.. I was told no contact but had already stated before this I wouldn't anyway.
tomorrow I got the call that he had attempted to take his own life by overdose... since then I was sat in ITU waiting and then this morning I was told his heart stopped.
How do I find closure from this??
Will the investigation continue???

K4

Member since
October 2022

611 posts

Posted Mon April 29, 2024 10:49amReport post

I'm sorry for your loss. I'm not sure about the police investigation but the coroner may be able to help with closure

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Penny1980

Member since
April 2024

7 posts

Posted Mon April 29, 2024 11:30amReport post

Sorry for your loss at what must be an incredibly difficult time, you poor love must just be feeling a complete rollercoaster of emotions. I can't help with your question but please remember there are no rules in grief, take care of yourself xx

Inturmoil1974

Member since
November 2022

279 posts

Posted Mon April 29, 2024 11:35amReport post

Pandak my heart is breaking for you ???? my thoughts are with you and yours xxxx

Overwhelmed49

Member since
April 2024

45 posts

Posted Mon April 29, 2024 12:00pmReport post

I couldn't not reply to that heartbreaking post.

I am so so sorry. Be kind to yourself and hug your family tight x I send my love to you and all those you love xx

LittleRobin3

Member since
April 2024

288 posts

Posted Mon April 29, 2024 12:26pmReport post

Hi, I'm so so sorry for your loss. I just don't know what to say. Keep talking here, it might help a bit. X

Alison20

Member since
March 2021

363 posts

Posted Mon April 29, 2024 12:48pmReport post

Dear PandaK

I am so sorry for your loss and the trauma surrounding it. Sending you strength to cope one day at a time.

If you are able to it may be beneficial for you to speak to the Stop it Now helpline, they will be able to support you at this time and also know where to signpost you to get all the help/support you need.

Thinking of you.

PandaK

Member since
April 2024

3 posts

Posted Mon April 29, 2024 3:16pmReport post

Thank you to you all for replying. It's been a very traumatic few days to say the least. First the arrest and repercussions of this on my own little family on Thursday and then to hear he had attempted his life on Friday to him passing Saturday morning.
it's been a complete whirlwind of emotions and I'm still unsure on how to go forward with this.

BaffledB

Member since
July 2021

876 posts

Posted Mon April 29, 2024 4:25pmReport post

I'm so sorry for your loss. Usually they close the case in this scenario which is extremely difficult for the family members as it does seem to hinder the grieving process. What I will say is the whole process, limbo and stigma attached to this crime is beyond comprehension to the point I don't think the choice to take your life is indicative of a person's guilt.

When you feel up to it, it may be an option to write a letter of complaint to the police force and request a formal investigation to ensure that everything they did was above board. Sending love xx

Grapefruit

Member since
August 2023

37 posts

Posted Mon April 29, 2024 5:04pmReport post

I'm so sorry PandaK, this is tragic for you and your family. My sincere condolences.

I cannot begin to imagine what you are going through. Whatever the knock would have uncovered, if anything, he is still your Dad and your loss is tremendous. A lot of our people have made a terrible mistake in getting to this place, very very few have, or ever would, act on it.

Presumably there will be an inquest, you may get some answers then but for now look after yourself and afford yourself the grieving process.

Sending you support and strength X

Upset mum

Member since
June 2020

2403 posts

Posted Tue April 30, 2024 4:21pmReport post

Panda

My deepest condolences to you and your family at this incredibly difficult time , I cannot begin to imagine how hard this is for you all sending strength and hugs to you xx I am so sorry xx

Username0

Member since
February 2024

6 posts

Posted Wed May 1, 2024 3:36amReport post

How awful for you, my thoughts are with you in this difficult time x