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Poppop

Member since
September 2023

70 posts

Posted Fri May 3, 2024 2:42pmReport post

My son his due next week in magistrates court for pre hearing

The solicitors of told him,it will definitely be in press and on social media

He as just email his work and they have told him not to go into further notice

So looks like he be out off a job

My anxiety is so bad

He keeps saying take it day as it comes

Dad005

Member since
March 2024

49 posts

Posted Fri May 3, 2024 2:59pmReport post

Hi,



Sorry you find yourself here.

When my son went to magistrates, nothing was in the media at all. I am surprised that a solicitor would say that.

Ocean

Member since
September 2023

774 posts

Posted Fri May 3, 2024 3:07pmReport post

Oh how I feel for you. I've been where you are and it's so hard. My son lost everything due to his offending, his marriage, home, family life, job etc. His case was also in the media. I've never known such overwhelming anxiety and literally felt all his pain with him. What I will say though is that 7 months later we have adapted to our new way of life. He has his children at weekends and his dad and I provide the supervised contact. He doesn't yet have a job but he's constantly applying for jobs and it's only a matter of time before he gets one.

I now know that the anxiety and fear I felt was worse than the reality of it actually happening. When he actually lost his job we all felt terrible for a few weeks but having no job meant he could get on and complete his community hours quickly and being forced to go out and mix with other people on probation helped improve his confidence. For me seeing him come home from his community hours looking pleased with what he'd achieved helped relieve my anxiety until it eventualy became bearable again.

Poppop

Member since
September 2023

70 posts

Posted Fri May 3, 2024 5:56pmReport post

Dad 005 it would more likely to be on Facebook, as he caught my vilantes

Ocean ,my son also lost his home,job when it first happened, managed to find another one,now losing These one ,friends ,wife and family

May I ask you both, what was yours sons charged with

Due to it streamed allover Facebook

Ocean

Member since
September 2023

774 posts

Posted Fri May 3, 2024 8:25pmReport post

My son had 3 charges regarding communication. He received 2 years suspended sentence, 10 years SHPO and SOR, 300 community hours and a fine.

Dad005

Member since
March 2024

49 posts

Posted Fri May 3, 2024 9:21pmReport post

My son also has 3 charges for the same as Ocean

I have no clue

Member since
April 2024

45 posts

Posted Fri May 3, 2024 9:41pmReport post

Hi

My FM was given a 10 month suspended for 2 years, 10 years SOR and SHPO and rehabilitation for images across all categories and extreme pornography He was told the media would likely be there but when they were not we were relieved. It still made the newspapers and we expected all hell to break loose. We lived close to them and moved not long after. It was a small community and I feared what it would mean for us.
Then 4 months later and not a single thing until my now ex husband, despite being told by police not to say anything, told some of our old neighbours! FM and his wife were driven out of their home.
they are still together and living quietly somewhere much nicer xx