Well, it's definitely a whirlwind
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I guess I'm in need of venting...
We've finally made some progress, which honestly at this point is a miracle.
Two and a half years since "the knock", though it was less of a knock and more of a tyrade. Anyway, today was his plead hearing, he plead guilty as he has since day one. He was in court 8 minutes, (i know because he texted me before and after) 5 of which was apparently spent with the judge asking the police what's taken so long. And we FINALLY had our LFF assessments funded and completed last week, which is an absolute miracle that's taken literally years of disagreements with social services. They stated that they have no concerns that he is a risk or sexual harm to our children, though that we are both obviously very in need of some therapy, (no sh*t we are!), and that we should set up some software so i can monitor his devices and do the prevent courses. I have already signed up for mine and we are trying to save up for his. Do you know if social services have to listen to the recomendations of LFF or can they just ignore it, nothing would surprise me honestly? Honestly "childrens services" made this whole thing 500x harder on me and my kids. We have lost our home, they've lost their secure family. And I have lost my best friend, and teammate. He may finally be able to have them unsupervised again, so long as they dont change the social worker again, we've had 15 so far! Yes, 15! Two of which have literally lied, and several of which we only evber saw a handful of times with 0 explaination. And i've not had a single moment off of having my kids since 6 Jan 2022. I'm exhausted. My youngest turns 1 on Saturday.
I have had to disclose it all to university as I'm doing a course that may one day mean I work with children, at the demand of childrens services. I guess that's not an issue just another thing in the pot at this point. Social worker basically bullied me telling me i will never be able to work with children and to "give up on your dreams". LFF lady seems ton think this isnt the case and that there are laws to protect me, we'll see I guess.
I guess it's a case of waiting now until the LFF report comes back, and for crown court sentencing. No doubt that will get delayed though, everthing else seems to!
Sidenote: does anyone know how I go about making a complaint aginst childrens sevrices? I've asked them for the complaints procedure time and time again but it's never surfaced (shocker!).
We've finally made some progress, which honestly at this point is a miracle.
Two and a half years since "the knock", though it was less of a knock and more of a tyrade. Anyway, today was his plead hearing, he plead guilty as he has since day one. He was in court 8 minutes, (i know because he texted me before and after) 5 of which was apparently spent with the judge asking the police what's taken so long. And we FINALLY had our LFF assessments funded and completed last week, which is an absolute miracle that's taken literally years of disagreements with social services. They stated that they have no concerns that he is a risk or sexual harm to our children, though that we are both obviously very in need of some therapy, (no sh*t we are!), and that we should set up some software so i can monitor his devices and do the prevent courses. I have already signed up for mine and we are trying to save up for his. Do you know if social services have to listen to the recomendations of LFF or can they just ignore it, nothing would surprise me honestly? Honestly "childrens services" made this whole thing 500x harder on me and my kids. We have lost our home, they've lost their secure family. And I have lost my best friend, and teammate. He may finally be able to have them unsupervised again, so long as they dont change the social worker again, we've had 15 so far! Yes, 15! Two of which have literally lied, and several of which we only evber saw a handful of times with 0 explaination. And i've not had a single moment off of having my kids since 6 Jan 2022. I'm exhausted. My youngest turns 1 on Saturday.
I have had to disclose it all to university as I'm doing a course that may one day mean I work with children, at the demand of childrens services. I guess that's not an issue just another thing in the pot at this point. Social worker basically bullied me telling me i will never be able to work with children and to "give up on your dreams". LFF lady seems ton think this isnt the case and that there are laws to protect me, we'll see I guess.
I guess it's a case of waiting now until the LFF report comes back, and for crown court sentencing. No doubt that will get delayed though, everthing else seems to!
Sidenote: does anyone know how I go about making a complaint aginst childrens sevrices? I've asked them for the complaints procedure time and time again but it's never surfaced (shocker!).
Hi, by all means vent away!
I have to agree with you that social services make this challenging time way harder than it needs to be, I get they're doing their job but some of the stuff I've personally had said to me was either bullying, manipulative or completely unprofessional. I've recently completed the LFF course myself, told my social worker and she completely bypassed it to ask what I was planning for the future, i.e. when am I leaving my OH, all of my SWs have pressured me to do since day one.
as for making a complaint, while I don't know exactly how to as I haven't got there- yet, but I definetly will be. From what I've been told you have to go through your local council/borough and there might be something on there about children's services and how to make a complaint x
I have to agree with you that social services make this challenging time way harder than it needs to be, I get they're doing their job but some of the stuff I've personally had said to me was either bullying, manipulative or completely unprofessional. I've recently completed the LFF course myself, told my social worker and she completely bypassed it to ask what I was planning for the future, i.e. when am I leaving my OH, all of my SWs have pressured me to do since day one.
as for making a complaint, while I don't know exactly how to as I haven't got there- yet, but I definetly will be. From what I've been told you have to go through your local council/borough and there might be something on there about children's services and how to make a complaint x
From what I remember you can ring the main number for your area and ask for the information they have on you and the children you can them make a formal complaint to their manager. Hope that helps x
Thankyou both, they absolutely have a job to do and I want nothing more than for them to do it.
Hopefully time will tell.
Hopefully time will tell.
Hi Lonelymum,
There might be some helpful info about how to complain here
https://frg.org.uk/get-help-and-advice/what/complaints/
There might be some helpful info about how to complain here
https://frg.org.uk/get-help-and-advice/what/complaints/