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sadso

Member since
December 2023

89 posts

Posted Fri May 3, 2024 6:01pmReport post

hi just thought I would put a little post on with more positivity instead of my panic stricken ones of deep emotion of me drowning ....im seeing better days , my family member is doing OK, everything has died down for now other than the usual person yapping when they are drunk or bored were pretty much building the bridges back up and looking to the positive..we can't change other peopels minds nor should be want or need to and its so much easier to just stop explaining things now and let people live with whatever narrative they have concluded in their head , if people want questions they will be answered and if they don't it will be left at that , I've came off my antidepressants they were a life saver so I'm starting to feel that I can handle life , I definitely suffered with ptsd of the events of what took place but somehow that memory is fading but I know will never leave but on the upside things are looking goof d I just hope my family relative can come out the other end of this mess a better version of himself ...for everyone at the start of this scary hypnotic journey I feel for you but I like all the other folks on here know that feeling and you can come out the other side of it its not easy but it does happen and I wish you all a more relaxed future have a good holiday weekend and look after yourselves xx

Edited Fri May 3, 2024 6:03pm

Smile through tears

Member since
September 2021

2555 posts

Posted Sun May 5, 2024 5:58amReport post

Sadso - your post is so very true. The mind is on overload at the beginning of our journey, a bombshell has dropped and you frantically scramble round trying to pick up the pieces and make sense of it all. It really is a foul time.

But there is light - life definately changes, never goes back to how it was before but in some sort of way you rebuild. It's not plain sailing - shit hits the fan from time to time, triggers can put you back and the pain doesn't magically disappear. But you will see the sunshine and begin to laugh again, you have to accept 'where you are' and make the most of your life as it stands.

As for me the keyword was acceptance - I've made my choices. Many would disagree with my stance, but I am at peace with myself and choosing the path I wanted to take. It perhaps sounds a tad selfish but it shows the importance of looking after yourself mentally. Looking out for everyone is impossible, it could easily distroy you and rip you apart and reach no conclusion in the end.

i will never in a million million years condone what my son has done and I seriously take on board /respect other people's opinions but at the end of the day I matter too...... and never forget that .....

Edited Sun May 5, 2024 9:40am

sadso

Member since
December 2023

89 posts

Posted Mon May 6, 2024 12:26pmReport post

tha k you for your reply smile,



I suppose we never imagine being in this position in life , no one will ever know how we all feel inside until it knocks on their doors and I would not wish it on my worst enemy.. but having things to look forward to in the future is good the thoughts are always there even though we are out the other end we're still living it , 7months after the social media circus , its still raw , I check this site everyday and in some sense it helps me through even though its filled with hurt and pain I think because I know how everyone is feeling it helps and not because I want people feeling hurt but it's the understanding what people are going through makes me feel no alone in the process of healing xx