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Upset mum

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June 2020

2403 posts

Posted Fri May 10, 2024 3:49pmReport post

Afternoon lovlies x

Can I start of by saying another heartbreaking post for the loss of another loved one who could see no way out or that there is help and support, Jojo we are all just so heartbroken for you , my worst fear through all of this like so many of us x this journey!

My week in general has been ok I have managed to do quite a bit in the garden as the weather has been kind

No visit this weekend with HC but had a long call with him yesterday, he was asked by his workshop managers to join them in training the new guys in the metal workshop as he has now passed his exams, for him it means a pay rise from 97p to £1.33 a day but more importantly it goes towards his prison profile for when parole comes up , I am so incredibly proud of just how much he is working on himself, he is also doing well on his degree ;-) x

I have the furbaby this weekend bless her she is 14 and is now completely deaf but still thinks she is a puppy, so a few nice walks avoiding the peak times of the sun x

I hope you all have a lovely weekend ahead x

Love sent as always xx

Overwhelmed49

Member since
April 2024

45 posts

Posted Fri May 10, 2024 6:34pmReport post

Hello everyone xx

Jojos post made me sob. It is my worst fear, and now a reality for her. My heart breaks for her and all others who this has been a reality for xx

My week has been up and down.

Social services did the initial Child in need meeting with us this week. Our social worker (now been handed over to new team) was a beautiful soul, full of love and compassion. A rare find im sure, but she did everything in her power to try to help us in this horrible process.

Unfortunately our youngest sons safeguarding lead was the opposite.. that made me angry, really angry. The people who should be advocates for our children, in my opinion failing them miserably. In my old life, I wouldn't let this lie, but feel too vulnerable to rock the boat right now...

I'm hoping our new social worker will be able to work with us to ensure our children have the stability and support they truly deserve.

This process has made me really evaluate how I speak to people, and I hope it will make me a better person.

But.. the sun is shining, I have plans to pot on my tomatoes in my greenhouse and see some friends to watch Eurovision together this weekend. For the first time this week I am feeling calm

Sending love to you incredibly strong people out there xxx

Ocean

Member since
September 2023

774 posts

Posted Fri May 10, 2024 6:58pmReport post

Good afternoon Friday check.

My heart also goes out to JoJo following her heartbreaking news.

I've just finished a 2 day workshop as part of my ongoing journey of self discovery and felt able to speak openly and honestly about my son and the journey we've been on.

I'm now able to see that it's our story and that it's up to the people I choose to tell how they respond to it. I hope that by telling other people they will begin to see that these types of offences are not black and white and that they do not define the people behind them.

I'm planning to spend some time this weekend sitting in the sun with a book and some music and maybe visiting a car boot sale.

Upset, I'm so pleased to hear how well your son is doing, what an achievement to pass his exams and to be asked to help train others.
Overwhelmed, It's good to know that you are feeling calm. It's one of the feelings I always used to take for granted but now appreciate and love.

Upset mum

Member since
June 2020

2403 posts

Posted Fri May 10, 2024 7:33pmReport post

Ocean x

You are truly flourishing in your own wellbeing and that is just incredibly inspiring to us all x

I have said before my son would barely talk let alone open up and speak about what was going on but I totally understand now why he couldn't (it's so sad it took for this to happen) but I dont look back only forward and now I am just so proud of him in how we talk in detail about his offending, his emotions, where he is in his mindset, so I can resonate with you on your journey with your son, xx

Upset mum

Member since
June 2020

2403 posts

Posted Fri May 10, 2024 7:41pmReport post

Over x

I cannot imagine how difficult this is for you having younger children to navigate on this journey, you are incredibly strong and inspiring, as are all you amazing mums here x

You have every right to be angry as how can these individuals that are there to support be so bloomin judgemental, they dont walk in your shoes!

Sending hugs xx

Enjoy the sunshine, and of course the Eurovision, hope you are having a glass or 2 also x

Edited Fri May 10, 2024 7:42pm

Smile through tears

Member since
September 2021

2555 posts

Posted Fri May 10, 2024 11:38pmReport post

My thoughts have been with JoJo too, it's so sad men are driven to take their life and the ripple of devastation goes far and wide when it happens. I send her and her family much love., so very heartbreaking ....x

ive felt a little down this week, a little lonely infact as we sometimes get on this journey. I'm determined to make a fresh start next week and do something about it..... hoping to meet up with a pal for starters.

Well done HC and he well deserves a mum that's proud. Yes, my son is in prison too, but I'm proud of how far he's come and how he's coped with his situation much like my dear friend Upset.

so take care all my lovely pals on here xxxxx each and everyone of you deserve a medal!!!!