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This is going to be just a general rant but I feel like I'm running out of steam to go on.

It feels like every obstacle after the knock is just too far.

Most recently my eldest has been bullied by school by being isolated from the group. I've been in somewhat regular contact with the teacher about this over the past couple of months. The bully has also been talking behind her back and sending nasty messages to others about her online.

The latest was that the bully started a story that there is a video of my daughter online in her bra. There isn't. She made it up. The school agreed to look into it and did. I then got a message from the bully's mom saying she didn't understand what was going on and what does her kid have to do with it. I told her that her kid has been bullying mine and sent some screenshots that had been forwarded to me. They recognized who (child 3) had sent the screen shots and contacted her mother. Somehow they got the mother to agree that child 3 was the bully for forwarding those messages and the bully is the victim here.

Rang the teacher again. He told me he doesn't care. He's not interested. That my daughter was never bullied and isolating isn't bullying and only happened twice. My daughter also heard this. He was really nasty to me on the phone, huffing and puffing and talking down to me. I spoke to the head the next day and she told me the teacher denies saying bullying never happened and basically that he was professional on the call.

And I'm just tired. I don't have the energy to fight these people anymore. They talk like politicians taking no responsibility for what they say or do. They say one thing today, deny it tomorrow.

So I had a meeting with the school today. The teacher refused to greet me or look at me. Every time I spoke, he was huffing and puffing. The meeting was attended by the head, teacher, counselor, TA and myself.

The school doesn't seem to think the rumour of bra-video is very serious, especially with the kids being 11. Am I crazy to think it's awful? Am I overreacting?

The plan is that for now on I will talk through the counselor so the teacher is better able to do his job (...). They also said that I am probably taking this too emotional and that's why I am misinterpreting the situation.

Am I a bad mom? Have I made things worse for my child?

I've considered moving schools and have suggested to my daughter but she's adamant she wants to stay. The thing is, she'll have the same teacher next year and I don't trust him to look after my child's wellbeing at all.