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my knock came 4 weeks ago. Devices where taken. Although my house wasn’t searched. For weeks it’s been hell. Constant fighting with my husband because he says he isn’t aware he has done anything. He’s admitted to talking to women Instagram. But definitely no one underage. Today I decided to call the dc today to find out what I could. He told me that my husband is being investigated because of a complaint that was made. He told me that my husband has had communication with a teenager. He told me that unless something was found on his phone, they where not investigating down loaded images.

My husband is adamant that he has only spoken to women. The dc also informed me that if the girl hasn’t mentioned in the conversations that they may not even take action !

I don’t know what to do !! I’m so confused and upset. And the police have been awful. The dc was discussing the case today. Only when I pointed out that he kept saying the wrong name did he realise he wasn’t even talking about my husband

Thank you. I’m so confused ! Trying to deal with one day at a time but it’s a struggle.

Hi. The police have been awful in some respects. But have told me what they are investigating. A complaint. My husband is adamant that he hasn’t spoken to any children. They just said teenager. They have told me that if he is telling the truth and she hasn’t stated her age, which he says she didn’t, then there will be no further action. I’ve spoken to the helpline and my gp several times. But it’s destroying me. We are trying to take each day at a time. And he is getting help for his issues. But I’m so confused as to what to do. We have been married a long time and I don’t want to give up. But if something is found I have no choice and it’s heart breaking. Every day starts and ends with an argument. He’s convinced he has done nothing wrong. Besides speak to other women. Which is a completely different issue.

Thank you for your response

Hi. They haven’t said an age. I didnt realise the age implications until I’ve researched. One part of me wants to believe him. But on the other hand, the police have been issued a warrant so there must have been something.

He has started a therapy session. And bereavement councilling.

It’s difficult as I don’t know what to expect. As I’ve mentioned the police haven’t been the greatest. They spent 10 minutes the other day discussing why he wasn’t being honest with me as they had told them everything. Only for me to ask questions about some of the situations he was describing. He talked about me and what I had sat and heard him say. I then realised that it wasn’t me he was talking about. He had only been discussing someone else ! Then apologised that he had made a mistake. Every time I speak to the dc, he calls my husband by the wrong name !!!

Hi. Yes I do think he has a porn addictive. But I’ve only just found out. He’s been advised to read some literature by the help line, which he is.

Mum hoping we can come out of the other side of this. Struggling today so much.

Thank you for your reply x

Sorry about the mistakes

addicted to porn. And I’m hoping we can get through this