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My oh got caught out/ reported in lockdown the knock came 2021

The OH's solicitor was interesting on this when I spoke to him a few months ago. He said that while numbers soared during Covid, everyone expected them to fall back again once life returned to normal, but they've kept rising further with no end in sight. I'd love to understand it more. Police might have got better at picking people up, but I doubt they got THAT much better.

Hi,

my partners communication took place in April/May 2020.
I think covid had such a massive impact on society as a whole and we've not yet returned to normal in my opinion. I see it all the time throughout day to day life, nobody has time for anyone else and seem solely focused on themselves. This strange dynamic of a broken society coupled with the seemingly anonymous nature of the internet will have created its own pandemic of these crimes xxx

Yes my husbands offence was over a two week period during the pandemic. Communication with a police decoy in a gaming chat room. Adult chat no images. He had worked throughout the whole Pandemic period in his then role and taken additional responsibilities for setting up infection control systems. His stupid choice has destroyed his career and it breaks my heart. I'd be interested to know the levels of police decoy cases during the period. I don't condone the choices our people made however people make uncharacteristic choices at times of incredible stress.

It was during the Covid 2020 when my person accessed materials and I think if that interest was there already it was maybe boredom that could of sparked it off during the Covid he was working away right through the pandemic as as key worker and alone a lot in hotel rooms no excuse though but the officer in charge said there had been a pandemic of cases over the Covid period.

A lot of people experienced mental health crisis during the pandemic which would have increased the number of those who offended due to MH issues and addictions.

My husband said his addiction got worse during the lockdowns... but he carried on afterwards and used Covid as an excuse to keep me "safe" at home while he went to our business so he could carry on looking at images and doing other indecent things.

It has since come to light that he was looking at images all the way back in the early days of our relationship 15-20 years ago, probably even before that too.

He's clearly a prolific and well-established liar.

My husband told me he rarely saw indecent images before Covid on Kik.

He said during the pandemic the groups he was in were literally flooded with these kind of images.

My sons offending took place whilst he was working at home due to covid.

Covid Convict is a term I've heard used on a general discussion about offences committed during covid. It was a surreal time. The checks and balances of normal day to day life and interactions weren't there.

My partners office was also committed in lock down and I think it had a part to play.

My person says he actually indulged his addiction far less during lockdown as we were all trapped together at home so he didn't have a moment to himself. Time to himself is his downfall sadly.

My OH started offending during lockdown. He worked throughout at home,. Though nothing was ever found on his work computer, only his phone.

My OH's offence was during lockdown.

I don't believe that there are more p-word's than there used to be. I think that this stuff has become so available on regular apps that a lot of folk do just end up on this journey.

It's been said so many times but the problem needs to be tackled further up or it's never going to stop. Going after people that have been on an app that is flooded with child abuse is not manageable in the long term.

I supervised my kids for almost 2 years around their dad because of this and as soon as he was sentenced the restriction was lifted because of the circumstances of his crime!

Hi Smile,

I hope all's okay with you and yours. We are doing okay considering.

Our person received the knock in the midst of COVID. I think the lockdowns had such a negative impact on a lot more people than we would like to think, with isolation etc. Repercussions are obviously still being felt.

Have a lovely weekend and hopefully speak soon.

xxx

We were blaming covid times for our son turning to ii... alone in the house whilst everyone else was at work or school (key workers/children of key workers)

I'm not so sure now, what with him having been rearranged and now on remand for breaking his SHPO literally days after being sentenced for original offence...

Actually our son has told us that during covid he rarely looked at anything. We think, although certainly not excusing him, (and endorsed by his therapist) that his turning to IIOC was started because of stress, powerlessness and loneliness about his ex's mental health conditions which he kept secret so carried on his shoulders for many years but was halted when she had little contact with others (it was to do with paranoia and allegations about members of the public which just wasn't possible during lockdown as she wasn't engaging with other people). Who knows if he would have gone down that hole anyway but it's there in the mix for us.

But I can totally see why covid would be responsible (although not condoned as we all have choice) at such a stressful time. It has a lot to answer for!!

My person's slippery slope into online chat rooms and legal porn seems to have started after Covid. The crossing the line into online offending (and knock) happening shortly after mental health issues fairly recently. I'm not excusing what he's done but it there does seem to be a very obvious pattern/path that he's gone down.