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Today my dad finally opened up about what was going on and his addiction. I'm super glad that he opened up, but it is so much to handle. One the one side I feel so bad that his addiction led him to such harmful things and the shame that he feels is so heavy, but on the other side it is so much and so heavy and so wrong...
He said that he felt relieved that he finally got the chance to speak his truth on what his addiction became. It made me so sad to see how much pain and shame this stupid addiction causes. Because he keeps on telling me that he is so digusted with himself and that he would never hurt anyone and I believe him.
Eventhough that the story was so heavy and I don't think I will ever erase the extent out of my mind, I decided then and there that he was a human being and that I would support him any step of the way. I keep on asking myself if that is the right thing to do, Am I not a despicable human being etc. But in the end, he is my dad. He did some things that I will never truly will forgive him for, however, what is a world without second chances?
You know, speaking the truth will in the long run amend things. It is the secrecy that kills things. I keep on feeling like some of the burden is relieved, seeing the person behind the offence remains important. He is a person in pain and that is no excuse and he knows that. He is still in denial about some things and that is also okay, he will get there.
I don't even know why I am telling you guys this, it felt important to share. Especially if there are any children here of offenders, I will not tell you what to do. I will never do that. But if you decide to support your dad in any extent, you are valid. Most people will never experience what this is like and will only yell because they don't know anything. People will always yell when they aren't directly affected, but you know, you are affected, so you decide what to do.
On that note, I wish all of you lovely people a good few days. Full of happy moments! :)
He said that he felt relieved that he finally got the chance to speak his truth on what his addiction became. It made me so sad to see how much pain and shame this stupid addiction causes. Because he keeps on telling me that he is so digusted with himself and that he would never hurt anyone and I believe him.
Eventhough that the story was so heavy and I don't think I will ever erase the extent out of my mind, I decided then and there that he was a human being and that I would support him any step of the way. I keep on asking myself if that is the right thing to do, Am I not a despicable human being etc. But in the end, he is my dad. He did some things that I will never truly will forgive him for, however, what is a world without second chances?
You know, speaking the truth will in the long run amend things. It is the secrecy that kills things. I keep on feeling like some of the burden is relieved, seeing the person behind the offence remains important. He is a person in pain and that is no excuse and he knows that. He is still in denial about some things and that is also okay, he will get there.
I don't even know why I am telling you guys this, it felt important to share. Especially if there are any children here of offenders, I will not tell you what to do. I will never do that. But if you decide to support your dad in any extent, you are valid. Most people will never experience what this is like and will only yell because they don't know anything. People will always yell when they aren't directly affected, but you know, you are affected, so you decide what to do.
On that note, I wish all of you lovely people a good few days. Full of happy moments! :)
He is a blessed man to have such a supportive daughter. A poignant and thoughtfully written post x
DAUGHTERLOST, what a wonderful heartfelt post. Your Dad is so blessed to have such an inspiring, caring and loving daughter.
Hi Daughter lost.
Thank you for your post.
I often think, it's a completely different story when it's your family and you know the person.
It's because you know the person and have done for years, you know what they are really like, I support my son. I could never turn my back on my close family members or children, when they need me most, some people have.
Thank you again for post
Take care xx
Thank you for your post.
I often think, it's a completely different story when it's your family and you know the person.
It's because you know the person and have done for years, you know what they are really like, I support my son. I could never turn my back on my close family members or children, when they need me most, some people have.
Thank you again for post
Take care xx