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Can anyone give me some advice about telling my children a bit more about why their dad has gone ?
it's been 7 months and the children are absolutely fine at the moment . They have only been told that their dad is at work until now . They have no contact at all no phone calls nothing ( put into place by social services )
the social worker is pressuring me to tell them more information . They are 9 and 10.
it's been 7 months and the children are absolutely fine at the moment . They have only been told that their dad is at work until now . They have no contact at all no phone calls nothing ( put into place by social services )
the social worker is pressuring me to tell them more information . They are 9 and 10.
Hi,
has the social worker given a reason for giving them more of an explanation? Are you looking to move towards supervised contact? xxx
has the social worker given a reason for giving them more of an explanation? Are you looking to move towards supervised contact? xxx
she basically says that the children need to understand that their dad hasn't just left them . She says they need to know more for their own emotional well being . Also that in future they could resent me for keeping it from them .
I do not agree but I feel like I have no choice and that it's making me look bad to be honest.
there's also a child protection conference coming up and this is one of her main negative points she has brought up .
I do not agree but I feel like I have no choice and that it's making me look bad to be honest.
there's also a child protection conference coming up and this is one of her main negative points she has brought up .
I would explain something along the lines of 'daddy broke the internet safety rules and looked at websites that no one is allowed to look at. He is still your daddy and wishes he could be with you, but because he's done a bad thing he now needs to learn about internet safety until he can come home again. Although he did someone bad, daddy is not a bad person and you are still absolutely free to love and miss him and keep all your happy memories you've made with him. In the future we can make more happy memories once daddy is doing better'.
Did ss offer any guidance when they made the decision to do no contact seven months ago?
I'm not sure if it was you who previously said that you have concerns about telling the children anything regarding dads behaviour being online incase they told anyone. Is anyone aware within your support network? Usually ss want the children to have some sort of understanding of what has happened as this offers an additional layer of protection against any risk posed by the offender.
It concerns me that they want to open the children up to further hurt by having you explain why their dad isn't around without a view to them seeing him again.
I was recently told by a professional when discussing future disclosure to my daughter that it is in her best interests if both myself and my partner tell her together.
If you can't find a solution that you're happy with before the next child protection conference then you could use that opportunity to ask them to signpost or provide some useful materials for disclosing xx
I'm not sure if it was you who previously said that you have concerns about telling the children anything regarding dads behaviour being online incase they told anyone. Is anyone aware within your support network? Usually ss want the children to have some sort of understanding of what has happened as this offers an additional layer of protection against any risk posed by the offender.
It concerns me that they want to open the children up to further hurt by having you explain why their dad isn't around without a view to them seeing him again.
I was recently told by a professional when discussing future disclosure to my daughter that it is in her best interests if both myself and my partner tell her together.
If you can't find a solution that you're happy with before the next child protection conference then you could use that opportunity to ask them to signpost or provide some useful materials for disclosing xx
My child's understanding of indecent images is naked pictures and iioc is naked pictures of anyone under the age of 18.
He knows devices are being checked by police for iioc, and that's why we have wider child protection involvement. Professionals agree this is an age appropriate version of the truth to have in our case.
Hope it helps.
He knows devices are being checked by police for iioc, and that's why we have wider child protection involvement. Professionals agree this is an age appropriate version of the truth to have in our case.
Hope it helps.